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Makalehua--How I Found My Long Lost Sister on eBay!

Updated on August 24, 2013
Mom, Siblings, and Me - Christmas, 1968
Mom, Siblings, and Me - Christmas, 1968 | Source
Coach Handbag and Wallet Set
Coach Handbag and Wallet Set | Source
Reyn Spooner Xmas Aloha Shirt
Reyn Spooner Xmas Aloha Shirt | Source
Iolani Hawaiian Print Dress
Iolani Hawaiian Print Dress | Source

And When I Opened My Eyes...

There are a million and one stories on eBay. This is just one of them.

What's unique about this tale is that it involves an irony of ironies...the epitome of paradoxical situations.

But, first, some background information is in order as a prelude to my story.

I was the oldest of six children in my family of origin. The above photo was taken sometime in the fall or winter months in our back yard. As you can see, we didn't have any snow that day. In fact, for as long as I lived on Kaua'i, it never did snow. Rumor has it that the white stuff eventually showed up on the highest elevations of the dormant volcanoes on the Big Island as well as on Maui's Mt. Haleakala, so maybe there's hope yet that Jack Frost will show up one of these days on the Garden Island. I mean, the weather patterns swirling around our big blue marble are getting crazier every year, so you just never know.

For now, the local people of Kaua'i happily plop down their hard-earned greenbacks for the closest thing to snow that they can find in this tropical Eden--the sweet, succulent, cool, and miniscule particles of shave ice, the island's decisively superior version of snow cones. And the people's choice award? Every year, the vendor from Kapa'a, the humble Okinawan man who--if you believe the hype you hear in the local barber shops--made a million dollar business out of finely chopped-up blocks of ice, flavored by a dozen or so tropical nectars in a rainbow's spectrum of, if you'll pardon the pun, the very chill Aaron Furugen.

Ah, but I digress. Aaron will have to take his place in line with the hundreds of other Hub ideas doing a Snap! Crackle! Pop! number inside my coconut of a head. I swear, ever since I joined HubPages, my brain has been on this non-stop recess where the elementary school kids from kindergarten to Grade 6 are released all at once from their classrooms, each of them immediately diving into a roller coaster Robin Williams know, the kind where anything and everything is fair game as an improvisational prop.

Okay, reel it in. These people, followers or not, have only so much time and even less patience with this helter skelter rambling. They'll bang that gong quicker than snot and scurry off to hop another Hub if you take them on a trip to Peru...

Sorry, folks, I was just having a talk, never mind.

So, in that picture above, starting with the front row, that's Glenn (9) on the left, Jan (8) in the center, and Silas (who wants to be called Charlie) (6). The pretty woman with the beehive is Mom, and next to her is Kathleen (12). In the back, that's Gerald (14) on the right, and yours truly (16) on the left.

In 1968, my father--a young police officer at the time--took that family photo with a Kodak Brownie camera.

Back in the day, it was a cool camera, alright. But its shutter speed paled in comparison to the ethereal light year passage of time.

A nano-second after my dad took that picture, I blinked.

And when I opened my eyes, it would be 44 years later...

Mu'umu'u by Hawaiian Designer, Mamo Howell
Mu'umu'u by Hawaiian Designer, Mamo Howell | Source
Japanese Geisha Shopping Bag
Japanese Geisha Shopping Bag | Source

Just 'Round the Bend

That's what life does to us.

When we're children, it seems like we have forever to grow up.

And, then, good or bad, sad or happy, there's a strange kind of inexplicable switch that's turned on. We don't notice it because by the time it happens, we're so consumed by all the goals and deadlines we've got to meet; responsibilities and obligations we need to attend to; new relationships, including love and marriage and babies; careers; and personal pursuits.

I mean, that's just the way life is.

At some point in time, it's imperative to cut the apron strings, not just the ones attached to Mom or Dad, but the ones less talked about in sociology classes or on Oprah...the strings that once kept us anchored to our siblings.

For me, personally, the feelings about this necessary and universal transition were mixed. I was more of a home boy, not especially intrigued by the romantic notion of travel, and yet there was this growing restlessness within and an accompanying awareness that there had to be more to life than living on an island.

Even if that island were Paradise itself.

But what did I know about taking things for granted? I was a teenage kid, and like most teenage kids, I was full of myself and low on wisdom.

I had wanted, for much of my adolescent years, to discover what life was like outside of the rock I had grown up on. It was more than just a passing fancy about finding greener pastures. It was about discovering who that stranger was that I kept seeing in the mirror each morning. No longer content to be defined as so and so's kid or so and so's big brother, I wanted to determine the length and breadth and depth of my own identity. On my own terms. And in my own time.

And so that's how it happens...this gradual growing apart from one's family of origin.

In my heart, there was this indelibly written understanding that ours would always remain a close-knit family.

Even so, the current of life incessantly tugs and pulls until the long-embedded driftwood is uprooted from its comfort zone of mud, sand, and debris and begins its Odyssean journey for adventures just 'round the bend...

Hilo Hattie Floral Motif Black Dress
Hilo Hattie Floral Motif Black Dress | Source
Hawai'i Print Bag
Hawai'i Print Bag | Source

No Excuses...It is What it Is

Whether justifiably or regrettably--the jury's still out on this one--I only made it back home to the islands twice in the last forty years.

The siblings I'd left behind in the early '70's had been little children.

And now these little children have children of their own who themselves have children of their own.

It's more than this mortal passenger can comprehend...this amazing concept of time and its ever-accelerating passage through infinity.

True, my parents, siblings, and I kept in touch over the years, as we still do today. But whether due to the high cost of flying, the ball and chain of educational and career aspirations, commitments related to spouses and children, new allegiances, scheduling conflicts, and the proverbial curves that life tosses us whenever we get too smug or too comfortable (not necessarily in that order), I only made it back to the Garden Island and my family of origin a couple of times in the span of two generations.

Maybe if I'd made different choices in my young adult years, I'd have had a more affluent lifestyle that would have facilitated and justified regular trips to and from Hawai'i.

But life gives us just one deck of cards, and each choice--wise or foolish--that we make in our game of Solitaire ekes out irreversible consequences. At the lighthouse of 60, I look back over the rugged mountain trail of my life and can easily see the many wrong turns I've taken.


I make no is what it is.

My Lovely Sister, Jan, ca 1978
My Lovely Sister, Jan, ca 1978 | Source

Have You Heard From Jan?

Jan, the younger of my two sisters, moved to the Big Island (Hawai'i, the youngest and largest isle of the Hawaiian archipelago) several years ago.

Due to the incredibly high cost of inter-island flights (that, I kid you not, can cost as much as if not more than flights to and from the mainland), the idea of any family reunion involving Jan and her family's participation would bring to the front burner obvious budgetary concerns. This certainly compounds the problem of getting together with loved ones. When my wife, adult children, and I were last able to travel to Kaua'i for a twelve-day vacation in December of 2010, I was saddened by and yet totally understanding of Jan's inability to join us. Likewise, it would have strained our family's budget to have made an island hop to the Big Island.

What I was left with, in regards to connecting with my little sister, was the hope of talking with her over the phone. Believe me, I tried many a time to reach her. I left messages, but I seldom if ever heard back from her. Eventually, I figured that I was either calling a wrong number, or my sister had opted to change cellphone services.

Other family members, including my father--estranged from my mother decades ago and now living with his second wife in Maryland--would constantly ask me during our frequent phone conversations, "Have you heard from Jan?"

"No, Dad," I'd reply each time, "I was just going to ask you the same."

Similar conversations with my other siblings would take place every now and then, usually around holidays and family birthdays. No one had heard from Jan in some time, and attempts to reach her were rarely successful.

I began wondering if my little sister had moved to the same Twilight Zone zip code that had swallowed up Howard Hughes.

Indeed, sister Jan could easily have been a double for the iconic Where's Waldo character.

Fortunately, we would occasionally receive assurances from Mom that Jan was alive and doing well. She was just super busy. And if the rest of us could take an honest inventory of our own lives, we'd realize how absorbed we ourselves had been in the hurry scurry rhythm of our own lives.

Sig Zane Hawaiian Print Long Dress
Sig Zane Hawaiian Print Long Dress | Source
O'Neil Hawaiian Print Aloha Shirt
O'Neil Hawaiian Print Aloha Shirt | Source
1961 Hallmark Tonka Cement Truck Keepsake Ornament
1961 Hallmark Tonka Cement Truck Keepsake Ornament | Source
Leina'ala Long Hawaiian Print Dress
Leina'ala Long Hawaiian Print Dress | Source

Playing the Fool!

As an eBay entrepreneur for over a dozen years, I've discovered that the best strategy I could ever employ to maintain not just my enthusiasm and motivation but also my relative success on the online juggernaut is to think outside the box. You can come up with your own pet name for this tactic, but I like to call it playing the fool. When I use that term, I'm clearly defining it in two distinct yet equally powerful ways:

  1. In referring to myself as a fool, I'm curbing the temptation to fall prey to grandiose delusions. It's a reminder to stay humble, teachable, and open to wonderful possibilities with my customers.
  2. A lifetime recovering perfectionist, I often trip over my analysis paralysis. That is, if I think long, I think wrong. Playing the fool, then, is my way of going for the gusto. When I played high school football, I had to leave my penchant for academia off the field and get into a beast mode, so to speak. I had to go from being an intellectual to being a savage. Bruce Banner becoming The Hulk. Dr. Jekyll becoming Mr. Hyde. Relative to eBay, then, this meant shedding whatever "NO!" messages were inhibiting my entrepreneurial talents. Through trial and error experimentation, I've reinforced my gut feeling that playing the fool results in more traffic to my eBay listings and thus more sales.

In a strange and somewhat indescribable way, the strategies employed on eBay emerge in my off-eBay life. Perhaps a better way to put this is that they leak into my non-eBay persona. As much as I try to keep the alter ego of the eBay entrepreneur at bay in my real life , elements of it pop up every now and then...especially when other people bring up the subject.

Consider the following true life scenario, for example.

Recently, my wife and adult children met up with family members from Hawai'i at Disneyland. During a short break in the seemingly endless walking and standing in lines at the magnificent theme park, I had occasion to visit with the older of my two sisters, Kathleen.

As I went down the checklist inquiry about family members, the subject of our little sister, Jan, came up.

Kathy, have you heard from Jan?

No. Have you?


You know, she's selling stuff on eBay.

No kidding? Really?

Yeah, she's doing really good.

Oh, wow! What's she selling, Kathy?

Mu'umu'us, aloha shirts, handbags...

Oh, my goodness! I can't believe it!

Yeah, you oughta check her stuff out!

I definitely will!

The proverbial wheels, not unlike the carousel that my grand-nephews were enjoying immensely just about then, were busily turning.

My goal is to connect with my little sister. If Muhammad won't go to the mountain, then the mountain will just have to go to Muhammad.

If I can't make contact with Jan in traditional ways, then, by all means, I'm contacting her via eBay.

Immediately, the inhibitions and negative thoughts swooped into my cerebral passages like vampirous sirens. Maybe Jan just doesn't want to talk to you. Have you thought about that? Maybe you ticked her off. Maybe she just likes it better being physically and emotionally distanced from the family. Hey, you're the one who always wanted to go to the mainland so you could see snow. You abandoned your family of origin. It's your consequential lot to long for and never regain that connection.

I'd heard those voices before. Who are you kidding? You'll never sell those fishing flies on eBay! What? 99 cent auctions? You'll lose a ton of money! You won't last a year on eBay! Selling dirty old pages from discarded magazines and books? Have you lost your mind? Selling a rock for how much money? Hey, dude, there's a room at the state hospital for you!

Had I listened to those voices, I'd still be living hundreds of miles away from home, working a thankless job on a dreadful graveyard shift, baking tens of thousands of bagels at incredibly low wages.

I want more than anything to make connection with my little sister. So much so that I'm willing to think outside the box. I'm determined to risk everything and play the fool.

And how fitting--if incredibly ironic--to make such a pivotal and significant connection on--of all places--eBay!

A Foregone Conclusion Still Worthy of Mention

So, dear reader, if at this point you've already figured out that I successfully connected with my sister, then I bid you a hearty Congratulations!

When I returned home from our vacation, I promptly went to one of my sister's listings and complimented her on her wonderful accomplishments. I rushed to tell Jan how I found her work on eBay to be so inspirational and motivating.

Thus began a flurry of eBay messages to and from each other. In the process, keeping in mind that we were exchanging familial messages on a monitored site, I eventually asked for and received her personal email address. Ah, sweet connection!

The lovely photos that adorn this article are of items that my little sister enthusiastically procures at the various local venues on the Big Island and then resells on eBay. Like me, she passionately enjoys her online entrepreneurial activities--so much so, in fact, that she couldn't bear to call it work. It's simultaneously deeper and yet lighter than that.

It's an engagement in reclaiming that which is lost, giving it new appraisal and worth, and then trading that newly established value on the largest global marketplace, eBay.

In addition, it's become a lifestyle mission for her. When she looks around and takes stock of all the blessings in her life, her beloved family of origin, her husband and children, and the grandchildren who provide her with endless amusement and joy, it's with rejuvenated energy that she steps into her weekends in search of the next exciting yard sale find.

And I who have found my long lost sister...albeit on equally blessed for having such a golden opportunity to share in her adventure and be of service to her as both a mentor and a loving older brother.


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  • hawaiianodysseus profile imageAUTHOR

    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Hi, Jaye!

    Continuing of your kind message...

    Which is precisely why you're my newly adopted sister here on HP! So, sis, I'll bring dessert, beverages, and a cool movie. What will my sister serve up as an entree? (Don't worry, I presently live in a vegetarian-dominated household, but I'm still a closet meat-eating Pacific Islander!) Thanks for your wonderful and loyal support, Jaye!


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    Jaye Denman 

    6 years ago from Deep South, USA

    Your connection with your sister via eBay was one of those events that make humans simultaneously shake our heads in wonder all the while we're smiling the biggest of smiles. It's irony of the best, most positive kind. I'm so glad you and Jan are in touch again through your mutual work/fun.

    Nothing trumps family...and, of course, those friends who become "adopted" family.

    Voted Up++++


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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    @Brian Tomlinson

    Hey, Brian! I learned something new today...that there's a town in New York called Jamaica! How cool is that?

    Thank you for stopping by and participating in my eBay reunion with my sister article. Hoping you and yours are off to a great start in 2013! Aloha!

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    Brian Tomlinson 

    6 years ago from Jamaica, New York

    Great hub! I am glad you found your sister, and she is doing well. I will definetly take a look at some of the stuff too! I'm likin that print shirt!

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Thank you for the visit and for your kind feedback, Your Cousins! A few minutes ago, I was reading your profile and found it to be very interesting. Also got to view some of the family pictures--very interesting. When I have a little more time later today, I want to read one or two of your hubs. I have, as do a lot of writers here on HubPages, a very special affinity for the concept of family--OHANA, as we call it in the islands. Aloha, my friend, and may you and yours have a blessed an prosperous new year!

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    Your Cousins 

    6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

    Wow, imagine finding a sister on eBay! Technology today has allowed us to connect in so many unexpected ways. Voted up and interesting.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state


    Thank you, xstatic, for stopping by and sharing joyfully in this long overdue "reunion" that I had with my sister. I hope to return to Kaua'i in April or so to celebrate my mother's 80th birthday, and an inter-island flight to the Big Island where my sister lives might just be a possibility. While there, one of my goals is to write a hub a day for 7 days about various island topics. That's the beauty of writing for HubPages--its liberal acceptance of what we writers have to offer, combined with the "portable" lifestyle it affords us. In any event, writing for HP and reading the works of many fine literary artists like yourself have been tremendous blessings for me. Have a great day, xstatic, and I look forward to reading about your further adventures. I am immensely encouraged and fueled with inspiration by others of our generation who, as Dylan Thomas so eloquently penned, "...rage, rage, against the dying light..."

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    @Pamela Kinnaird

    Before I follow through on one of my goals for 2013 (walking) this morning, I thought I'd address some of the comments from fellow hubbers. It was a pleasant surprise to hear from you. Thanks for stopping by to read this account of my re-connection with my sister after so many years.

    Yes, to have been back home only twice in the last four decades surely suggests that there were circumstanes afoot...and someday, Pamela, when the right combination of ambition, psychological readiness to tell the story, and--most importantly--blessings from both my family of origin and nuclear family are in hand, I would very much love to put it all into either a memoir or a novel. For now, I can only allude to it, like sprinklings of fine spice, throughout my hub tales. From a native island son to one who's been to the islands and fallen in love with their allure, thank you so very much for the bridges of paradise we've crossed and shared in our respective odysseys. Have a wonderful 2013, Pamela, and best wishes for continued success here on HubPages!

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    Jim Higgins 

    6 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    This is outstanding in so many ways. The family connection, the great photos (beautiful pic of your sister Jan) and the writing, which is engaging and funny telling us much about you and that "rock" you came from.

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    Pamela Dapples 

    6 years ago from Just Arizona Now

    Talk about pulling all the heartstrings! What a wonderful story. Your energy and enthusiasm for writing is inspirational and contagious.

    I'm so glad you've reconnected with your sister. The photos you shared of her offerings on e-bay are terrific. She's a smart lady. Really, really takes a person back to the old Hawaii in imagination and curiousity to see those types of clothes.

    I did a double-take when I read that you have only been back to Hawaii twice in 40 years. The island is so ingrained in you that I thought you'd only left there five years ago or so.

    Voting way up.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Thank you, Rajan! Now, besides my sister, there's another female family member emerging on the eBay horizon--my wife! Future hubs will feature a few stories about her experiences. Wishing you well from the Walla Walla Valley in the Pacific Northwest!

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    Rajan Singh Jolly 

    6 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA.

    You must love eBay all the more! Glad for you and what an amazing story. It is always a pleasure to read your hubs, my friend.

    Voting up and awesome. Sharing too.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    I think I rambled more than I intended to with this one, but that's how I roll these days...and perhaps, unintentionally but nevertheless quite appropriately...why I chose the pen name that suggests an epic adventure of sorts. Ha-ha! I know YOU can relate, Ms. FA!

    I've kinda been recuperating from Karen Hellier's Ten Hubs in Ten Days Challenge and the aftermath consequences of having to catch up and tend to my eBay business demands, but I'm ready to get back in the saddle and start writing again.

    Thank you so much for reading my Hubs! Wow! I'm inspired to reciprocate, and you have my word on that! Take care, and have an awesome adventure or two today!

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    6 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

    You have great and exciting stories to read on, eh?

    How ironic it is, of all places--ebay! So, thanks to the inventor of this worldwideweb, it's a lot easier to connect with people with just a click of a finger.

    Again, voting up, beautiful and interesting on this hub. Thanks.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Hi, Millionaire Tips!

    So nice of you to drop by! I was just re-reading one of your terrific Hubs this morning before hitting the office (Walla Walla Plaza Starbucks Coffee Shop).

    Yes, I'm blessed to have re-connected with her. Family is everything!

    Good to hear from you!

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    Shasta Matova 

    7 years ago from USA

    I am really glad you were able to connect with your sister. Family is so important. It is amazing that you found her on ebay of all places!

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state


    Thank you for your kind words, my friend. Yes, indeed, I am so happy to have re-connected with my dear little sister. Now, we have two forums with which we keep actively engaged--the eBay message system and our personal emails. Now, if I can just generate enough money on HP to earn a round trip to and from the Big Island. LOL! (That's going to take a while!) Thank you so much, and aloha!

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    7 years ago

    Very beautiful and intersting story. You presented it in a funny way and I know it is really painful to be away from a member of a family and don't know what is happening to her.

    I really enjoyed reading it. Voted up, shared and more.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state


    Thank you so very much for reading and commenting on my latest hub. I feel like a klutz because I'm tripping over how to effectively respond to my commentators. Sometimes there's a reply box, and sometimes it's not there. So I figure if I wait an hour or so, it'll show up...and then I'm involved with other projects and forget to check back. I apologize for my tardiness in responding, but that's what happened. In any event, I hope that this find you in good health and spirits. Have a wonderful rest of the week and weekend!

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Hi, Patty Kenyon!

    Wow, that was really cool of RD to share my hub with you. Thank you for your kind comments. This HP community is simply awesome. By the way, my youngest brother, Charlie, lived in Connecticut for a short season. He loved your state...unfortunately, he and his wife fell out of love with each other.

    Because your state's name stumped many an aspiring spelling bee contestant, I thought of it as an oxymoron--connect & cut...with the bridge between the two contrasting verbs being the letter "I." I can either go through life connecting (with) or cutting (ties with others).

    Hmm, a potential hub, maybe? LOL!

    I loved chatting with you, but I need to get ready for bed.'re up late, aren't you? : ) Aloha, Patty!

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    Nira Perkins 

    7 years ago

    I'm glad you finally tracked her down. I know the feeeling of being away from family and trying to get everyone together. It sounds like you have a wonderful family :) I hope one day I get to visit Hawaii but even looking at the shirts puts a smile on my face haha. Thanks for sharing this story.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Thanks for stopping by, RunningDeer, and reading this hub about rediscovering my little sister. Perhaps more than any other story, I invested a lot of time and thought into it. You know, whenever writing about family members, there's a fine line between how much to share and what to filter out, so I literally had to walk away from it several times. But you know, the funny thing I learned was that when you leave a Hub unfinished for some time, it actually surpasses other Hubs that have already been published. So when I actually did publish it, it was two-thirds to the top, and now it's taken the lead spot. Anyway, it was fun....and I really am very proud of my sister and what she's accomplished in her life, including this recent passion for selling on eBay. Have a good evening, and see you 'round the bend!

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    Patty Kenyon 

    7 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

    RunningDeer had shared this and I am sooooo glad that I read this!!! WOW, amazing well written story!!! Awesome Job and I loved the family picture!!!

    Voted UP, Awesome, Funny, Beautiful, Interesting, and Shared!!!

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    7 years ago from Iowa

    What a great story! I'm so glad it had a happy ending. I'm also happy you didn't listen to that little voice in your head. This was funny and entertaining!

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state


    Hi, Tom! Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, but I kept waiting for a Reply button to show up under your comment, but it never did...until just minutes ago after I'd sent a response comment off to Gamerelated...then, all of a sudden, all the Reply buttons showed up. I can never figure out this aspect of HP's grand scheme. And what does Moderate my own comment mean? (You can tell I haven't done my homework here on HP.) I have more fun connecting with fellow Hubbers like you. Have a good night's rest!

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state


    Thank you for stopping by. I had a wonderful time in your state last month, especially at Disneyland and California Adventure theme parks. What was especially surreal was watching Batman Rises with my son and then hearing from my 6-year-old grand-nephew (who happens to be a news junkie) about the tragedy in Colorado.

    So, what do you think? Is the Caped Crusader done? Or will Christian Bale (because we all know a lot of it has to do with contract negotiations) change his mind about never doing a Batman movie that involves teaming up with Robin?

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Very suitable, Tony! Ha-ha! Actually, South African slang sounds like it's not too much different than the island pidgin English. Did you and Terry get to watch any of the Olympics? I was especially happy that Grenada and Malaysia won medals for the first time! I'm thankful to be an American, but I'm maturing in my ability to cheer loud and strong for emerging and freshly empowered nations! Aloha, bruddah! (also spelled braddah) Another greeting in the islands is,

    Hey, shaka, brah! And as you say that, you fold the middle three digits of your hand into your palm while the pinkie and thumb are extended, quickly rotating your wrist clockwise and counter-clockwise. Another version of this hand signal is to hold it close to your chest and move it like you're shaking a bottle of beverage. Shaka: Everything's cool! Hang loose! Howzit, brah?

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    7 years ago from California

    This is a great story. I like the photos that you have on this Hub as well. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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    Thomas Silvia 

    7 years ago from Massachusetts

    Awesome my friend,it is so nice when you can find family members after such a long time and reunite with them !

    Vote up and more !!! SHARING !

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    Tony Flanigan 

    7 years ago from East London, South Africa

    "Hey, my bru, howzit?" Good grief! Have you been practicing South African slang? LOL!

    Terry and I just loved that greeting from you - thank you, and well done. Now, I need to brush up on a few of your traditional greetings. Will Aloha be suitable? If so Aloha my friend! :)

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    It does me good to hear from supportive and encouraging Hubbers like you, Karen. Thanks for reading this morsel of my heart. Each of my brothers and sisters blessed me with significant life lessons during my youth. Having read some of your hubs, I know how compassionately and with what great esteem you regard this notion of connecting with family.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    @Tony Flanigan

    Hey, my bru, howzit? Nice hearing from you, Tony! Hope you're in good health and spirits, and that your special lady and the kids are well. Thank you for reading and readily identifying with the gut feelings regarding family. My very best to you and yours, Tony!

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    Tony Flanigan 

    7 years ago from East London, South Africa

    Wondeful! From my own experience I know how it is to reconnect with family after a long time apart. Very pleased, and happy, for you! :)

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    Karen Hellier 

    7 years ago from Georgia

    What a wonderful story, and I also like all the asides you added in there. The best part though of course is that you have found your sister and have reclaimed an ongoing relationship with her. good for you, and thanks for sharing the story with the rest of us. Voted up and interesting.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Hi, jennzie!

    Yes, and now that we share a common denominator in our passion for online selling, I look forward to a great connection with my sister as well as her extended family. And it's helping me deal with some of that big brother guilt I pushed down into my deepest recesses as a young man. I'm very glad that you liked it and most appreciative of the fact that you took time to comment on it. Aloha!

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state

    Aloha, Marsei! All the way from New Orleans! Imagine that! I am so tickled pink that you dropped by and enjoyed reading my hub. Time is slipping by so quickly, and lately, my thoughts have been focused on family and making sure there no stones left unturned or past hurts left unresolved. Thank you for collectively sharing in this experience. It was both a joy and a challenge to write.

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    Hawaiian Odysseus 

    7 years ago from Southeast Washington state


    Absolutely, by all means, thank you very much for sharing this latest hub. What an honor! I'm so happy about that.

    Yes, sister Jan absolutely loves her involvement in attending yard sales and selling. She'll be so delighted, I'm sure, when I share this hub link with her tonight. Thank you so very much for your endearing encouragement and loyal support! Aloha!

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    7 years ago from Pennsylvania

    Great story- that's awesome that you managed to get in touch with your sister again!

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    Sue Pratt 

    7 years ago from New Orleans

    This is a great hub. I truly enjoyed reading it and hearing about your reunion with your sister. Thanks for sharing this story and the beautiful pictures.


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    7 years ago from Alabama

    Oh boy, this is a great hub. So happy you and your sister connected and of all places, E-bay! I know that you are so joyful about it all.

    This is a lovely and funny read. and I want to share it.


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