Real Life in the Hamptons

The Hamptons in Summer

I live in "The Hamptons". You know, the one you always hear about in movies if the movie takes place in New York. "My friends just rented a house in the Hamptons", "I hope to eventually own a house in the Hamptons", "My lawyer is at his house in the Hamptons" blah blah blah.

If you have heard of it you know it is also dubbed "The Playground of the Rich and Famous" or the Rich and/or Famous, not everyone is both, some of these clowns are just rich. Some incredibly rich. Others are obscenely rich. The estates and the excess and the finely groomed lawns are plentiful. Some tourists come to "The Hamptons" and drive 15 mph just to view all the houses. I love this when I am in a hurry to pick up my son from camp in the summer or late for an appointment. You see, I LIVE here. All year. I am not just here to visit. This is my life. And for those "summer people from the city, Jersey, Pennsylvania, weekenders, etc..." here are some reasons why I might sound just a tad bitter.,,,

  • City people - You never drive. You take your cars out on Friday to go to your home in the hamptons, but you don't signal, observe proper road etiquette or know where the hell you live. I am constantly behind you people who "forget" if your house is this block, no this one, no wait it's the next one... get a freaking GPS, god knows you can afford it!
  • Rude. Rude. Rude. Rude. I will say it again, only louder, RUDE. I realize you think that because you have a house out here and a place in the city or wherever, and tons of cash, that you can do whatever the hell you want and talk to people in any old manner, but you're wrong. You sound like a pompous ass and you look ignorant. Yelling at sales clerks, being snooty and acting like you are somehow more special than the person behind you, in front of you or next to you, garners you nothing. You do however confirm our belief that money cannot buy class.
  • There is no double parking on our 1 little road through the Hamptons, none, not even for YOU. So cut it out, you are blocking traffic.  (A little secret - you are not the ONLY person out here)...
  • Even you are not allowed to create your own parking space - anyplace. If you don't see the little yellow or white lines outlining a spot for you, you don't get to just make one up! I don't care how bad parking it out here.   
  • When you are walking down the crowded Main Street and other people are walking in your direction - MOVE!  What the hell are you waiting for? They move out of your way and you in all your arrogance just "stay the course". And then you get an attitude if someone bangs into you. Seriously?
  • This is the country, that is what you call it right? Then why would you think that in our quiet little place, beeping your horns like complete a*s***** is okay?  Learn Patience and wait just like everyone else.  Where are you going in such a hurry anyway, the spa?
  • I go to the gym all year round, so I know the rules and one rule is, 45 minutes on the elliptical. Don't cover your time with your towel, a magazine, or change it so we don't know your OVER your time. There are other people here too who deserve a chance to work out and we know your selfish little tricks. You just keep making yourselves look bad every chance you get.

My entire life changes in May due to the fact that I live in a tourist area that gets jam packed year after year with these kind of people.

From Mid-Thur to Monday I cannot go to the Bank, likewise I cannot go to the Hardware store, CVS to pick up my sons medication, have my nails done or my eyebrows waxed, get my hair colored, pick up office supplies, get my kids pizza, go out to dinner, go to the movies, go food shopping or get a Starbucks because there are NO parking spaces. Anywhere. If I end up having to go someplace on those days and actually do get a parking spot, I will have to wait at least a half hour on line. If it took me 15 minutes to do in the winter, it will take me about 45 minutes to do once tourist season begins. This weekend (Memorial Day Weekend) I do not leave my house.

The Locals in The Hamptons

Oh this is going to be fun. Now that I have ripped apart the tourists (I am just telling the truth you understand), now I will discuss the locals. Oh by the way the tourists that come from other parts of the world are just magnificent. And so many people do come from all over the globe. You hear at least 6 different languages throughout the summer. They are lovely people.

First, we have the locals that are generational. They gave themselves the name "Bonackers". (I know right?) They think they are Hamptons Royalty but the rest of us , well, don't.

It is very political out here. This means that if you are a local that is generational or you miraculously got "in" with one of them your child will be on the best Little League Team. They put together the teams based on who is coaching and if 3 locals get together and have sons that play well, the build a "team" around them and don't allow any mediocre players, then the other coaches do the same and then there are the kids with no pull who get thrown into a not great team but has good spirit and works really hard to win!! (I like the latter team better, don't you?) This is no secret, all us parents know it. Good luck doing something about it though.

The Bonackers are the most cliquey people I have ever met and they are not warm and welcoming to anyone who has just moved to the Hamptons. And they love to gossip. They endlessly talk about other people, even each other. I find this offensive as I have never been a fan of gossip. I like to mind my own business and I don't want anyone else minding my business either.

When I first moved out here people told me it was the most corrupt place. I laughed, its corrupt everyplace I argued. No, not like in The Hamptons, they told me. We are now in a deficit. I wondered, how could a place that collects mega-millions from real estate taxes alone be in the red? Well lets backtrack a little bit. It is so inbred it is practically incestuous and no one outside ever gets in. Absolutely perfect grounds for corruption with no disruption from outside forces. So if you are wondering where all that money went...and why there is never an investigation into these people...

The other group of locals in the Hamptons are the ones they never, ever, ever talk about. The Hispanics. They are from everywhere; Guatemala, Mexico, Dominican Republic, Ecuador, etc. They are the "service people" in industries such as housekeeping, landscaping and cashiers. The Hamptons is now at least 50% hispanic. These people are called "the workers". And they sure are. When people say to you who are for the Hispanics being here "They will do the work that the Americans won't" this is not B.S. They DO do the work the Americans will not do. They work hard and they work 12 hour days. Sometimes 13 or 14 and 6 days a week. They are unreal when it comes to wanting to make money. And they are paid $12 $15 an hour. Sound like a lot?

Living in the Hamptons is incredibly expensive. If it is normally $4 it will be at least $7 in the Hamptons. Back, when gas was normally $2.89 a gallon, it was already $3.79 here. Price gouging at the pumps is normal. We all expect the gas prices to go up when tourist season begins because they always do. There never has to be a reason. The gas stations want to make their money on the tourists, but they forget (or just don't care) that we locals have to buy gas too and it effects the Hispanic's who have to work very hard for that money and the small businesses as well. Considering what gas and oil companies are making in profits, and you really should know, is this really necessary at all?

We have food pantries out here too. We have shelters for women being abused and for some reason there is plenty of that. Generally speaking, men out here act like they have been raised in the barn (lots of farming out here). They never hold open doors (although women do it), they never let a lady go first, they don't even say 'Thank you', who raised these men??? Other women and I out here have discussed this and we can't figure it out. Although to be fair, neither women or men say "Excuse me" when they walk in front of you. I suppose one could say the Hamptons people are just not big on manners.

Back to our Hispanic friends...not all of them out here can find work. They will do virtually anything, but there aren't always enough jobs. The Hispanic population has now grown to 50% of the Hamptons. The churches help all they can with food and clothing but people will rent small ugly spaces in unfinished basements and charge them $1,000 a month for this honor. Many of them struggle. The average rent for a 2 bedroom house in the Hamptons is $3,500.00 unless it is on the water, then it is much more. Prices have gone down a bit. Summer rentals (Memorial Day Weekend to Labor Day) have run anywhere from $15,000 to a whopping 1.7 million. Yes for 3 months. It depends on the size of the house and where it is. There have been seasons when the rentals were even more.

Shopping In The Hamptons

Elie Teharie, BCBG, London Jewelers, Blue and Cream, East Hampton has all these stores and more. In fact, this is how it worked; there were what we called "mom and pop" stores on Main Street and Newtown Lane, then the owners of these prime pieces of real estate got incredibly greedy. They raised rents from like $4,000 a month to $15,000 a month certain the mom and pop stores couldn't afford it, and they couldn't. This enabled the greedy owners to get in Top of the Line ridiculously expensive stores that could afford it and eventually all the mom and pop stores disappeared to be replaced by places where none of the locals can afford to shop. Many people I know don't even bother to go into town anymore except for pizza, food shopping, banking and the movie theatre. Absolutely no shopping whatsoever.

But what does it say about an area that doesn't even care for its own? That allows all the greed and selfishness and arrogance to permeate their neighborhoods? Their town? Who in this country goes into their "Town" shopping area and can't even afford to shop?

What do we do? We go "up-island". We go to Riverhead which has Wal-Mart, Target, Best Buy, Walgreens, Toys R Us, (the only toy store we have is terribly expensive as well and has little mainstream toys anyway). Although we have a K-Mart it just isn't sufficient. In Riverhead there is also Tanger Mall which has endless outlets. This place gets ridiculously crowded at Christmas. And many people will venture even further up the island to indoor malls.

The people who own these other stores don't care that the locals cannot shop there and in most cases even close for the winter. They are not renting here for us, they are renting here for the tourists. To keep their names fresh in the minds of people who can afford them.

EVERYTHING is more expensive in The Hamptons. I don't even know what's "normal" anymore. Seroiusly, you forget.

Sex and Drugs Hamptons Style

Did you really think we wouldn't have that stuff in a place where the kids have practically nothing else to do? There is nothing for kids in the Hamptons (except little ones) because they are just kids and kids don't generate revenue. The one Rec (recreational) center they begged and pleaded for money for at the movie theatre before each showing years ago, ended up being a dull and boring YMCA that teenagers are not the least bit interested in. But the adults love for working out cheap and swimming lessons.

The drugs and alcohol start in 8th or 9th grade and gets worse from there, every single year we have at least one kid die in a car accident on our ridiculously winding roads. Every year. I can't be positive if alcohol is ever involved (but I am sure it has been), but they happen nonetheless.

Drinking is huge out here and it took the High School years to admit there was a problem. Drugs are even more prevelant. Not just benign stuff like pot, but oxycoten, xanax, cocaine, etc. You would never know about it because no one talks about it and the local papers print nothing about it. In fact, a lot of crimes are kept out of the papers "police blotter" so people don't think any real crime occurs in the Hamptons. Well, ok, we can't hide murders, but they happen so infrequently to begin with. Secrets and lies are serious for business out here. They are important to maintain.

Clubs are a big night life. After all you only have clubs and private parties. Some parties are open, many others you must have your card from the invite, or be on the list. Ahhhh yes, The List. Getting on the list. When you are young and in your twenties this crap impresses you. Even better is if you get a shot of someone famous. I have been to a lot of those parties through my husbands business and you know how people who have never met someone who is famous say they are no different from you and I? Well I have met plenty and you know what? They are no different from you and I. It is no big deal. If you have never met anyone that falls under that label, you are missing absolutely nothing.

When my husband first moved me out to the Hamptons and I first saw Christie Brinkley he excitedly said to me "Did you see who that was, did you see HER?" I said "yeah, it was Christie Brinkley" as if I just said "Yeah that was my sister". I was never impressed with fame and this made my husband nuts. By the way, she really is beautiful in person, I don't think the magazines touch her up much...

I stopped going to these parties several years ago. I don't like them, not the pretention or the super loud music. I prefer to stay home with my kids, read or write or even catch a good movie.

Now, if you want to get into the popular clubs and you are not on "The List" you can only get in if your a hot girl that rich men will want to use for sex.

While I understand you young girls are looking for a rich sugar-daddy, which I find repulsive by the way, all you are usually going to find is a rich guy looking for some fun in the Hamptons and he can get plenty just like you so don't delude yourself with some bizarre idea that your special.

It's a sad fact that a lot of young pretty girls out in the Hamptons spend a lot of money to look hot enough to get into clubs where they can "hook Up". These hookups are of course, short lived. The club owners pander to this. They have their very especial rich clientele come to the clubs and then they screen the girls outside to ensure these men only get the creme de la creme to choose from. Sounds like high class prostitution doesn't it? Well it is, except the girls have no idea that they are prostitutes.

Who Pay's The Bills?

In a masochistic mood? Wanna get burned? Work for someone wealthy and then try to get paid.

I am speaking generally of course. There are are wealthy people who pay their bills, but on average (and you can speak to any business out here, especially small businesses), 7 out of 10 of them don't. My grandmother used to say that "The wealthy are wealthy because they don't spend their money"...well sorry grandma, but you obviously didn't know any wealthy people.

Wealthy people are wealthy because they don't pay their bills. Here is what they tend to do:

  • You send them an invoice and they decide you charge too much so they go ahead and lower your rate. Like they're special and don't have to pay the amount other people pay.
  • They argue about each and every point and in the end you get paid a couple thousand less.
  • They just don't pay at all and say to take them to court and our legal system is so incredibly screwed up, although you have all your paperwork and its clearly a case of greed on the clients part, you end up with half...if your lucky.

My husband has had clients that actually have a track record of hiring people and not paying them. One was a lawyer. He took her to court and she won on a technciality that she knew about because she initiated his business. He of course did not know about the technicality and rectified it too late. It actually did not matter to the courts that he had done the work and did not get paid. It is easy to get screwed in this country as the law is not on your side weather you are right down to the bone or not. So do not ever go into court thinking "Well of course I am going to win, it's a clear cut case" or "Of course I am going to win, I know the truth and they're wrong..." It doesn't matter. Law has nothing to do with truth. Not anymore. This lawyer has left a trail of people who's services she used and never paid any of them.

My father was a hard working middle class man and he would sweat it every time he needed to pay someone and couldn't. Even the guy who mowed his lawn. It would freak my dad out. It mattered to him that these people had to be paid. They did their job.  Do you know why he was that way? Because he was an honorable, decent man.   Middle America, thank God, tends to be that way.

Wealthy people don't give a damn that you did the job or provided a service.  that this is what you do to earn a living and feed your family.  You are NOTHING.  It is far more important that they step all over you on their way to holding on to their money for more important things. Like a new Porsche.  Understandable right?  

We have had clients cut back on our services but buy a $4 million dollar painting the week before (It was in the papers).  We had a client that bought a Ferrari and then bitched about his bill from us being too high. Clients who went on a month long vacation and then returned and complained that they had to cut back on services this year. Oh it gets worse, now I'm really going to make you see red.

They whine about the economy and how much money they've lost. Think about this for a minute. They are multi-millionaires and they whine about how much money they lost. Some of these people lost hundreds of thousands of dollars, but they can still afford to live in the lifestyle to which they have become accustomed.  How do you even muster up any pity for someone like that?

These people lost the amount of money that would take most of us about 6 years to make. Assuming most of average 50-60 thousand a year.  They get depressed.  I am no kidding or exaggerating, this is a fact, they actually get depressed. 

Jake the carpenter lost his job and doesn't know how he will continue to feed his 3 children and live on his wifes $20,000 a year salary but these people are depressed. Sometimes I just don't know what to say.

One day my husband went to a clients house and found the guy on the floor in the fetal position.  Big pharmaceutical guy.   He was on his way to making the Top 100 wealthiest people on Forbes list when this happened. My husband sat on the floor and spoke with him for hours. He suggested he might feel his life was more meaningful if he did for others, try philanthropy my husband suggested.

He did. He was giving to charities all over the place. Of course he sent out mailings letting everyone know what he was doing. But he felt great about himself and a few years later, forgetting all about the incident, fired my husband because he was "too expensive". It boggles the mind who people are. 

The wealthy people who don't like to pay their bills like to spend their money on worthwhile endeavors, like stuff they can show off. Cars, art, fancy parties, designer clothes and shoes. But then they curl up in the fetal position in the middle of all their stuff and wonder why they're not happy.

This is The Hamptons

This is the Hamptons. It is not a great place to raise your children, or even live yourself unless you are an introvert like me and don't really care how much you socialize or not.

It is cliquey, snooty, crowded in the summer, way too expensive, too many tourists, and presses on your nerves and tests your frustration level at every turn.

One plus, it is a beautiful place. It has large open fields, farms, lots of woodsy areas, gorgeous beaches and beautiful homes in a great many places and you can get super fresh fruits and vegetables in the summer also. So I guess that makes it a great place to visit but you wouldn't wanna live here kind of thing.

Real life in the Hamptons isn't what they portray on TV and in Movies. It isn't fun fun fun parties and a great lifestyle. There is a whole service industry and they work work work. Without them there is no Hamptons. None of these wealthy people would come out here if there weren't nannies, housekeepers, drivers, caterers, landscapers, delivery people, and caretakers. Because they don't know how to do any of this stuff themselves.

On the flip side, the service industry wouldn't be able to make any money without these sick and deranged people coming out here demanding to be taken care of in every capacity.

So I look forward to the day I move from this place and go back to the normal world, where everyone worries about the bills sometimes, but they know it isn't money that makes them happy because they are usually happy anyway, even without it.

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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina

Sounds like a lot of towns even in NC that cater to tourism. Sad but true. Although you do live in a beautiful place, if you see Clooney tell him i will return his calls soon.

dori


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

LOL...will do Dori. I am saddened to hear that this is typical of other tourist areas. I was in fact wondering if it was like this in other places or just a "Hamptons" thing.


Me 7 years ago

I agree with some of the things you say but watch what you say because its people like you who made this town into this "Playground for the rich and famous". This is one of the best places to raise a family with one of the best public schools around so don't talk like you know the ins and outs you moved here, your not local, there is a whole other side that you have sadly missed


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

Wow,  don't know who you are as you did not have the courage to state that, but you sound like someone who doesn't know me either.  I did nothing to make this place what it is, it was this way when I arrived.  Thank you for your opinion, but we totally disagree on this one.


Me 7 years ago

sorry i didn't have the courage to state my name Moonchild60 you got me there


Rob B. 7 years ago

You sound so pit-a-ful!! If you don't like it honey, MOVE OUT.


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

I understand how locals out here would take offense, but pitiful? (You spelled it wrong), I don't think so. Move out or move away? Move away makes more sense. Can't wait to move, unfortunately, have obligations that keep me prisoner here. Thanks for your comment!


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Disturbia 7 years ago

WOW, moonchild, why not tell us how you really feel...LOL! Your hub sounds very much like summer at the Cape, or Sonoma County during the fall grape crush or just about any coastal Florida town after the snowbirds arrive. (Probably where your friends from the Hamptons spend the winter). I've moved around a lot and lived in the Northeast, California, Texas, and Florida and I'm sorry to say what you describe here is not unique by any means.  It just is what it is, and unfortunately, what is to be expected when you are fortunate enough to live where everybody else wants to go.


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

Disturbia - I know right, this is probably the most hostile, negative thing I have EVER written!! Usually I am far more sympathetic. Is it really like this in a lot of places? Wow, that is kind of depressing. I am in the thick of it now and honing in on July 4th which is actually quite frightening it is so packed!! Oh well, what can I do? My father always told me "Honey, you can't change the world"...Of course at the time I didn't believe him.


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Disturbia 7 years ago

I feel your pain. I'm not being derisive, I'm serious. I've also lived where I've dreaded the holidays because of the insanity and I hate to say it, but it is really like this in lots of places. I feel your pain in other ways too. I've read some of your other hubs and we have much in common.


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

Thanks...I suppose I have to think of it as doing the laundry. I don't like it but I have still have to deal with it, so I just do...Honestly, I do not meet people that I have a lot in common with. Certain common interests, but that's about it. Not many connections in life experiences. I think it's kind of cool. Is that strange?


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paul_gibsons 7 years ago from Gibsons, BC, Canada

lol... sounds so much like every other place I have lived in that is slightly more rural than the urbs and suburbs.. the only real difference being whether the place in question was "wealthy or poor"..attitudes were the same everywhere. Both those of "locals", the "newbies" and the "visitors" ("grockles" as we called them on the Romney Marsh for instance). nice piece and enjoyed reading it!


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

Paul - Thank you so much. I like your word "Grockles". Sounds like a muppet. I know I sound so negative in this piece, but it is just how it is and I didn't want to sugar coat it or tone it down. It also kind of stresses the impact we have on each other. Thanks again for your comment!


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Pearldiver 7 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

Hahaha Moonchild.... Good On You!! Feed their insecurities! Love it.... It is xactly the same in Bumble Town.. which is why I write a blog-style hub each month! Great Stuff.. You even got a bite from two 'movers and shakers' as well.. I would love to lock horns with your mob... mine have become too predictable.. Hahaha. Do a blog.. the stuff that gets removed from reality.. Don't you realise how much fun you can really have in a place where there is little class and lots of ass? YeeHaa Go Girl.. You CAN Change the World.


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

Pearldiver -Thank you my friend, you truly made my day!! I have played with the blog idea and now I am wondering if perhaps I should get serious about doing it!!


Ennyluv 7 years ago

it sounds like fun, would wanna be there.

its easy for people to enjoy where they are at a particular moment but too much of that environment without an option may seem a bit un-easy but look on the bright side... u can choose to leave


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Moonchild60 7 years ago Author

Oh I want to and I keep bringing it up to my husband, but his company is here. He has his own business and if we leave we also leave his livelihood and he certainly has no plans to do that any time soon. So I am stuck...for now, not forever.


talktothehand 6 years ago

You're preaching to the choir, where I'm concerned. I am a native Floridian, and for over 60 years have watched this kind of stuff only get worse.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

You are right. It does only get worse. I keep complaining to my husband about moving with the hope that one day he will finally relent and I can get out of here!!


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wavegirl22 6 years ago from New York, NY

wow Moonchild. .. I think sometimes you gotta look at the bright side of things. . for everything that is bad there is a good .. .and I know first hand of the Hamptons. . for I have spent many a summer and a fall and have been there in the winter and the Spring. . and though you almost mention some of the wonderful things that the Hamptons has to offer you do painstakingly. I do not follow the "crowd" nor am I impressed when I see Christie Brinkley walking down Main Street. . .but I do love the beaches there. . and crossing over the Ponquogue Bridge on a clear night.. the vegetable stands I find in out of the way places. . and even the shows that are put on Thursday nights in town for the kids in the gazebo.

Its sounds to me as if you are somewhat angry at having to live out there. . .but I bet you know there are far worse places to be. . . I am not trying to be harsh here or to judge you for the way you feel .. all I am saying is there are so many wonderful things out in the Hamptons. . and none that I am talking about are filled with glitter. Mother Nature is at her finest. . and it is all there for your taking. . Enjoy. . take a deep breathe and thank your lucky stars you can step outside and see them shinning brightly down on you.

Hoping you have the happiest of Holidays this year.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Dear WaveGirl22 - Thank you for commenting. You are probably right, I am angry for having to be here and this feeling of being "stuck". You are also right that the Hamptons is a beautiful place to be. The beaches are on the top 10 list of nicest beaches in the world. The open spaces, the farms, etc...and there is nothing like fresh fruits and vegetables from the stands. I just feel my kids have missed out on a great deal and in fact literally just got back from the city after a few days there taking my ten year old to museums and plays. We rent a hotel room for a few nights so we can stay there and do these things with him. We have been doing this since he was little just to give him some culture and fill in the educational gaps. The people are hard to deal with as well, but I hear this is, sadly, common. Thank you again for stopping by and Have a Wonderful Holiday and a Happy and Healthy New Year!!


spaghetti 6 years ago

I've never been to the Hamptons and got a good laugh from reading this. I completely get Moonchild60's perspective when you live in a tourist town. She is just pointing out things that most overlook being that most people are there on vacation.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Hi Spaghetti and thank you for the support. I am about to enter another "season" and grip myself for more of that insanity. I can only attempt to hold on and try not to take it all personally. It has nothing to do with me and they would agree, has everything to do with them...lol...


Va 6 years ago

Some of your stuff is true and I agree on most of it. A few years back I moved to Virginia and I would have liked to stay and follow my family and friends and live there the rest of my life but prices and the people coming out each year got out of hand. Some of my family has a long History in East Hampton with local organizations and work history ( politics, fire departments, jobs) and have great pride in the history and culture of a place they call home. You commented on how the locals call themselves Bonackers and how they feel like royalty. They are just locals. Proud and true. So as a family member of some "True Bonackers" I will help you out with this. The name came from the local Indian Tribe of Accabonac. The families of Springs are the true Bonackers. The name was adopted by the Local High School and every person that goes there or has lived there thinks they have the right to call themselves Bonackers. That name is reserved for the families that settled down in the Springs area of East Hampton Town like the Bennetts, Millers, Lesters, and Kings. Those are the ones who worked the land and waters and made East Hampton Town a beautiful and enjoyable place to live and visit. As the town grew and more people came to Bonac the locals were the ones who mowed the lawns, built more homes, cleaned the streets, patroled the the town in police cars, provided local food to the patrons, and protected the citizens and visitors of EH with outstanding Fire Departments. ( Some of the Best I have seen). Granted there are some locals that have grown to dislike the visitors of their town but after years of terrible traffic, high prices, no affordable local stores, and the attitudes they receive it is no wonder why they put up a front. The Locals have also been looked at as lower class by the visitors and haven been taken advantage of. The outsiders should be grateful and thankful to the locals for what and how they keep East Hampton a beautiful and nice place to visit. The Local government most recently has made some bad decisions but that is not what it used to be. I knew some outstanding government officials when I lived there, like one who was Town clerk for 23 years and who was respected and well liked by all. There is also something that true old time Bonackers have that is disappearing fast. It is the old Bonac accent. From what my relatives have told me it is similar to the old Cape Cod folks from the old times. East Hampton History will tell you that the settlers came by way of New England and their accents were not much different than from their English forefahters. It is sad to see and hear that something such as that is disappearing from a town that has such a rich history. East Hampton has also seen a lot of young men and women gone to battle the forces that threaten this very country. The locals are not just thinking of their town but of the country they love and will do anything to protect. From the Revolution to fighting the war on Terrorism they will always be there to answer the call and protect this Great Nation. I am sorry for giving so much information but it needed to be said. Where I live now people always ask me where am I from because they are not used to the accent I still have, I am always proud to say " I am from East Hampton".


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Wow Va, thank you so much for the information. It is nice to know the facts. I appreciate it. Just tonight I met a woman who is here over 25 years and she also commented how "newbies" (people here for only a few years) act like they have been here forever. So, I understand that these so called "Bonackers" are not the real deal. It is also nice to know the names of the families that had something to do with settling this area. I really had no idea. I am certain that if Rhode Island has a name adopted by the families that settled it (my ancestor being one of them) I would resent others who had no hand in it, assuming the name for themselves. It should be a name of pride owned and worn by those who did the work. I am certain that back in the day East Hampton was a beautiful and wonderful place. It is sad to watch that disappear I am sure, I am sad to have seen the change it underwent in just the past 16 years. By the way, my x-husband and now my son are in Virginia. My son is going to school there. He likes it very much. The only thing he misses about New York is that is cooler much longer than in Virginia. He loves the people. Thank you so much for coming by, it was a pleasure.


Kimberly 6 years ago

I was just at a party last weekend at the Hornig's and it was beautiful. I used to think I wanted all that. I met with a lot of rich and famous people like Tyriq Anderson, It meant nothing. They were just like me, except I had to go to work on Monday morning. I'm not ashamed of what I do, I'm a nurse. But weather your rich, poor or middle class we all have our trouble and down falls. You are very wise and I enjoyed your blog.


Kimberly 6 years ago

PS, I live in Freeport NY and very beautiful place as well, so If you ever want to have a simple night out with mother of three let me know, always looking for a friend.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Thsnk you Kimberly. Freeport is lovely. I liked it very much when I lived nearby in Baldwin Harbor, oh, many many years ago...Thank you so much. I may take you up on that one day, you never know...By the way, my x-husband is a nurse and you absolutely should NOT be ashamed of what you do, it is an extremely nobel profession. I know what you nurses go through!!


Debbie LeMoine 6 years ago

I read your extensive complaints. I grew up in the hamptons and felt it was a great place to live. Yeah, the city slickers came out in the summer, but that created summer jobs for the "locals". You need to enjoy life!


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I can't argue with you Debbie, you do have to enjoy life and I am trying hard since I wrote this hub to overlook the negative and focus on the positive. The hamptons itself is a great beautiful place, it is the people that soil it and many of those people are also generational and clique people who grew up here as well as those who moved here from NY city, Connecticut, etc... But your point is dead on!! Thanks on for coming by and commenting.


Nick 6 years ago

I actually found this blog by searching for 'what's it like to live in the Hamptons.' I grew up in NYC and my parents would take me to the Hamptons beaches during the summer...it was pretty nice there but I was only 12 so I did not really get to experience the clubs or the snobby people. I think the situation you describe in the Hamptons is just a symptoms of living in what some scholars would refer to as a cultural wasteland. Essentially, the Hamptons are just a suburb and do not really have their own authentic culture. People move out there for the regions natural beauty, good schools, low crime rates, and because they want to live with people who are just as rich as they are. However, what the Hamptons are missing is the authentic culture that is a part of the large and small cities of America. The daily interactions a person experiences in a large city such as NYC or in the smaller mid-western and south-western provide a much better insight to what life is really like in the rest of the world and are absent from the suburbs. After industrialization, U.S. demographics were characterized by a 'white flight' from the cities as middle-class & richer families sought safety, solitude, and wanted to live in exclusive neighborhoods. These trends have been going in reverse as more people are moving back to the cities. After living in NYC, my family moved to a small city in PA and we lived in the suburbs. I lived in NY until I was 19 and having been living in PA and completing my education here. Let me tell you, compared to NYC there is absolutely nothing to do here for teenagers and young adults aside from work, drink in bars, drink in basements, and drugs. As you know in NYC, youths have countless opportunities to choose from. However, in the suburbs there isn't really much to do...people drink and do drugs because they are bored. I can imagine stay-at-home moms going stir crazy because of the lack of culture. Having experience both worlds, I would argue that the best experience would be to live/work in the city and spend some vacation time at a lake or beach town and unwind. Living in culturally desolate places full-time is just plain old boring. I personally can't wait to finish up my education and go back to living in New York.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Hello Nick. Thank you for stopping by. Wow, I really think you hit it on the head with your assessment. You are absolutely right!! There is no daily interaction with others. You are cut off from that as there are no opportunities. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your comment as I was having no success trying to figure out the WHY of this place. The beauty, good schools, low crime rate, yes but no real opportunity for community and connection. Thank you so much!!


DIANE 6 years ago

Thank you for the great blog Moonchild! My husband & I made it to the Hamptons this spring for the 1st time. We were tourists that respected YOUR home turf as we would want toursits to respect our (Niagara Falls, Canada). We had a terrific time & you are lucky. However I just wanted to comment on RUDE people. Common sense is vanishing...sidewalk hogging, open door manners, thank you's and please's don't exit for many. I just STAND my ground on a sidewalk (I won't move), I sarcastically say "you're welcome" when the person hasn't thanked me...just my way of dealing with rude and ignorant people. ANyways, I think there is more of US then THEM so we do have LOTS to be thankful for....thank you Moonchild.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Diane - Thank you very much for your kind compliments. You are right. I am having a hard time with the lack of proper etiquette and manners. I realize there is little I can do about it and I should just learn to accept it but then I feel like I am condoning it by just ignoring it. I like to think there are more of us then them also. I hope we are right!!


James 6 years ago

Hello.

I liked how you described your personal point of view for The Hamptons as I just recently started taking interest in them. There was a lot of useful information in this post yet it was quite negative. I'm just speaking from an optimists point of view. I feel that too many people are negative thinkers and hold themselves back (from their goals and dreams) because of how they think.

Try to think of the great things of living in the Hamptons because to some degree, everything you disgusted is prevalent everywhere! There are snobs no matter where you go and there are nice people whom you would get along with.

Staying indoors all the time could also be a resulting factor of not finding too many people whom yoou have things in common with.

Appreciate the things you have, you live in a beautiful place where many live in the ghettos of highly lived-in cities.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

James - You are right. I did think it was quite negative as soon as I posted it and thought perhaps it was too harsh. I think it was disappointment and frustration at the sitution. I am so sad to know that society at large has become much like this and this is not the exception to the rule, but the rule. I do however appreciate and am grateful for all that I have been blessed with - on a daily basis. Not only where I live, but how I live as well as my family, friends, etc. I know I am blessed in many ways. Think positively - that is an excellent reminder. Thank you for coming by James and your optimistic take on the situation. It was refreshing.


Pete Lucas 6 years ago

All i have to say is WOW. I spent a day watching a Polo match this weekend as I looove horses. Can I say...that most people watching a match have no idea about the game or anything..they were just there for the heck of it. Mostly dads with their kids as many wives in the hamptons would probably rather be in the salon since the Nanny is probably off since it was Columbus Day Weekend...anyway..the attitude out there is herendous..I mean you have grown men (who are mostly misersable inside) who have the tightness in their rear ends of a ball point pen. Money or not...smile..enjoy life...be happy...it's the only thing I dont like about the Hamptons...the uptightness of some people..and the worse part is..physically speaking..all these people with $$ ar ugly...i'm no brad pit or Nacho Figueras but I cant stand a nasty person who thinks they are who they are when they need 18 plastic surgeons to make them look beautiful...doesn't make any sense lol. Anyway..loved the article and I agree with everything 100%.


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Moonchild60 6 years ago Author

Hey Pete - Thanks for coming by and commenting. It is truly sad isn't it? And bizarre because it's hard to understand why these people with money think the money makes them beautiful or special or somehow better than others. It's baffleing because I have seen absolutely no proof to that end whatsoever. Additionally, people who have never experienced life around the wealthy, think I am exaggerating. They have no clue how arrogant and phoney these people really are. Still, at the end of the day, we should feel badly that they live a life of illusion because they thought money would buy them love and/or happiness and obviously...it didn't.

I hope you enjoyed your polo game!!


immigrant 5 years ago

Money doesn't buy happiness.

if you are immigrant and feel lonely even in this wealthy country in the world.

That nothing to do with happiness.

Money are tool to buy luxury and provide a quality comfortable

life for yourself or family.

Happiness it is soul condition and you can be more happy in the country when re you born because you feel

that people care about you have more friends than here

and people on the work may visit you when you are sick.

I was feeling that I become unhappy here

and more happy overseas even I don't have a lot material possessions.

But emotionally I deal with sincere people not people smiling into your face and really don't care about you and your life

You hardly can make a real life friends

I am truly dissapointed in your capitalism society here.

And it is not country here anymore that I want to live trully

Society with money but without manners are new vo riches

breeding society

People can be polite with money .

The soul of this country going sour and it is damage

citizens

This is not 1960 when people were more middle class $$

Now wealth belongs to small % i this country

it is about 1930 ratio.


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Moonchild60 5 years ago Author

Wow this is truly sad immigrant, it is also sadly true. And you would know better than anyone. This is a country of selfish mean arrogant people that truly believe their money makes them special and this makes them happy. Heaven help them if they ever realize the truth. thank you very, very much for coming by. I truly appreciate your taking the time to leave your insightful comment.


James 5 years ago

I like this post. I understand how many of the things you described could be irritating. However, it would seem to me that you are not apart of the "rich and famous" group. I think that if you were you would have a little better understanding of it. People who have that type of money worked for it. Deep down, they have the same insecurites, fears and worries that we do. It is likely that they don't pay very many bills because, well, they just might not be able to. No one knows what their pocket books look like. Maybe they really can't afford to buy your services after spending so much on that 4 million dollar painting. Just because someone has millions of dollars, does not make them rich. Money is money no matter how much of it you have, so although it seems like a lot to us, it is really only the same thing. Think about it, say I'v100 million dollars and I have 2 kids, a wife, a house staff, two ar more cars ($250,000 or more) a 4 million dollar painting, and another house, making it two mortgages, plus I just lost a few hundred thousand to a few million in bad investments, a failed business or a new business that is not making much money, plus I have a credit card or two, etc etc.... Looking at all this, it sounds just like eveyone else's life... just with more. So money can be tight for millionaires also. It's just that with the media, and the way the rich make it look, it does not seem the same as our lives, but it is. Granted, they don't have to worry about feeding their children or anything else to the extent that we do, but they are experiencing the same problems we are, just sometimes with more.

I just think they need a little more God in their lives. lol. So don't hate them for being the way they are. Chances are, if you had their lives, you probably would be the same way. For example.... if you didn't have to wash your own clothes, or mow your own lawn, or wash your own clothes, or pick up your own meals, or pick up after yourself or your children, would you?.... probably not. We would all love to not have any real responsiblites like that. These people have done nothing more than work hard to get where they are, and now they are enjoying it. ( or hating it, depending on the choices they've made.)


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Moonchild60 5 years ago Author

Hello James - Thank you for taking the time to comment. But actually, I do not often wash my own clothes, house or mow my lawn. I have 'people' that do that. LOL. I know right, it would seem the way I wrote this that I wouldn't understand. So actually I am correct and YOU are correct as well. Many of these people are constantly living beyond their means to project a certain "image". And since your landscape designer is the least important person to pay, he gets paid last, if there is anything left over. Two things; I was raised poor. One of the poorest kids in a middle class neighborhood so I had lots of embarassing moments. I do not ever forget where I came from. AND does having money, which I assure you both my husband and I worked VERY Hard for, mean you lose your morality? Your ethics, sense of what's wrong and right? For example, my husband has a client who ripped out his gorgeous garden, I swear this was a masterpiece and wanted something new, I think because his first wife had a great deal to do with the garden and its design. SO he asks my husband to do a new one, pool, tennis court, whole nine yards and then for who-knows-what-reason, hires a landscape architect behind his back. My husband does not find out until various things are dug up and its obvious something is going on. What is that? What is that????

You get money, lose morality, sensitivity, care, consideration, compassion. We are not as wealthy as these people, but we are very comfortable. We consider ourselves lucky because hard work is NOT always enough, luck also has something to do with it. We do not ever forget that we are all the same. We come into this world with nothing and leave with a suit or dress. Thats it. The size of your house, bank account or if your car is a Lexus, mercedes or Honda, does amount to a damn thing except it strokes your ego and gives you a false sense of entitlement and elitism. Recently a wonderful journalist wrote about how Americans believe themselves to be so wonderful in spite of the fact that they fall behind other countries in many things. We have the ego but not the actual intelligence and abilities to back it up. In other words, we are full of Sh**. That is something we can all be proud of. We have a huge cash deficit but our arrogance is through the roof.


Elsie 5 years ago

Wow, very interesting! Was googling 'Hispanic in the Hamptons' & your blog came up. You're right about the influx of weekenders in your town. Of course, I don't speak for everyone. I've been to the Hamptons twice (East Hampton, more specifically. And you know E. Hampton is king!), and I just fell in love with the place. But, I've been there as a tourist from the West Coast, and no, I can't afford Tiffany's and can't score a table at Nick & Tonis. I did carry proudly my LV (my ONLY purse) and marched right into The Golden Pear Cafe for breakfast, swam at Main Beach (no need for Beach Pass, I took a cab., and took a local bus to Bridgehampton in order to catch a polo match. I got there too late. I got to E,Hampton via the LIRR, not the Jitney. On my way back to NYC, I wanted to stop by the Target on Riverhead. Again, I was running late. Well, maybe next time. It's easy to say that you should feel blessed to LIVE there, and that many ppl. would trade place with you, but only you have to live with that stinky, arrogant attitude of the rich and unclassy. I first read about what you describe in a book The End of the Hamptons by Cory Goldon (no endorsement). I think that's when I decided not to renew my subscribtion to Hamptons magazine (definitely NO endorsement!!) But the enchantment of geographical Hamptons will never die. Sorry for the babbling it's getting late in Cali.! Good night!


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Moonchild60 5 years ago Author

Elsie - Hi! Good to see you. I am actually dying to go out your way. East Hampton is beautiful. I would not argue that point. The place itself is wonderful it is the people that occupy it that is disturbing and annoying. Sadly, it is not just the tourists but the practically incestuous relationship between the Bonackers which is basically a breeding ground for corruption to thrive in. But anyway, what can one do? You did get to Main Beach and The Golden Bear where I am sure you had a fairly expensive breakfast and that is a good Hamptons Experience, we do have the most beautiful beaches. Another wonderful natural wonder. I must say I do appreciate that the locals and tourists do try to keep the place beautiful, that is at least something right? Take Care Elsie. It was nice to hear from you.


MeatMan 5 years ago

There are those who live their lives, and those who look at those people and bitch/complain. The "city people" provide the income for most of the year round residents and they are also the reason there is a preservation ethic and no strip malls, etc. Its also 2 months. The amount of complaining by the locals (hypocrits who curse the rich, but smile at their money and tips) is absurd. Also absurd is the boring cliches they spout which are EXACTLY the same in every resort town/seasonal place i have ever been. Every pathetic comment about "rich people/city folk" to "if you don't like the weather, wait 10 minutes and it will change" - fuck off, you work 2 months a year and live in a paradise that has a small town feel, but with all the culture and global influence of a city (thanks to those asshole rich folks, who can't drive, etc.) I am a local and I now live in the city, by the way - but as someone whose grown up out there, I have to say your account of the hamptons is very flawed. But what is one to expect- another unqualified critic on the internet writing about something they know little about, and replacing facts with hyperbole. Yawn.


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Moonchild60 5 years ago Author

Good try MeatMan but I have lived out here too long to be told I don't know what goes on out here. And if you didn't notice, I shall point it out to you, the locals did not get away unscathed. I merely wrote the facts about my life and experiences, and coincidentally, the experiences of my friends and family, out here. I do not know why you seem to think this is not the case if in fact, you truly did live out here nor do I understand your belief about the very wealthy, whom I speak about CLEARLY from personal experience. It may sound like an exaggeration, but sadly, I did not have to make up or exaggerate ANY of this. It is the reality and it is also how I have to live and funny, if only my husband DID have the luxury of working only 2 months out of the year. We are lucky his business is very successful but due to that fact we have not been on vacation in 13 years. My account of the Hampton's is not even remotely flawed, you obviously do not know anything about it. I wonder if your sensitivity is due to the fact that perhaps you are a wealthy person who doesn't appreciate the labels other wealthy people have forced upon you with their behaviors and thoughtlessness. Please know I speak generally because not everyone fits that mold. I have met them as well.

The wealthy out here say the same exact thing you said, as though the locals should thank them for their arrogance and nastiness because "we bring the money". But like I said this is a two-way street. You would have no where to bring the money to if it weren't for the huge service industry out here attempting to rip you off and steal your stuff at every turn. Get it? The locals provide services the wealthy need and the wealthy provide the money for those services. One does not function without the other. And out here pretty much everyone knows that...well clearly except some of the wealthy people...

It would be shocking if you actually did grow up out here because no one I know that grew up out here shares your opinion in the least. And you clearly have no understanding of how your own kind out here feels about the seasonal 'invasion'. It is a double edged sword. My god, I have seen locals out here who after Labor Day weekend put out huge signs that say "GOOD-BYE". in their good riddance kind of a way.

Let's be honest, if the service people weren't here to care for the kids while the tourists were out being served dinner or at the spa or shopping at Ralph Lauren they would all go elsewhere and the service people would have to find different jobs. I will say it again, it goes both ways. Do not for a minute, think you are special.


Chris 5 years ago

Hi Moonchild. What an interesting article. I really enjoyed. I was searching for info on the Hamptons and stumbled upon this. I became fascinated with the area because I watch The Barefoot Contessa on Food Network and she is always having parties etc. and the guests seem SO pretentious! I really do like her (have you ever met her) but her friends just seem over the top. I am also a Katie Couric fan... so I am glad you said she is nice! :)


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Moonchild60 5 years ago Author

Hi Chris - Thank you for coming by. No I never met the Barefoot Contessa but she did have a store in East Hampton a long time ago and I enjoyed going there from time to time for certain items. Otherwise, it was just a bit too pricey. Her guests more than likely are pretentious one might say they probably represent a taste of the Hamptons summer folk or weekenders. Katie not only has a sweet personality, but she smiles a great deal as well. Take Care Chris : D


Jenny 5 years ago

Dear Moonchild,

I was doing a paper on gang and drugs for college. I noticed that all the articles that have been written was about the poor children that are in gangs. So I was researching to see if they existed in rich areas and that is how I found your website. You said it your self that things like that are kept out of the papers.

The saddest thing about that is these children are the ones who will suffer and these people just don't have a real clue what drove their children to the drugs and the people they hang with. At least the poor children get into gangs because their parents have to work and they become door key kids. What is their excuse?

Does your police department have programs out there to help these kids? If anything I noticed one common thing about this. No manner where the children are from east coast to the west coast. From the north to the south. Be they poor or rich. They all want a sense of BELONGING - A FAMILY... What does your community do for the children up there?

God bless you .


Jim 5 years ago

I work so damn hard, i've learned so much and developed for myself carpentry skills that i'll be able to use my whole like but in the past 3 years I have lived here I have gotten very depressed, my fiancé is stuck in Russia and can no longer return unless she can obtain a k2 and we get married in 3 months. As stated in this article a lot of foreigners especially students get work here in the summer, this is how we met. Our employer assured her their lawyers will take care of her papers so she could return.. But they had no idea what they were doing so now we are suffering, I also had my department was reformed and with it I lost just under a 1/4 of my weekly earnings, plus no help or consideration that I might look young ( i'm in my mid twenties) but I have no help no family buying me everything I want. These "city people" who arrive for a few weeks are the reason I'm losing myself. my sense of self worth...I don't know how we can live in a world where people can make 100's to 1,000's of times more money, own huge home(s) all over the world, and I can't afford to see the person I love because I can't afford to pay lawyers (who probably drive Porsche's and vacation here) the money they demand to premium process our application for a k2, she never needed a damn k2 for three years!I got pulled over recently and given a ticket for not stopping at a stop sign on a road I had never even driven on, and couldn't explain to me why or how he followed me when I had been driving so slowly and gone through other stops before pulling me over. And I can barley afford to set aside 50$ a week to save so that I can see her again. And these people who's children will grow up getting everything they want I get to pass driving in cars I couldn't afford if I saved my entire salary for the next 10 years. I don't drink or go out and party, and while I'm contemplating my whole terrible life I am surrounded by Castles and lives full of excess. I hate money so much but I have never felt so much need for it in my life. meh

Learn to drive buddy!!!!!!


Jeff 5 years ago

Sounds just like Siesta Key, in Sarasota, FL!


Kat 4 years ago

I stumbled upon this commentary, and I agree with you and your account is point on. As someone who grew up in the Hamptons (Townies as we called ourselves back then) 30 years ago, your summary is true now as is was back then. Thank you for the accuracy and bravery to tell the real story. You must agree it is fun and never a dull moment even in the winters. All the best.


Diesel29 4 years ago

Pfft to be honest i read the whole thing .. as a pure lecture .. was very nice to read ( adressin to the author ) Now on the other hand ( even if when i was googleing and found this article ) my main interest was to buy a house there just for the summer .. now i have second thoughts :). Thanks for ur oppinions and sry for my bad language ( is not my main language of course, i'm just a european who was looking to spend his money in US :P )


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Moonchild60 4 years ago Author

I feel your pain. There is nothing that sickens me more than mere children who have no idea what a hard days work is, getting toys from mommy and daddy that they don't deserve. I want to put them all on an island somewhere and teach them about what it is to struggle and suffer. Those who never have adversity in their lives are missing a great deal of emotional intelligence and growth. That is why these people are so one-dimensional and shallow. Sad, sad, sad. No richer than richer people, I am not jealous, I am sad for you. You have no clue.


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Moonchild60 4 years ago Author

I am so sorry. I hope you do not have to live there!!


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Moonchild60 4 years ago Author

As I said in the Hub, it is beautiful out here. Far more beautiful than the rest of Long Island. But it is bad for your health to live in a place that aggrevates you on a daily basis. I told my husband that by having to live out there for his business, he is killing me.


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Houses out here are priced WAAAAAYYYY higher than they are actually worth. The real estate agents go by what the builders tell them it costs to build the house (Which is an average of $425 a square foot) seriously???? Now you and I both know that it does NOT cost them that much. At All. Not even closer. The construction industry is corrupt as well. EVERYONE, excluding a few like my husband and they are rare, and I am not exaggerating, take kick-backs. Odds are good the only people you will meet out here in the building industry, construction, plumbing, electrical, etc... are accepting kickbacks. If you are wealthy and buying/building in the Hamptons and your construction person says "Oh I know a plumber/landscaper/electrician/etc...who is great" he is taking kick backs and so is the guy he suggests. Understand something, that does NOT mean the guy he suggests is any good, he is just on his kickback payroll. The guy could be mediocre. Odds are, he probably is. These construction guys don't suggest the creme de la creme, the best people out here. They suggest the ones that will grease their palms. That are in the payback loop. You my friend are an idiot who for all your Ivy league education is getting ripped off by someone poorer and yet muchsmarter than you are.

As for you Diesel - there are far more wonderful and beautiful places to live and they are also more honest and less crowded. Keep looking.


Ozziebeck 4 years ago

Came across this as currently recovering from an operation and was thinking of my new favorite series 'Revenge'. Australia has only been exposed to it recently and are quite fascinated by this world that is shown to us on screen. I have read not just your article but each and every post that followed. Firstly I will say I really enjoyed reading your experiences. Secondly I found some people's issues with your article really amusing. I have never been to the Hamptons let alone USA however I have had experiences with the rich and/or famous. I'm what is jokingly referred to as a 'Boarding School brat'. I am not offended by the term as i know who i am and so do the people close to me. Iwas not raised with a silver spoon but but had hard working parents who were smart enough to think early towards a good education. I was very blessed on that sense. I developed a very powerful network and know how to 'play that game' but it is not me. I am one of the most cynical people out there when it comes to the whole rich mentality and not because I am jealous but I do find the old saying is extremely true 'all dollars and no sense". The problems I have with money is not those who became wealthy from strong work ethic and doing the hard yards but the one's who were born into this old money. A lot of these grow up in these extraordinary lifestyles but few have very little appreciation for what it took to make it happen. I know fabulous people both rich and poor but unfortunately money can do funny things with people's attitudes.

I have in a few tourist areas and unfortunately the issues you raised about that even translates all the way here in Australia too. More should be given to locals however the powers that be only see what makes them the most money that look good on paper for the short terms they hold positions. Never seems to be an issue that gets resolved.

I could took for ages as i have opinions on everything, it's ok i am not going to! I will say though that never stop expressing your thoughts otherwise you will deny yourself an identity. If the permanent living there is causing you this much distress then i believe your husband really should consider that as no matter what you will always find a way to survive.

Finally,regarding the lack of etiquette: Manners are free and should never be forgotten no matter who you are. One thing I have learnt from all this is that I am beneath no one. I may love to own some of their real estate but I will never allow someone to make me feel like I m nobody just because I dont share their same wealth or notoriety.


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justventing 4 years ago

I can't agree more, people are like that everywhere although i am sure in the Hampton's during the summeer it is just condensed. The part about trying to get a lower price for work done is so true. My husband did work for my brother-in-law, (my sister's husband) then goes driving off in his new custom mini-cooper he special ordered(An extra vehicle) They live in a million dollar home and see us struggling, while we drive 10+ yr.old vehicles and have the nerve to quibble about the price. My husband does carpentry and charges everyone the same price and they were the only ones to complain, wanting the family discount. Amazing, and they have more than one computer per person in their household and constantly updating their cellphones with the latest model. Then, at Thanksgiving dinner my sister bragging about how much they contribute to the church, of course to be recognized as generous but quibble over a few hundred dollars with my husband whom works very hard for his money and doesn't overcharge by all means. That really pissed my husband off and I agree. I just don't get it. Meanwhile I try not to agree too much with my husband because I don't want to feed the anger he feels towards them. I don't want it to rub off on the kids, but it has some, in both cases you can see the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

When we confronted them about it they went on to say how they used so much of their inheritance (brother-in-laws) on remodeling their business and how he needs to cut back. Maybe I don't understand the business part of it but I certainly do understand they can't cut back on their lifestyle but expect us to. Just venting and glad to have a place to do so.

Don't get me wrong, good for them if they want these things and can afford them, just don't ask us to give them a family discount. Thanks


Jenny 4 years ago

I actually just received a job offer in east Hampton but I have no clue how I am going to afford to live here. What salary do you think you need to make a year to live here. My only debt is student loans.... No family to live with or rent from.. Thanks.


Ian 4 years ago

Jenny,

Its not easy ; living out here. I have been here for two years and it is a check to check struggle....The money I am making here, if I made anywhere else on the island, my family would live fantastically.


Hamptonsteen 4 years ago

I couldn't agree more with your vivid description of what us locals like to refer to as "cityiots" because they are all idiot city people, UGH! They are the most rude, obnoxious people I have come in contact with. It is sad that such a beautiful place has to be ruined when all these cityiots come to town during the summer. Thank God I have not fallen into the world of alcohol and drugs however, that is very prevalent around here. It is hard for me to mention one of my friends that DOES NOT consume either alcohol or drugs because sadly about 98% of them do, if not more. The local officials condemn this activity however, they don't seem to think of fun activities that teenagers can do out here that is fun but still harmless. It truly sucks living here. Yay for East Hampton locals!


sahara 4 years ago

I love this article. Wealthy people especially the younger ones are obnoxious, and most of them are ugly... believe it!


TStoha 4 years ago

I stumbled upon your hub looking to get a feel for the culture of East Hampton compared to other seaside communities I've been too. I can sympathize as I'm from a small quaint town that has two major tourist seasons that create total havoc and change the tone of the town.


AJ 4 years ago

haha, wow, I found this doing a search for "what's it like in the Hamptons"

I think maybe I'll just stay away now! Although I am a recluse and would have no qualms about staying on my property 24 hours a day if I could so I wouldn't be worried about snobby people.

My interest in the Hamptons goes back almost 10 years to my high school art teacher who revealed that she'd grown up in the Hamptons and loved it etc. When the class asked why she left (went to MN (which is beyond me but whatever)) she said it was because of love.

I also really love to play with plants and dirt and would have no trouble taking care of my own lawn, would I be gossiped about or laughed at? lol

I don't think I will ever really *need* to worry about moving there since I personally make less than 15k per year doing the type of work a trained gorilla could do.


Nick 2 years ago

Coming from a kid who grew up in inner city Detroit, if these are the extent of your problems, then you have a damn good life!


jellydeli 2 years ago

I have lived in the Hamptons since the 1970's. I have never had any of these problems except the bad driving. There are cheap rents too. Yes, the cost of living is higher but it is not dump. I moved away and lived upstate and there are no jobs here and plan to move back this coming year. At least there are jobs out there with benefits as compared to where I live now. It is a dump next to the Hamptons. It is beautiful out there with less crime than other areas in new York.


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J. R. LaGreca 2 years ago from New York, New York

I found this hub very enlightening. My husband and I were thinking about possibly moving to the Hamptons, but the things you complained about would be the same things that would annoy me. I understand your frustration and appreciate your humor, great article.


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Moonchild60 3 months ago Author

No Nick, these are not the worst problems. These are merely the problems regarding where I live. My worst problems have nothing to do with this hub.

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