Why I Stopped Using Facebook

Facebook used to be great

Facebook is a great way to stay in touch with your family and friends across the globe. I have used Facebook, and had a good time doing so. I was able to get in touch with some friends I haven’t seen or heard from in years.

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Facebook became very popular. It seemed like everyone and their brother had a Facebook account.

I noticed that certain places online request you to log on using Facebook. Since Facebook is so popular, I guess this is an okay feature IF YOU choose that option.

Things Went too far with Facebook

 

It got worse than that. I was writing articles on a certain site, and they tried to force me to “log in using Facebook.” There was no other way around it. I had to use my Facebook account, and not my user name and password to get in. I decided then, not to use my account and disable my Facebook. Not only would have friends and family have been able to see what I was writing online, but a whole world of strangers.

I have a pen name, like everyone else does, for a reason. Who’s business is it if I write about the best KY jelly? It isn’t my mothers, brothers, aunts or uncles business, that’s for sure.

I really did enjoy Facebook, up until that point

Facebook is something I used to communicate with friends and family. I do not want them knowing I write online, or even knowing what I write about. If I did want them to know, I would have told them. I was irritated, because I really did enjoy Facebook, up until that point.

I have noticed a growing number of other sites that offers you a choice to log in with Facebook. Why is Facebook everywhere you need to sign in? In my personal opinion, it is getting annoying.

If facebook wasn’t trying to butt into everything, I would still be using it. I am writing this to vent my frustrations. I do not believe I am the only person feeling this way.

“Sara Likes…”

I did not want them in my email, I did not want to be forced to hit the “like” button on anything to get a good deal (for the whole world to see what I purchased). That would have been grand, “Sara Likes…” when talking about Tampax. Yes, that would have went over real well for all of the family to see, I am sure.

If I have something I want to share with someone, I will share it. However, I do not want to get forced to share anything. I will never sign into an account using Facebook. I will not show my identity to a stranger, and I will not show my family and friends what I am writing about (it is better suited for an audience that is interested in the topic anyway). I do believe I should have a little privacy If Facebook wasn’t so nosey, I think I would still be using it. It is a great way to communicate, and a great way to get in touch with others. The games they offered were addicting too.

However, enough was enough when I could not access one of my accounts without signing into Facebook first.

I am looking forward to a new type of Facebook

 

What do we have email accounts for? It looks like Facebook is trying to replace email accounts. If that happens, I am sure the market will take advantage of this to the fullest. Can you imagine? What would be plastered on my wall for everyone to see? “Sara likes Tampax!!” How tacky would that be? I deserve privacy.

I am looking forward to a new type of Facebook. Something that lets you keep your personal business to yourself.

I am wondering what the next social networking site is going to be.

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SubRon7 profile image

SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

Some good thoughts, Sarclair. I too have been wondering about all those facebook login places, and haven't ever done it. Like they (Facebook) are trying to take over the world. Unfortunately many, many, people are already talking about email disappearing, just like land phonelines and our postal mail services. We probably won't miss them till we absolutely do not have them.


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sarclair 5 years ago Author

You always seem to say great things. Thank you SubRon.


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SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

Thank "you", Sarclair, but me thinks you give me way too much credit, but, regardless, it is much appreciated.


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MysteryPlanet 5 years ago

Yes! I do agree with a lot of this Facebook is getting more invasive all the time and I do not trust them at all as it seems obvious that they are collecting personal data on everyone.

I do use Facebook and just today I saw a discussion someone was having about all the people who share very sensitive and personal info right on their facebook page. Why do people feel the need to report everything they are doing and where they are going and whose house they are at or where they are eating dinner and on and on and on.....?

Ridiculous and not very wise to say the least. AND why are all these little kids on facebook? I know of people who have their preteen children all with their own separate facebook accounts.... no way I would allow that with my kids.


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sarclair 5 years ago Author

I am glad I am not the only person that is starting to see facebook as invasive.

I do not think kids should be on that site either.


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SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

Not just preteen. I know of one lady who allows her

4-5yr-old daughter to have an account. It appears to be very private, yet "I" know it's there (at least her face is blanked out, yet that gives a clue of her innocence), and so does anyone else surfing around. And this is an intelligent woman. I wonder how many people know how easy it is to click around and travel far, far, into the lives of complete strangers.


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sarclair 5 years ago Author

What does a five year old do on facebook?

I am going to take an educational guess that the mother gets on facebook with her daughter.


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SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

I'm sure mother does get on with daughter, but it remains that the child is there, her age and name is there, and mother, who I'm "friends" with has dozens of photos online, and several hundred "other" friends. And all those friends have friends of friends, so how many thousand actually have access? As I said, the child's face is blanked out, but with a few clicks I can take her name and age and soon find her photo, and then an address, etc. Sarclair, you sound like an intelligent woman, so I'm sure you are aware of the almost unbelieveable amount of "perverts" there are in cyberworld. I haven't ran into any personally, that I'm aware of, but then I'm also not looking for them. Yes, I'm being critical, but if I ever criticized this woman directly I would be "unfriended" immediately. Appreciate your comments.


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sarclair 5 years ago Author

I agree with you, a child should not be exposed to certain places online. They are being exposed to a whole new world of strangers. My son, who just turned into a teenager got a computer from me for Christmas.

My ex-mother in-law decided to give him an email account, with an online profile that exposed his name, age, and location. I found out about it, and was furious. I asked him for his password (yes it is okay to be nosey when it comes to your children),and got into his account to discover he was playing a game online. He apparently played the game when he went to his grandmother’s house every other week end.

Upon further observation, I found out he was communicating with a grown man, about the game. Me and my son had a long talk, and I now look into his every move online. I do not care how old he gets. Furthermore, I was very furious at the grandmother for setting that up for him, without asking or even mentioning it to me. Can I even call that ignorance? Was it just our-right defiance?

People need to think before they plaster their information online, better yet, a child’s.

I do not think that a child has business on facebook. It is strange that a child can be protected from t.v. (which is fine), but be exposed to places like facebook. It does seem like a contradiction to me.

When I was five, I was going fishing with my dad, and watching the Smurfs on television. I do not know where technology is going to take the up-coming generations. What ever happened to being a child?


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SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

I remember too, at five, being out with my dad, and I agree, some children--too "many" children--can just forget about having a childhood. I had an unforgettable, wonderful, childhood, with two great parents. My childhood was so good that I sometimes even feel guilty....


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sarclair 5 years ago Author

You should not feel guilty about a good childhood SubRon.


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SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

Thank you!


George Katkowski 5 years ago

Why I deleted my FB account

These are my personal opinions having been a keen poster on FB for 3 months. Initially I enjoyed it, especially building up my profile, selecting photos and video clips and communicating with a circle of FB ‘friends.’

After a short while I became disillusioned that much on FB was uninspiring and uninteresting, FB seemed to draw people to a lowest common denominator with superficiality and banality often being the norm. I noticed interesting, thought provoking or inspiring articles often went without comment while trivial ones would get a lot of attention. Posters seemed to be grandstanding to show how ‘cool’ they were by making outrageous comments but did not want to bother to invest intellectually if a topic required some thought.

I became used to seeing mundane content and wondered why I should care if a ‘friend’ was on a bus or in a coffee shop or had only two hours to go until they finish work? I would not have expected anyone to be interested if I made such posts about my day.

I came to realise the FB business agenda was about gathering data to sell, and not about FB’s users. It is a very large business, not a social service to bring people together.

FB is ubiquitous and intrusive and I developed concerns about both privacy and security. I felt there was a risk of being lured by scams and was also invited into questionable games. Ultimately I was fearful that if I made a mistake I would lose control of my FB profile, my computer or of my finances.

The more I read up the more I formed the opinion that Mark Zuckerberg appeared not to be the sort of person I would either like or trust.

I found FB language most irritating. I did not have 48 ‘friends’ any more than some people have several hundred or even thousand. ‘Like’ was also used in a limited sense, once I wanted to signal I agreed or approved of a comment about a fatal road accident, posing the question should I ‘like’ it? Someone once ‘liked’ my comment about a genocide and quickly qualified the comment. And as for ‘poke’ – how annoying!

The layout, colours etc. are in my opinion about as boring as Mark Zuckerberg’s grey hoodie.

To me the comments looked undifferentiated unless people chose to place an eye-catching picture with their posts. By contrast, in a room full of friends and acquaintances I would probably be mutually drawn to those I am closer to emotionally or socially, or was interested in getting to know. They would look bigger or brighter or more attractive in the room. On FB everything looks the same in a flat, two dimensional world.

I realised it is far harder to deactivate or delete my account than to start one up. On first deactivating my account there was the emotional blackmail of seeing messages that certain friends would miss me. I believe even after permanent deletion, FB will hold onto some data ‘for technical reasons,’ which arouses my suspicions.

I instinctively distrust anything this big and powerful. Remember the remark "Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely” (Lord Acton, English historian, politician, and writer)? I believe the same could apply to FB, which has quickly become a truly enormous and powerful company.


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sarclair 4 years ago Author

Thank you for your detailed comment.


Violet 3 years ago

SubRon7, I agree with a lot of what you have said. I'm 14 and I am seriously considering deleting my Facebook account. I just feel as though it is pointless. All I do is get addicted to reading hundreds of pointless posts in my News Feed and my Friends are barely ever online, and even if they are we don't typically talk. One Friend I have complains of their Friends not wanting to talk to heron Facebook, yet when I talk to her she doesn't put much effort into the conversation or leaves without saying goodbye.

So really, Facebook is pretty much useless for me. I think I'd be much happier reading up on facts about seals or stories on Cracked.com, if I'm gonna be online. And I don't like it how on commercials the companies ask you to Like them on Facebook. You even get that stuff on cans of soup! "Like us on Facebook!" I mean come on, why would I want to Like a can of soup? A little bit silly. I really think Facebook is trying to take over out lives by doing stuff like that. So I think I'll delete my account.

Also, who wants to read about what your friends ate for dinner or when they went to the toilet in the middle of the night and their mother thought there was a burglar in the house? Not something you need to know, heh.

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