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Create A Memorial Book

Updated on September 22, 2014

Hold On To Your Memories

Have you found yourself wanting to hold onto all of the cards, clippings, and mementos from the passing of your loved one? Are you unsure of what to do with them? If you are like me, you collect so many things and have a hard time letting them go. Well, you do not have to. In fact, it's a good thing you held onto those things because you can make an outstanding memorial book about your loved one. Go ahead, take out the old pictures. Dust off the newspaper clippings. I found that making a memorial book was very therapeutic and a testimony to the love I had in my heart. Now read on and find out how you can make a memorial book!


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What is a memorial book?

A memorial book is a written record of the passing of a loved one. It can be recorded in a scrapbook, video, webpage, or diary. There is no wrong way to keep the memories of your heart. Some suggested inclusions in a memorial book are:

Obituaries

Eulogies

Stories shared by family and friends

Pictures--Do not be afraid to have pictures if they are already deceased. There are times when that is the only instance where you can take a picture, such as in my case. We often see this as weird, but taking pictures is actually a tradition that dates back to the early age of photography. Do not hesitate to take pictures or have someone do them for you. I think you will find that you treasure them.

Family Tree

Cards of Sympathy

Dried flowers


Our Story

Little did I know, but in January of 2009 a new life had begun. As with my other two pregnancies, I had no symptoms. Some women talk of morning sickness, but with all 3 of my pregnancies I never suspected anything until well into the second month. By March, I had what I thought was a normal period. I had suspected I was pregnant, but then figured that with a period I was not pregnant as I had suspected.

In April, I then had the signs. I knew it for sure and confirmed my pregnancy with a home pregnancy test. I immediately made an appointment with my doctor. She could not get me in until May, so I had to eagerly wait.

On May 11, I stayed at work until 9 pm. There was an awards ceremony which I had to coordinate. I came home around 9:30. As soon as I walked downstairs to greet my husband, he noticed blood. My first reaction was maybe I wasn't pregnant. I went to Wal-Mart and bought a home pregnancy test. I took it in the public stall in the store and called my husband when it came up positive. He made arrangements for the kids and met me at the hospital. The doctor ran tests and listened to the healthy heartbeat. He tried to prepare me by saying tissue would pass. I cringe now thinking of those words. Tissue??

“Nothing prepared me for what happened.”
I was told nothing could be done and an ultrasound was scheduled for the morning. We went home and waited for the ultrasound appointment. I did not sleep all night due to cramping. There was no blood, but I continued to cramp. My husband left for work while I rested until the appointment. I was on bedrest, and I laid there until 9:30 am. I needed to use the bathroom, and out he came. All 1 pounds of him. Fully formed "tissue"..yeah right. He was a fully formed 19 week old baby.

What happened next was a whirlwind of rushing to the ER, going by ambulance to another facility for surgery to remove the placenta, losing 50% of my blood volume, passing out, and slowly recovering in my hospital bed. In the middle of all this, my husband had the clearmindedness to ask someone to take pictures. You see we never had baby blankets, no baby book, no booties, nothing to remember him by. Pictures, though, are the connection we now have to him. Months later, I started on a scrapbook for him. I feel that healing has begun by doing this. I also plan on using this book as a testimony to his life.

Scrapbook Your Memories

Nothing is more hands on than scrapbooking your memorial book. You can personalize it and add mementos of your loved one's death. Be sure to save cards, flowers, newspaper clippings. These more personalized items will make your pages stand out and give it that special touch. . You can make a truly amazing keepsake.
Before you begin, you will need to have the right equipment and know the basics of creating a scrapbook page. So let's look at the basics before you begin..

Here is an example of how I used condolance cards.

Here is an example of how I used condolance cards.
Here is an example of how I used condolance cards.
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The Basics

Adhesives, pens, paper, boarders, and embellishments

Adhesives come in many forms- tape, glue, foam buttons, and strips. Be sure that when you buy adhesive that you look for one that says "made for scrapbooking" or "acid-free". I prefer the dispensers with adhesive strips inside. They are easy to use, but an acid free glue stick will also do the job.

Paper comes in all colors and patterns. The most common sizes are 8X8 and 12X12. These sizes are made for scrapbooks. When choosing what size of scrapbook you want, you may want to think about portability. The smaller size is much more convenient than the 12X12.

Embellishments are so vast in type. Basically anything that is not a picture on the page would be considered an embellishment. Examples include: charms, buttons, fabric, bows, brads. There are endless possibilities, so do not get caught up in the details.


A Family Diary

A touching video diary of a little girl who had Metachromatic Leukodystrophy. A disease close to my heart because two of my cousins also have it.

How We Kept His Ashes

How We Kept His Ashes
How We Kept His Ashes
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Online Memorial Pages And Scrabook Resources

Memory Press will help organize your memorial book. Create an invitation for family and friends to share their photos and memories.

Last-Memories will make a webpage memorial and convert it into a hard copy for you.

Instant Forever will create a memorial book using your photographs and allow family and friends to share their memories.

E book:Create an ebook that can be downloaded onto your computer into high quality photographs.


In order to make a similar page, use an envelope that coordinates with your page. You can either cut off the top flap of the envelope or cut off the back part of an envelope. I then used adhesive tape to secure the envelope back onto the page. This made for a perfect way to store condolence cards that I did not use in scrapbooking. I love how I can just pull out the cards are read them over and over. It really does help in the healing process especially hearing from other mothers who have been through the same thing.

Pooh Corner by Kenny Loggins - I'll meet you at Pooh Corner at one. Christopher 5/12/10-5/12/10. We love you.

How do you keep memories of the loved ones you have lost?

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      singnscrap 3 years ago

      I recently lost my wonderful husband of 46 years. I am in the process of creating a Memorial Scrapbook in his honor. It is difficult at times, but is a catharsis as well. I am also planning on recording a CD for him. He had asked me to do so before his passing, but time ran out on us. I was a professional singer (in the day) and so I will use my Karaoke machine to record some of his favorite songs. I then intend to make a copy of the CD, and place one where he now lies and the original in the scrapbook.

      Perhaps your followers might like to record some special message or make a compilation of their loved ones favorite songs to place in their albums. Just an idea.

      I am so sorry for your loss.

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      amkatee 4 years ago

      @Ramkitten2000: Thank you. I'm glad this gave you some ideas. Even if you do not feel very creative, you can make a great memorial book. There are so many types of papers and embellishments out there, but the most important ones are what you have saved that remind you your parents.

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      Deb Kingsbury 4 years ago from Flagstaff, Arizona

      Very sorry for your loss. I've never had children myself, but I very recently lost my mom. (Just a few days ago, actually.) I love the idea of a memorial book--for both of my parents. That's a good idea as I've been wondering what to do with certain mementos. I think the family would love seeing something like that.

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      Lori Green 5 years ago from Las Vegas

      I am sorry about your loss. I had 2 of them but, 3 healthy girls in the end. I always wonder about the children that weren't meant to be. I like to think the souls were just not ready and needed to go back. God Bless you and your family.

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      Miha Gasper 5 years ago from Ljubljana, Slovenia, EU

      I do keep memories of my losses and i found it can be painful but very healing in the long term. Thanks for sharing your story. Sorry about your loss...

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      Pastor Cher 5 years ago from United States

      Amy, you have been through so much these past few years I know it must be difficult for you. Please know that our prayers are with you and your family.

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      Maria Burgess 5 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

      I stuff things into my journal at the moment intending to put them in a scrapbook eventually. This was a neat lens! Beautiful page here! =)

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      Maria Burgess 5 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

      I stuff things into my journal at the moment intending to put them in a scrapbook eventually. This was a neat lens! Beautiful page here! =)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Oh darlin', thank you for sharing your story and turning it into something positive here. I think the memorial book is a really good idea. I had never thought of it. Def. going to use it!

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      smithlights 5 years ago

      Wow. What a story. My niece was delivered via c-section at 34 weeks because she had a brain tumor. Her life was a short 29 days, but I am so glad we have photos and handprints and whatnot of her! Thanks for sharing your story with us! And I'm so sorry for your loss.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 6 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      The Memorial Book could be such an important part of the healing process after losing a loved one. I am so sorry for your loss.

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      Virginia Allain 6 years ago from Central Florida

      This is quite helpful to anyone who has suffered such a loss.

      I've made a Squidoo lens for my sister Shannon who died at age 49. It soothes me to revisit it and to enhance it now and then.

      I'll lensroll this to my Honor a Loved One with a Memorial Webpage.

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      VarietyWriter2 6 years ago

      Blessed by a SquidAngel :)

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      LouiseKirkpatrick 6 years ago from Berkshire, United Kingdom

      I think that it's important for people to realise that there's no "right or wrong" way to deal with grief...anything that helps healing and acceptance is a good thing. I think that the fact that you have a photograph of your baby is wonderful and it's obviously helping you a great deal. I've long had an interest in Victorian & Edwardian "memento mori" (literally "memories of the dead") and this subject is mentioned here in the Wikipedia article you've included - it seems strange that society was probably more geared up to face and accept death and grief in the past than it is now, where people just seem uncomfortable with thinking about it, so they find dealing with loss and grief so difficult. A helpful and thought provoking lens - blessed by a SquidAngel :)

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      A reminder that even at such a stressful time, if you think ahead it can really help the grieving and healing process.

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      BobbyBOOMBOOMBi 6 years ago

      Great lens with great ideas. As someone who has done something like this before I can tell you things like this make prize possesions.

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      jillian22 6 years ago

      Right now I have all pictures, notes and cards in a box, however, I hope to create a squidoo lens about them.

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      nukemdomis lm 6 years ago

      This lens made me think. That is always a good thing.

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      Gamganny 6 years ago

      Great lens on the importance of memories...they make us who we are today. Blessed by an Angel.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Informative lens you got there!