How To Cope With The Loss Of a Pet
Sometimes we can be closer to the animals in our lives than humans, so it is understandable that dealing with the loss of a pet is not an easy thing to do. Our pets do not ever judge us or intentionally hurt us. How do we deal with losing something so close to us? I have had many pets pass away, including cats and dogs, and it is never an easy thing to go through. I am going to tell you how I personally dealt with it, and give you some tips if you need help coping with the loss of your pet.
Rest in Peace to all of my furbabies<3
It has been over 4 years since we had to put Phoebe to sleep. Phoebe was my amazing dog that I had for about 15 years. We adopted her from our local shelter. She was like my sister. I went through grade school, through middle school, and through high school with her. Its been over 4 years and I still think about her all the time.
That is why I have written this. I know what it feels like and have lost many companions. It is not an easy thing to do. Many people don't understand how a person can be so attached to their pet, but if you have ever had a pet, then you know how it is possible. They were a part of your family, and are still a part of your heart.
How to cope
1. Find Support:
When Phoebe passed away, I found an incredible website dedicated to helping people cope with the loss of their pet. It helped me so much to talk with people who cared and understood what I was going through. The people on the website never judge. They give you support and will talk with you about how you are feeling. If you are interested in getting support from people online who will listen, visit Pet Loss website and the message board link is Pet Loss Message Board. If you have someone that you can talk to in person that is great too.
Let out your pain. Yes, you can cry. Its okay to not hold everything inside. Cry until you can't cry anymore. It is part of the healing process. I cried for weeks before and weeks after Phoebe passed away. I still cry to this day when I think about her. Your tears only show how much you deeply care about your pet.
3. Make a memorial:
Any type of memorial will do. I gathered every picture that I could find of Phoebe and put them into a blog online. My boyfriend also got me a photo album and put all of her pictures in it as a surprise. I now I have a whole photo album dedicated to her. Looking back on the good times will put a smile on your face. You gave your pet love and happiness. Looking back on those memories will make you happy!
Here is a great way to make an easy memorial for your pet. Go to True Friends Memorial to make a memorial about a cat, dog, other animal, or even a person.
Writing can really help you cope with the loss of a pet. Get a journal or start a blog online. You have to let out your feelings and writing is a great way to do that.
5. Don't dwell on the bad things:
There are things every pet owner wishes they didn't do - or they wish they did some things differently. I know I do. Regret is a part of life, but there were probably more good things to remember than bad. So don't dwell on the bad. Focus on the good! Your pet loves you unconditionally and they know you love them too.
6. Know your pet is in a better place:
They are not suffering anymore and they are in a better place.
Books to help you heal
These are some books to help you cope with the loss of your pet.
You made their life better...
Many animals don't get to feel the love of a human or a warm hug. You gave your pet something so many don't get to experience. You will never forget them, but they want you to be happy. Keep living your life, and don't forget the paw print they left on your heart :)
Retrieving The Ball
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