Better My Life, Please
The Importance of Improvement
Yea. you... Ya look fantastic today ;P
But without farther flattery, the first, greatest, and most important idea on here is Improvement. What is it? Well, to me, it is the idea of constant action, evaluation, and improved action. This means that we go about our day with purpose, seek out opportunities to look at how we function, and learn how we can function better.
I believe in the philosophy of efficiency, so I will keep this short and sweet. Let me know if you would like to go more into depth.
Improvement in itself is undeniably one of the most important ideas known to man, it plays a role in everything, even other skills. This is why it's so valuable to learn and practice consistently. Something we need to understand is that improvement is NOT a passive ability, one cannot become more skilled at an activity if they are not doing it! So, we must change our mindset, enter a different paradigm, and then we will be able to start improving our skills and ourselves.
Easy steps to embrace improvement:
1. Acquire the right mindset
To improve upon anything, we must first have the desire to improve. An easy way to get a determined mindset and be ready to take action is to watch a motivational video on YouTube.
2. Take Action
Don't worry about failure, in fact, seek it out. The more we fail at something the more we learn about it, and the more we learn, the better we get, the less we fail, and it goes on and on like that. A wise man once said, "Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently" -Henry Ford
3. Make Habits
Habits define the rest of our lives, they are literally the sequences of actions, imprinted in our brains so heavily, that we carry them out regularly without thought or much effort.
Take advantage of this, and make habits of the skills you are improving, this will permanently better them. It takes about 21 days on average for a habit to stick. Once we have consciously implemented an action for 21 days it becomes second nature, and then we can devote our time to the next goal.
Personally what I do to help myself remember is put up sticky notes, with what I need to do on them, and when I need to do it by. I place these sticky notes on a large mirror in my room that is divided into different sections with different sticky notes in each respective category.
(That's just what I use, you can copy that, or also come up with your own innovative ideas that are better fitted to you.)
What does everyone want?
It seems to me like like everyone wants a friend; that's just the truth. In fact, humans are genetically wired to be a social people, we thrive off of a community. Meaning, that no one was destined to be alone. Yay.
The Common Misconception:
I know I sure am guilty of this.. You probably are too. Imagine meeting someone on the street for the first time, it's intimidating. We wonder what they are thinking, do they like me? What do they think about me? Furthermore, we are apt to only think inside of our own heads, instead of thinking about the situation objectively; "This person is so much more comfortable with other people, they must just not like me."
This is why most people can't feel comfortable meeting people that they've never talked to before, because they are so focused on their own feelings that they don't take the time to put themselves in the other person's shoes. You get what I'm saying?
In fact, when two people meet, the same thing is going on in both their heads, they are worried about how they are being perceived by the other person, or the people around them. If you think that other people arn't self conscious, your wrong.
Beginning From Nothing
I look at times I meet new people as opportunities to make something else possible in my future. You never know who you could be standing next to until you take the time to talk to them. Of course it will be awkward at first, or else that would be weird.. But think about it, if you were waiting in line at the grocery store, and the person behind you began talking to you; it was awkward at first, and you didn't know what to say, but that was alright because they took the burden of the conversation. After a little while you became comfortable and began opening up to them, you swapped contact information. They happened to have an upcoming dinner party that you got invited to, there you met your future fiance. Think of the possibilities. This is why meeting new people is so valuable and intriguing to me, and I hope it is for you too.
I'll talk more about the techniques of making new friends in the next post. Share with your friends if you thought this was useful.