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It's me or the horse

Updated on July 17, 2015

The following is a cautionary tale about what might happen if you ever go to your significant other and say: "it's me or the horse".

Pamela Clews
Pamela Clews

The Ultimatum

In 1963, twenty-one year old Clive Lucy should have been the happiest man on earth. He was engaged to be married to Pamela Clews (20), former beauty contest winner. There was only one problem. The vivacious Pamela would not stop going on and on about her horse.

Finally Clive could take it no longer, he turned to her and said those critical words: it's me or the horse.

The Outcome

Sadly for Clive, the decision was not too hard to make. Ms. Clews kept the horse and cancelled the wedding. Velvet, actually more of a pony, won the day.

Pamela is quoted as saying: "I decided in favor of the horse ... Velvet is beautiful and is really the only love of my life."


The moral of the story is, never try to come between a woman and her horse.

It may not have been such a bad choice on Lucy's part. It seems Clive was upset because he felt Lucy could not afford to keep a horse once she was his wife. So Lucy stayed single and became a bus conductress. Which apparently provided enough to provide for her and for Velvet.

Velvet: not really a "looker" as far as horses go.
Velvet: not really a "looker" as far as horses go.


While ultimatums may seem reasonable when they occur to you, you have to be aware that they are hostile and confrontational--which means there is a very good chance you will not get the outcome you really want. You may in fact be giving people an escape clause just when they want it, because they are just as frustrated with you as you are with them!

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...And the public voted is leaning heavily pro-pony. So I guess Pamela is not the only one who tends to think that a pony is more trustworthy than a guy?

Horse Divorce

In related news a Saudi man apparently divorced his wife after see posted a photo where she gave her horse a kiss. Surely this is taking jealously a little too far?

But seriously...

Horses require a considerable input of time, money and attention. it is important to have clear agreements with close family members such as spouses about how a horse will fit into your lifestyle, as well as who has ownership of the horse or whether it is marital property.


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      An AYM 

      6 years ago

      I enjoy the inclusion of "Bus conductress" as though it's a job that leaves innocent viewers hot under the collar.

    • Ann1Az2 profile image


      6 years ago from Orange, Texas

      I wouldn't have the married the guy, either. Who did he think he was, anyway? Great hub and voted up.

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      6 years ago

      He's not a particularly handsome pony, but I guess that's not the important thing :)

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      Hollie Thomas 

      6 years ago from United Kingdom

      Good for Ms. Clews, I'd take a pony over a man any day of the the week, even if he was a bit tatty looking!

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      Highland Terrier 

      6 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      I love it. Well done Ms Clews.


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