12 Principles of good listening
Following are the principles of good listening
1-Maintain eye contact. This is the first and foremost principle of good listening. It helps the listener to concentrate on the speaker’s words. It save him from distracting his attention from the spaeaker.
2-Focus on content, not delivery. A Good listener never focus on the delivery ,he always become all ears for the contents. He does not allow his attention to go astray from the words of the speaker.
3-Avoid emotional involvement. When you are too emotionally involved in listening, you tend to hear what you want to hear--not what is actually being said. Try to remain objective and open-minded.
4-Avoid diversion and distraction. A good and active listener focus on the contents he is listening not the nearby voices or sounds.
5-Consider the listening an inspiring intellectual job. Listening to an educational lecture is not a passive work. It is always edifying and useful for listener that is why he should take listening as an inspiring job.
6- Ask questions in your mind. Active listening keeps you alert. Always ask yourself some questions about the contents of the speaker. Keep evaluating his ideas during listening.
7- Keep your mind focused on the Speech.
Use the rate of speech and your rate of thought to anticipate what the speaker will say next.
In this way you will be able to keep your mind from straying.
8-do not interrupt the speaker. Let the speaker complete his speech or lecture and then ask question if any .Let yourself finish listening before you begin to speak.
9- Try to infer the main idea .The main ideas are the most important points the speaker wants to convey. Always try to infer the theme of the contents of the speaker.
10- Express that you are listening and understanding. Try to look at the speaker and express your attention by nodding now and then. Appropriate feedback at different points with smile, frown or laugh shows that you are actively involved in listening.
11-Remain Objective .Avoid emotional involvement because it will deviate your attention from the real contents of the speech.
12- Do not make assumptions about the speaker.
Never let your mind to assume something about the speaker before he finishes his speech or lecture. It will make you emotional or biased before the conclusion and you will not listen objectively.