Are French Men More Romantic?

The Embrace

"The famous French embrace"
"The famous French embrace"

Rendezvous in Paris

I was so excited upon exiting baggage claim to meet my Parisian friend that I forgot I had just waited almost 45 minutes for my luggage to show up on the belt. My seatmate had been a young Parisian man coming home to visit his family. He waited with me the entire time to make sure my luggage arrived at Charles de Gaulle International Airport. He had given me great advice concerning proper French etiquette on the flight across the Atlantic. He didn't even have to say the words, I could already tell that French men are more romantic.

We both lost each other in the sea of people as we searched the faces for our loved ones waiting patiently. I was looking and then I heard my name called and there he was, my lovely French man smiling and waving at me. There was absolutely nothing casual about our greeting. It was the famous, passionate embrace that you can see in the photo above, and can only hope that happens to you at least once in your lifetime! A very nice, romantic greeting, indeed.

THE ACCENT

There's something irresistible about a French man saying your name and speaking in this most beautiful accent, and I have to say, it is mesmerizing, almost like a drug. On the way to his home outside of Paris, we were driving and he kept holding my hand and rubbing my fingers delicately, and he would look at me and simply speak words and I felt like I was in some fantasy world.

Was I really hearing this beautiful voice? It didn't even matter what he was saying. Over and over, he would say, "you look gorgeous, darling." Yes, keep talking, just let me hear your voice. There were times during my stay that he would speak in French and I could only nod and look into his face to understand what he was saying. My high school conversational French did not pick up the fluency of romantic utterances whispered in my ear.

The Garden

the Italian marble table
the Italian marble table | Source

Breakfast in the Garden~ Brunch, Actually

We had breakfast in his beautiful garden surrounded by beautiful trees and sitting at his Italian marble table with wrought iron chairs. He set the table perfectly with two gorgeous plates, the goblet of juice, beautiful silverware, napkins, jam, toasted fresh bread, real butter with a butter knife, a bowl of fresh fruit and coffee served in beautiful cups and saucers. It was casual and yet elegant. I felt like a princess.

There is something so romantic about how a man sets a table (or even that a man DOES set the table!) and the attention to details that tells a woman he cares about her. I felt this from him and it was very sweet and very romantic. The French man does not overlook the details when courting a woman.

Holding Hands~

As this was my first trip to Paris, he was very excited to show me everything. We walked and drove all through the city, out to Versailles where we sat at a cafe across from the Palace, which was being renovated at the time. We drove through parks that were like forests. I felt like I was in a fairytale. Always we were holding hands ,and so many times, he would stop walking and embrace me and tell me over and over again, "you're lovely, darling." Yes, it works, it's quite a heady experience and it IS an 11 on a romance scale from 1-10. We held hands walking along the Seine, through the markets, restaurants, sidewalks, cobblestone (very hard in heels!!) streets of Bastille and Montmartre, everywhere we went.

It's the simple pleasure of feeling connected to the other person, feeling their warmth and closeness in your hands, the love flowing through your fingertips. I don't ever remember feeling rushed or in a hurry. We took our time to enjoy the pleasure of being together, wherever we were, observing and taking in everything around us, but never forgetting each other. Parisian love is never quenched, the fire is always lit, roaring with snaps, crackles, pops, or smoldering white hot in the embers.

Parisian Charm

The French man has this charming way of making you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. And that must be a very significant reason why we are attracted to them. It is a charm, an allure that is quite seductive. Conversation is centered around both of your interests, arts, current affairs, not discussing past affairs or family problems. How many of us have been turned off when a date or partner begins complaining or does not focus his/her attention on the present moment?

Paris itself is hypnotic. The city has a romance, a light, a love that is in the air. To be in love in Paris is a story in itself reserved for those who are fortunate enough to share this experience, or watch a movie and imagine yourself there! Romance is an attitude, a manner of life, a way of expressing who we are. Anyone, anywhere can be romantic if proper attention is taken and putting forth a little extra effort to create that ambiance of romance and love, and, the accent is a very nice bonus!


Flowers Are the Language of Love

the charm of fragrant flowers
the charm of fragrant flowers | Source

Romantic Conclusions

  • Smile and show delight in seeing your partner.

  • Compliment your partner with words.

  • Know how to properly set a table and do it.

  • Don't forget flowers and candles or special details to show you care.

  • Hold hands, look at your partner's face, show affection, embrace your partner.

  • Keep conversations focused on both interests, current affairs, NOT people or problems.

  • Make your partner feel important by listening, asking relevant questions to the conversation.

  • Romance is an art, learn it and allow it to be part of who you are, your lifestyle.

  • Enjoy lots of kisses.

  • If you don't have the French accent, that's o.k., but it's nice~~~

So, are the French men more romantic??? Well, maybe it's just a matter of who we're with and how we feel about each other. Oui?


Edit Piaf ~ Sous le ciel de Paris

Get Frenched Now!

Entre Nous: A Woman's Guide To Finding Her Inner French Girl
Entre Nous: A Woman's Guide To Finding Her Inner French Girl

I read this soon after my visit to Paris. A delightful, fun read to discover your inner French chic.

 

Comments 30 comments

ralwus 7 years ago

American women are like sill doves. Well, I can't blame you, the French women do the same for me. hehe But I am an old sort of romantic.


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stricktlydating 7 years ago from Australia

Beautiful Hub, its wonderful the French are keeping romance alive!


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Pearldiver 7 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

C'est l'guerre mon cherie! French women are also passionate about being in love. How sad it is that such openess is not a priority to so many non Parisians. Good hub. Thank you for reminding me RebekahELLE; how much I love the accent.


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rebekahELLE 7 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you all for the nice comments. yes, the accent and the romance are hard to find in America!! I think the relationship spoiled me! PD, just love your avatar!


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Paddycat 7 years ago

What a lovely article. The French culture of romance is wonderful. You described it beautifully. And I agree, the French accent is very attractive. In addition, I think the quality and tone of a man's voice is most important, no matter what the accent. He may tick all the boxes in other respects, but if the sound that comes out of his mouth grates, it just doesn't work for me.


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rebekahELLE 7 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

I do think that is so true. That would make an interesting hub article, why we as humans are so affected by someones voice. Thank you for commenting and I look forward to hearing some of your French stories as well!


HealthTip 7 years ago

Listen to the Irish accent being whispered in your ear and you will soon forget the French ; )


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rebekahELLE 7 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

lol, yes, the Irish are great fun. I had a few Irish friends in college and what a riot. I loved their accents, everything ends in a ? "I rally luv your dog?" there's a few accents that will do it for me. :)


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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

france is an awesome country, men, women, food, the countryside....been there only once and I want to come back again if I have resources... i like this hub of yours..


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starme77 7 years ago

My father in law was french and - yep quite the romantic, my mother in law kept the cards he would bring her there were hundreds and hundreds of them over the course of their marriage. Some for holidays of course , but th emajority of them were just to let her know how much he loved her. Great Hubb!


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donna bamford 6 years ago from Canada

What a lucky girl you are. What a beautiful experience! Takes me too to when i was 19 - stars in my eyes. But i still see Paris and french men that way too. Thanks for the hub. Merry Christmas!


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tarkishat 6 years ago

You made me want to take a trip to Paris. Really nice hub!


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marieryan 6 years ago from Andalusia, Spain

I too fell in love with Paris when I was there about ten years ago...still dream about moving to Paris, finding a job there...learning the language...integrating...meeting...

Thanks for an interesting article!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

marieryan, so do I. who knows, maybe we'll end up there someday. thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

thanks ladies for coming by and sharing some parisian love and desire. tarkishat, hope you get there too!


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susanlang 6 years ago

I think Paris is the center of much love around the world. But in the end only each of us know who we love and why.


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

very true susan. love happens when and where it's supposed to happen. the heart must be ready. thanks for sharing.


French girl 6 years ago

hey RebekahELLE,

It's glad to see you love Paris. :)

It's not only men who are like this... I'm a woman and I spoil the man I love and dated with presents and attentions. He's also an Anglo-saxon (English). Right now, I want to send him MnMs with written on them "I think of U..." and I'm preparing a trip to Spain, just him and me. But he doesn't know it yet! :p

When a Parisien is in love, he prepares his surprises sometimes month before he/she give them. Love is more than an art, it's what makes you alive so, it has to grow like a flower. You have to take care of it, make sure it grows well... It's a real work, actually, and a real pleasure too.

I think it's part of our culture. See, this commercial ;).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyv55_RMpcg


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

hello readers, just thought I would acknowledge Terrance from his fabulous website, www.paris-expat.com for sending me a nice thank you message for including his conversation with Edith Kunz found underneath the movies above. I've been a subscriber to his email newsletter for a while and I always enjoy reading through his interviews. I was very pleasantly surprised to open my email today and find his delightful message. Thank you Terrance. Actually, I think I have another link of yours somewhere in one of my Paris hubs, The Parisian Women Are Almost Effortlessly Chic, the link, What French Women Know. ;)


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

thank you French Girl! sorry I did not respond earlier! It's very nice to read your comment and I appreciate your French Girl input! There is a certain, 'je ne sais quois'

that I noticed in Paris and within the French culture, it's very lovely. Enjoy!


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theindianblues 6 years ago from Some where on the Globe

France is emotionally very rich - I can say in that way leaving all the other thoughts. I observed as they maintain very rich relations as humans with each other. As a non local I felt the warmth and togetherness which may not be that much with any other EU countries. BTW, nice topic and narration and it took me to my childhood days that I spent with in a French family kingdom. Thank you rebekahELLE for this nice work.


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Cagsil 5 years ago from USA or America

Hey Rebekah, I came across this hub, when I checked out your profile. Since I am French(full-blooded, both sides of my family), I was curious to see what you wrote about a French man. It was a very cool and enjoyable hub to read. I have a preference(more like an inner side) of being romantic, when it comes to ladies. It makes no difference whether or not I know them as a person. I always go out of my way to show them that particular side of myself, because to me it is important. Great Hub! Thumbs Up! :)


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rebekahELLE 5 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

Hi Cags, A French man, oui? Thanks for reading and I'm glad you found it enjoyable. I found the French men, at least this one I met, to be very cultured. I'm sure part of it is the way they are raised. I think any man has appeal when he is respectful. It's good to see that some men do feel romance is important, because it is to most women. :)


Thanatos 4 years ago

Bonsoir !!!!

It makes me happy that women all over the world like our accent !!! :)

Generally I don't dare to talk in English, because I got an "awful" accent (in my mind it's ridiculous because it's too cliché).

But maybe I shouldn't... :)

Merci beaucoup pour avoir éclairé ma lanterne !

Thank you ladies !!! Every woman on Earth deserves to be loved !!! Mille baisers à toutes !!!!

Than


katrinaf 4 years ago from Australia

Thanks Rebekah. Was lovely to read your article. Been to Paris lately and Indeed your right :)... Their's something about french guys that you can't seem to describe. It's like they navigate some sensual thing in them that is hard to explain :)... something so passionate...that u can only feel when your there and when you're with them... I know one such french guy and you're right, they listen and their's always time for a good conversation... plus lots of sensual kisses... shall i say :)... Merci...


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sweetie2 3 years ago from Delhi

Beautiful romantic hub.. Even though French men may be romantic but I feel Indian guys are more romantic.


Sneha 3 years ago

Beautiful post, although Paris is definitely not that romantic. It's the most crowded and rude city ever! (though I do have fun there). Also, in France the hookup culture is as bad as it is in the UK, especially London. People in France, especially Paris, don't really "date" anymore, they just hook up. And even if you go on a rare, old-fashioned date, it's expected that you'll go to bed with him and he won't think any less of you.

It's a little sad to see how the world is changing...I like an old-fashioned courtship!


Princess Alvina 2 years ago

Dear RebekahELLE,

I am a NEW user on Hubpages. I read this page of yours and enjoyed in sooo much. I wish to write something like this, to tell my experience with a Frenchman


kiran 2 years ago

Where the hell is, be yourself? when you say to have french accent.


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rebekahELLE 2 years ago from Tampa Bay Author

I would totally agree that 'be yourself' is what matters most. A French accent, while, charming, can also be just that, a charm. Romance is a way of living, a state of mind. Thanks for reading and taking time to comment.


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FionaCarroll 21 months ago from Sydney, Australia

Ah yessss. French men, oo lala.....memories.

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