Body Language at work or during an interview
What you speak isn't half of, what they think
It comes with no surprise that men and women have different ways they express themselves through use of body language. When in a work environment, it is imperative that you know how to read others as well as control your body language and portray in every way that you are saying what it is you intend to say. If you have read my hub, “Body language that suggest they are lying to you”, it was focused of how to perceive whether or not someone is being deceptive. But judging whether or not someone is lying is not the only reason to learn how to read someone’s body language.
In the working world, especially with the economy trying to recover and the job market not recovering fast enough, it is important that you know how people perceive you and more importantly, why you are perceived this way. I have compiled some suggestions having to do with body language perceptions, so that when you are in a meeting or interview you are not being seen as someone you may not be.
Great Video with some Great Info for Interviews
Body Language and Amazon
Your First Impression Always Counts
About 70% of the first impression that you leave with someone, is due to your body language, and for this reason, you need to know how to use and control it so you are giving an accurate perception of your personality and attitude.
When we are faced with something we have distaste for, we attempt to ‘block it from sight’, blocking something from sight can be something as simple as closing your eyes or rubbing them. Squinting your eyes at someone can also indicate dislike and disapproval. So if you have allergies, get some eye drops, if you need glasses, go to the optometrist, because you may be telling people you do not like them, and not even know it.
The reason that eyes are suggested to be the window to our souls is because we can not completely control them. Whenever we lie are eyes stay true to ourselves and speak the truth. We can restrain from rubbing them, or keep ourselves from blinking rapidly, but not from dilation. When we see something we like or someone that we are interested in, our pupils will dilate, when we rest our eyes upon something we don’t like the pupils constrict. Same goes for the eye brows. Pupils dilate, brows rise, they constricted and the brow lowers.
The eyes can bring someone to their knees, they can say embarrassed, humbles, proud or shy. When we have a crush and are shy about it, we may make brief eye contact, locking on one another for a moment and break away. If you can learn to control how you use your eye expressions, you can easily begin to dominate every situations and conversations that you have.
Men and Women show different Body Language
An insecure woman may play with a necklace or place her hand above her heart on her chest. If the woman is pregnant, she may move her hand from her chest/neck area and then down towards her baby belly (think of this as if she is first calming herself, and then moves her hand towards her belly to calm and protect her child).
An insecure man-may play with his tie or rub the back of his neck. The movement of the man is more vigorous than the smooth glide of the woman’s movement.
Another difference between how a woman and man use body language as a form of communication is; a man will typically try to claim dominance in a situation. Pressing his hands together, finger to finger, palm to palm and then stretching the fingers outwards to make a tent. Woman may also do this, but primarily this is a gesture that is master by men. In the event a woman does display this gesture it is never at the same level as a man, who will hold his hands level to his chest or chin. A woman keeps her hands lower, and does not maintain the tent shape to her hands. She intertwines her fingers, and holds her hands in front of her. As the mans gesture means dominance, the woman’s means lack of confidence. Think of this as-a mans hands are held at the chin, just where he would hold them if he was preparing to fight and his hands were clenched into a fist. A woman hands low and in front, fingers laced-as if she was praying…Please God, end this argument-I feel so stupid.
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Show who you are in the most beneficial way possible
Have you ever been in a business meeting and noticed that the person next to use has their ankles wrapped around the legs of their chair? This indicates that the person is uncomfortable. When someone is asked a difficult question, have you ever noticed that the start to kick their foot as they think how to answer it? From business meetings to interviews the same rules apply. This is a situation where you do want to dominate the conversation, or at least portray that you are confident in your abilities to get the job done and done right. While explaining your ideas or speaking of yourself, it is appropriate to make the tent or steeple shape with your hands, but not when you are talking about how you worked over someone else and managed their daily tasks. You want to appear fair, strong, but not like the office bully. If you can’t tell when your hands can be used to help you express yourself effectively while not offending or demeaning someone, just keep them at your side or resting in front of you on a note pad.
- If you are in a job interview, keep eye contact.
- Do not let your eyes wonder around the room. Whether or not you mean to, you are telling them that you are bored and uninterested.
- Don’t sit, with your back against the back of the chair, this shows disrespect for the discussion, and tells the interviewer that you are cocky and feel as if you are better than what the discussion is.
- If you want to show interest, tilt your head ever so slightly, to relax your neck and keep eye contact.
- Keeping eye contact does not mean fixing on another person's eyes, at least not continuously throughout a conversation. You may give someone the creeps, or look as though you are confrontational.
- Eye contact should have rests of 4-5seconds. Look down at your notebook, or glance in front of you, but make sure that your eyes don’t wonder, you do need to make it back to the conversation that you are having.
- Sit up straight and slightly lean into the conversation (ladies, keep your knees together, ankles together, and if it is more comfortable, bring your feet in slightly towards you.
- Men, keep your legs no more than 5-6 inches apart, no one needs to know, nor do they probably care about the goods between your legs-there is no need to sit with your legs spread wide apart. Keep one leg bent at/or close to a 45 degree angle the other can be slightly taken back, as if in a walking position).
- Do not sit on the edge of the chair, keep your rear end planted firmly in the center of the seat. You don’t want to appear as if you are ready to run away, nor ready to fall asleep. When you sit in the center of your seat, it is as if you are wide awake, planting your roots and ready to start the job.
- Make sure that your tone and facial expressions along with your body language fit well together.
- If you are frowning while saying enthusiastically that you had the most fantastic weekend, you will either come off as being psychotic or sarcastic. So if that is not your intention, be aware of how you say, what you say and the way you look to others when you say it.
- Be confident, but not cocky. People want for someone to speak at their level, neither over nor below them.