Are we really Listening?
•••► Quick Question... "Don't you just hate it, ,when people talk over you? ~ Me too!
I listen to Judge Judy a lot and I laugh when she says: “God gave you 2 ears and one mouth for a reason.” I think listening is a skill and a quality. Some were born with it, but like me, most of us have had to learn it.
I have learnt:
a) Listening to your Spouse/Partner - You will know what they need, what makes them happy or if anything is hurting them deep inside.
b) Listening to little Kids – You will hear what they are not saying. What really happened in the playground. The bit they missed out and more. If a kids is inappropriately touched, it will come out at some point, if a parent listens. (I was hesitant to include that, but child abuse has risen in the last few years). On a positive, what they say could give clues to Christmas/Birthday gifts you can get them.
c) Listening to Teens – From their conversation, you will know where they are heading to, or if they are being led astray. Without even meeting their friends, you will already have an idea of who they are.
d) Your Heart - Everyone has an intuition. What is yours saying to you about certain situations? What is your gut feeling? Our gut feeling is usually right.
e) The sounds of Nature – Isn’t nature beautiful? Listen to the sounds of the sea, birds singing. Listening to the sounds of nature is also therapeutic and helps with creative ideas.
f) Listening to a Friend – Was there a cry for help in those words spoken, when they were talking to you? Are there warning bells you need to give them? Is there something that warrants you planning them a nice surprise? Maybe, they casually mentioned they passed an Exam or achieved something.
g) Listening to Customers – No need to get all defensive, if there is Criticism. A business should see it as constructive criticism. Customer feedback helps improve business.
h) Listening to my Creator – “Be still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10 God will speak if we are quiet and listen.
Some Effective Ways of Listening:
- Listen without Judging – Try not to jump to conclusions. If someone is telling you about one side of a fight, remember you haven’t heard the other side.
- Listen without interrupting – It’s not nice talking over people, when they are talking to you. Some actually would stop talking because it implies they are not being listened to.
- Listen using eye contact – Give some eye contact.
- Re-assurance – the usual “Umhs” and “ahs”, nodding of head etc. So they know you are listening.
In summary, there are many benefits of Listening and every profession requires it.
Quote: Every person is a living Treasure Box. ~ Listening holds the key.
~ Are you a Good Listener? ~