The Cat Woman
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I've been told, "Don't Tell Anyone You're a "Cat Woman."
Well, I've heard the suggestion before.Good friends warning me not to be too candid about my love of cats. "They won't take you seriously, Kathy!" "Beware, once you've admitted you're a 'cat lady,' they won't see anything else about you."
At first, I took this well meant advise to heart. After all, I didn't want to be regarded simply for my love of cats...and I 'bought' the notion that being a 'cat lady' was somehow a denigrade; a "less than" status in human traits.....in essence; a shortcoming! I accepted that being thought of in this way was an insult; one which would cause others to relate to me less seriously.
My personal note and solid belief: An idea which is subjective is also relative. The only credence an assumption can hold is that which we allow. No abstract; no opinion is powerful if we choose not to give it power. Therefore, I proclaim that being a 'cat lady' adds to my overall self; it does not detract. And THIS, my friends, is the TRUTH.
In a way, the warnings held true....as long as I gave them credence! Walking among friends, feeling that I had a moniker boldly printed on my back; I AM A CAT LADY! A CRAZY CAT LADY!
Then, I began to see that, of course, being labeled as such is not a negative; and that there are many parts to myself and loving animals is - albeit a VERY big and important part - not the only aspect of my personality that might appeal to others - and KNOWING this to be the case....I had no doubts about divulging my love of furry beasts to friends and acquaintances. In essence, the appreciation of animals is a plus while, concurrently, it is NOT a minus.
So, once I realized that being a cat lady is NOT denigrating, NOT insulting and NOT limiting; I let my kitty colors fly! No shame in telling the world that I appreciate, love, admire, and care about our feline friends. And, I feel compelled to aid them as they attempt to live their lives in this, often times, difficult world.
Being an animal advocate has opened my eyes to so much which is related to my advocacy and much that is, seemingly, not related but, come to find out..IS related, in a BIG way,
For instance; the person who is moved by the circumstances of others is valuable, indeed. The person who is touched by the situation(s) of animals is valuable PLUS. Their circle of compassion is larger, encompassing creatures who feel, exhibit preferences in their own lives, who enjoy (no, this is not being anthropomorphic) comfort, touch, taste, and more; who express emotions much as we do. One has only to observe the 'common' house cat to see an array of these....ears back; annoyance or anger, eyes dilated indicate stress, excitement and/or flight/fight. Purring is a giveaway! Stretching happens when the animal is comfortable, not threatened; the list goes on. There are dozens of cat meows; each carries an independent communication.
My 11 year old companion, Little One, sleeps in my arms every night. She snuggles with her head resting on my arm as she faces me. Often, she'll make small 'chortling' sounds as she touches my face with her paw; or she'll mew in a higher pitch as I whisper to her in similar tones. Little One whispers, too; ever so quietly if I whisper to her. Then, of course, there are the yowls when she's not happy, plaintiff mewls when she wants something in particular and, of course, the familiar "hissing, spitting and carrying on."
As individual as Little One is, so are her kitty companions. Anyone who has taken the time to notice or who is a 'crazy cat lady' such as myself can tell you, every single feline possesses a unique person...opps! catanility.
Cats are not given the credit they deserve. They are smart, clean, independent and have great self respect.
So, back to the beginning. Yes, I am a cat woman extraordinaire but, also so much more!