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How to Get Your Cat to Like You

Updated on November 23, 2013
There are ways you can get a shy or hostile cat to like you.
There are ways you can get a shy or hostile cat to like you. | Source

Cats are known to be elusive creatures. They are not the people-pleasers that dogs are. They don't always come when they are called, most will not walk on a leash and the want affection, playtime and food on their schedule, not their human's.

With all that said, there are ways to get your cat or a friends cat to warm up to you and possibly even show some affection. It requires a bit of patience, trickery and a lot of time.

Here are the top five ways to get a cat to like you.

  1. Be Quiet
  2. Offer Food
  3. Give Treats
  4. Don't Force
  5. Allow Time

1. Be Quiet

Cats are quieter animals and they tend to prefer quieter, less busy and boisterous environments.

If you are coming into your home and you are loud or approach the cat overly-enthusiastically it is likely to run.

Unlike dogs, cats may greet you but they are not seeking the jumping up and down and vigorous affection that a dog seeks.

They may simply twine themselves around your legs or begin meowing to you--most likely inquiring about the possibility of food.

2. Be The One To Offer Food

If you are trying to get a cat to like you, be the one to offer it food and make sure that it knows it. Much of a cat's life is spent sleeping and another good portion is spent trying to get food from its owner.

Filling the food bowl up in front of the cat or opening and serving the can of food is much more likely to get you some attention and affection---just not while they are eating.

Over time, your cat will start seeking you out. And while they are of course always hoping for a food bowl refill, they also will begin to feel some sort of attachment to you, knowing that you are their food source.

A Cat May Like You Better If You Are The One That Feeds It

3. Give Them Treats and Suprises

Another way to get your cat to like you is to give them little treats and surprised.

Get the toys such as balls, fake mice or something they can chase.

Get a scratching post and fill it with catnip. Catnip has been shown to have soothing qualities on many cats.

Get some treats to give to them when they come up to you.

You can even get some treats to sit beside you when you are on the couch or on the floor and want the cat to approach you. It may take several attempts for them to discover it. But then they may come back, associating you with pleasant memories.

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4. Don't Force Them To Do Things

Cats are extremely independence. Their determination to stay away from you, to not want to sit by you, to not come when called partially comes from that.

But you will take a step backward with your cat if you force them to be held, sit in your lap or be petted.

Each cat has a unique personality. Some are lap cats and will want to jump up and snuggle. Others would rather sit beside you and still others are content just to sit in the same room or where they can see you. You can't change that about them.

Some cats like to be picked up. Others prefer to be petted on the ground.

It is important for you to take time to get to know your cat and find out what its preferences really are. The cat will ultimately trust you more and make steps towards being more affectionate when you listen to its cues and don't force them to be in situations that make the uncomfortable.

It takes time for a cat to develop a relationship with you.
It takes time for a cat to develop a relationship with you. | Source

5. Allow Time

Cats often take time to warm up, establish a routine and discover who they are.

They take cues from the world around them, other cats in the household and even how safe they feel around their owners.

Some cats can take several YEARS to truly develop a routine and personality and that is okay.

Continue to be patient. Never yell or hit the cat. Allow the cat to feel safe and loved and the relationship will naturally develop.

Final Thoughts

If you have never owned a cat before or consider yourself a dog person, the transition to cat ownership can be difficult.

Cats do well with quieter, more introverted people but that doesn't mean that other types of people can't be good owners.

Being a good cat owner involves a lot of patience and a willingness to accept the cat's personality as is and not try to force it to be something it is not.

Cats can recognize manipulation; don't underestimate that or their memories.

Following these guidelines will make you and your pet happier.

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    • LCDWriter profile imageAUTHOR

      L C David 

      5 years ago from Florida

      Thanks Elias. I think that trying to push things to fast is the major mistake people make. Some cats may take years to acclimate. As long as you are patient and make them feel safe, they will come around.

    • Elias Zanetti profile image

      Elias Zanetti 

      5 years ago from Athens, Greece

      Nice and useful read! It certainly takes more time and patience to make a cat like you. Thanks for sharing!

    • LCDWriter profile imageAUTHOR

      L C David 

      5 years ago from Florida

      And thank you for stopping by and reading.

    • nArchuleta profile image

      Nadia Archuleta 

      5 years ago from Denver, Colorado

      Another enjoyable cat hub -- thanks!


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