Be Your Own Life Coach: Self-Coaching Questionnaire
I’d like to share with you another simple yet powerful process (in addition to the hub: Coaching Self-Assessment and Action Plan), to help you gain insight into any issue that has been getting in your way.
I am a professional training consultant, business coach, and life coach and have been for most of my working life, and this is a process that I have seen work for many people.
A Self-Coaching Process (fifteen-minutes)
Set aside a quiet space where you won't be interrupted for at least fifteen minutes and quite simply, read each question and write down your answer.
Each of the questions has been formulated to help you gain insight into how to proceed with something that hasn’t quite worked for you. The process is typical of that followed by most Coaches but it hasn’t been designed to replace the need for a one-to-one coaching discussion. It’s merely a method to help you gain direction when you aren’t sure of the way forward.
Choose a goal or an issue that is affecting you at the moment and simply write down the answers to the questions below. It’s important that you actually write (or type) the answers in full to create the necessary awareness. Don’t think too much about your answers. Trust your first thoughts and write the first thing that comes to mind.
- What is the issue you would like to work on?
- What effect does it have?
- What would you like to achieve?
- What would be really good about achieving it?
- How will you know you’ve achieved it?
- What specifically do you want to achieve from this self-coaching exercise during the next 15 minutes?
- What have you done so far in regards to addressing this issue?
- What has worked?
- What hasn’t worked?
- What haven’t you been doing?
- Why haven’t you solved it yet?
- Which parts are within your control?
- What could you do?
- What have you seen work?
- What would you do if you were ten years younger?
- If someone you knew and respected was in the exact same position regarding this issue, what might they do?
- Think of someone you admire and respect, anyone at all that would have experience in dealing with this issue. Imagine you asked them for advice on this issue. What do you think they might say?
- What would happen if you did nothing?
- Of all the options so far which one interests you most?
- What are you going to do?
- What is the specific first action you will take and exactly when will that be?
- Rate yourself out of ten, as to how confident you are that you will be doing this?
- If your rating is less than 10, what will you do to increase it?
- Rate, out of ten, how far you’ve moved forward on this issue since you started this exercise.
When All Is Said and Done.....
When all is said and done, a lot more is said than done!
Unless you take action, this has been a waste of time. At this stage, don't think of what you could, would, should, might, must, or will try to do. Decide on what you definitely will be doing. Transfer at least one action that you will be taking into your diary. Ensure that the action is specific, in other words, it describes:
- What you will actually be doing.
- How you will be doing it.
- How well you will be doing it.
- When you will be doing it.
- When you will have completed it.
- How you will know when you have been successful.
- What support you might need from others to achieve it.
I look forward to hearing how well this has worked for you.