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Accentuate the Positive - Eliminate the Negative

Updated on July 4, 2012

Who Taught You How to Think?

Thinking is one thing we all can agree on, right? WE ALL do it. But have you ever thought about why you think the way you do? If you have, cheers to you!

There is a mass of information about this topic, but I want to share my experience, hoping, in some way, it will help you.

I remember the book my mom checked out of the bookmobile back in the early 1950's: the title was "Think and Grow Rich". Since our little house was in need of much repair and we always needed more money than we had, I thought that this was indeed a most excellent book to read!

Decades later, this very same book was on the suggested reading list of the insurance company that I worked for. I was in sales.

It was very important that every sales agent have a plan for the day, the week, the month, even the quarter. Most folks will recognize the phrase '"PLAN YOUR WORK, THEN WORK YOUR PLAN".

As my male supervisor taught me, writing things down kept your mind focused on exactly what you wanted to accomplish. It is an easy way to "stay on track".

This way of doing things is the same in most all of America's organizations and businesses.

But what about the people who are never in sales or even finish high school?

I have observed that most folks are willing to spend their time thinking and talking about "nothing in particular" and indeed, fall into the habit of complaining...a lot.

Men and women seem to spend too much time thinking about negative situations. When life looks pretty good, they will point out what is NOT working rather than being thankful for what is working. It is called "worrying"; or some refer to it as "being realistic".

I remember with clarity when my mother lamented that her doctor had told her to stop worrying.

Big mistake! A woman's mind is going to think...and think. The doctor failed to remind my mother to concentrate on the thoughts about what was right, not what was wrong.

And it is really that simple. Accenuate the positive and eliminate the negative.

Here is what you do. When your mind is wanting to say anything negative, substitute a "happy thought" instead. In other words, count your blessings.

I call it the five wishes game. And it drives my friends nuts sometimes. Instead of staying in a quagmire of misery, we just talk about the good things, the fun and beautiful things that we want to see happen.

My good friend had a habit of going over and over what she could have done, what she wished she had done about a certain situation. I suggested that we take turns and speak of our heart felt wish about a particular want in her life because she could not go moves forward. No amount of talking will ever change that fact.

Finally she got it, and realized that the positive principle comes from Hebrews 11:1. Most churches teach faith based living, but if you don't attend church, how do you learn? Hopefully from someone like me.

There was a song that was very popular when I was a young girl, maybe four years old, that stayed inside my head and heart. Watch Bing Crosby sing this timeless tune ON "Accenuate the Positive".

Remember that "faith is the confidant assurance that what YOU WANT is coming to pass".


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      Facebook - ZONA GAYLE 6 years ago from Georgia, USA

      Thank you for your comment. The female hormonal cycle has much to do with the negative feelings and thoughts we get. I have found that upbeat positive music is very helpful at these times. Also, I suggest a female "female" doctor to keep a close look @ progesterone, estrogen, and testosterone hormone levels.I have observed women of all ages to completely ignore their mood swings. God bless and good health to you

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      acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

      I so agree with you. I try continuously to be positive, sometimes easier said than done, but I endeavour to work on it!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Zona, I wish you would write about what you believe in reincarnation. I know you have had some experiences that i would love to read about. Maybe they need to be shared, perhaps helping someone on their journey. Thank you my friend

      God's Speed

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      Facebook - ZONA GAYLE 6 years ago from Georgia, USA

      It is a joy to read your comments. We just write and write and TIME flies by "as fast as a speeding bullet".

      As we get older in EARTH time, our family and friends leave us for other dimensions...we have to reach out to new friends...thanks for reaching back.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Zona, This is so wonderful and full of truth. We cannot change yesterday, but we can certainly change tomorrow.. Having a positive attitude brings freedom from worry. I have not always known this..It's a work in progress. Thank you for a thought provoking hub. Take care my friend.