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Accentuate the Positive - Eliminate the Negative
Who Taught You How to Think?
Thinking is one thing we all can agree on, right? WE ALL do it. But have you ever thought about why you think the way you do? If you have, cheers to you!
There is a mass of information about this topic, but I want to share my experience, hoping, in some way, it will help you.
I remember the book my mom checked out of the bookmobile back in the early 1950's: the title was "Think and Grow Rich". Since our little house was in need of much repair and we always needed more money than we had, I thought that this was indeed a most excellent book to read!
Decades later, this very same book was on the suggested reading list of the insurance company that I worked for. I was in sales.
It was very important that every sales agent have a plan for the day, the week, the month, even the quarter. Most folks will recognize the phrase '"PLAN YOUR WORK, THEN WORK YOUR PLAN".
As my male supervisor taught me, writing things down kept your mind focused on exactly what you wanted to accomplish. It is an easy way to "stay on track".
This way of doing things is the same in most all of America's organizations and businesses.
But what about the people who are never in sales or even finish high school?
I have observed that most folks are willing to spend their time thinking and talking about "nothing in particular" and indeed, fall into the habit of complaining...a lot.
Men and women seem to spend too much time thinking about negative situations. When life looks pretty good, they will point out what is NOT working rather than being thankful for what is working. It is called "worrying"; or some refer to it as "being realistic".
I remember with clarity when my mother lamented that her doctor had told her to stop worrying.
Big mistake! A woman's mind is going to think...and think. The doctor failed to remind my mother to concentrate on the thoughts about what was right, not what was wrong.
And it is really that simple. Accenuate the positive and eliminate the negative.
Here is what you do. When your mind is wanting to say anything negative, substitute a "happy thought" instead. In other words, count your blessings.
I call it the five wishes game. And it drives my friends nuts sometimes. Instead of staying in a quagmire of misery, we just talk about the good things, the fun and beautiful things that we want to see happen.
My good friend had a habit of going over and over what she could have done, what she wished she had done about a certain situation. I suggested that we take turns and speak of our heart felt wish about a particular want in her life because she could not go backwards...life moves forward. No amount of talking will ever change that fact.
Finally she got it, and realized that the positive principle comes from Hebrews 11:1. Most churches teach faith based living, but if you don't attend church, how do you learn? Hopefully from someone like me.
There was a song that was very popular when I was a young girl, maybe four years old, that stayed inside my head and heart. Watch Bing Crosby sing this timeless tune ON http://www.youtube.com "Accenuate the Positive".
Remember that "faith is the confidant assurance that what YOU WANT is coming to pass".