Achieve the Goals You Set: Use the Law of Attraction
The beginning of a new year, whether a calendar year or the year following your date of birth, is a common time for people to evaluate their lives. Unfortunately, most people choose goals based on what they think they should have (or be) in comparison to others, rather than on what they truly want for themselves. This is counteractive to the Law of Attraction, which is why most people end up not accomplishing their goals.
How the Law of Attraction Works
The Law of Attraction is the fundamental method by which creation works. All life radiates electro-magnetic energy that draws unto itself matching energy. Humans have the ability, through Will (thought and feelings), to color the energy they radiate. That energy then magnetizes matching people and circumstances.
We have many sayings that are reflections of the Law of Attraction:
Like attracts like.
What you put out comes back.
What goes around comes around.
By their friends ye shall know them.
An eye for an eye.
The world is your mirror.
- What you dwell upon, you make happen.
It doesn't matter if you dwell on positive or negative things where creation is concerned. Since life is about energy, not words, our focus and the passion behind it is what creates, positive or negative. So it behooves us to focus on and get excited about what we want, not what we don't want. Here are a couple of examples:
1. If you say you want to stop being disorganized, your focus is on disorganization. What you attract will be more proof of how disorganized you are.
Instead, say that you want to organize your workspace better. Then visualize a clean office with lots of open table space for projects. Get excited about it. Soon you'll start running into people who tell you they just cleaned theirs up, or you'll see a great hub on how to organize your office. You'll take action, feel great about it, and find yourself organizing other things as well.
2. Don't say you're angry at the dishonesty of Wall Street and the poor economy and you're going to protest it every chance you get. That keeps your focus on the poor economy.
Focus instead on working for financial transparency (for example). Keep your focus on transparency, so that opportunities to create or live that way are drawn to you.
Look at your business life to see if you act with open integrity. Change what you need to, including your work, if you find that it's feeding dishonest business practices or is causing you to feel hatred, anger, or resentment on a regular basis. Now you are a motivation for Wall Street and the world around you to clean itself up. You are a positive influence.
Since most people want a life that's successful, focusing on current successes can create the perfect backdrop from which to create more success. Identifying your successes helps set the stage for believing in a positive life. Feeling positive, optimistic, excited about your life is central to living a good one.
The first step toward successfully accomplishing goals, and even identifying what you want as goals, is to recognize and celebrate your current successes. This increases self-confidence and the belief that, since you already did this much, you can accomplish more, especially the things you really want.
Here is an exercise to try. Make a list of all of those things you like about your life - your friends and family, favorite activities, the best things about where you live, your successes at work, successful hobbies and skills. Use this list to feel really good about yourself whenever you need it, to remind yourself of your strengths and your power to create good things.
Choosing a Goal or Focus
Life bringing us things we don't want helps us to define what we do want. That's because the minute we see what we don't want, we also see the opposite. Therefore, negative events and people can be blessings when we use them to recognize our wants more clearly.
Here is a procedure to use for choosing real goals:
Make a list of what you already know you want.
Make a second list of what you know you don't want, especially those things that felt especially uncomfortable this last year.
On the don't want list, flip each item to its opposite - what you would rather have or be instead.
Add those items to the list of things you do want, then shred the don't want list. You don't need it anymore.
Now you have one long list of things you feel good about that you know you really want. Let's pare it down. Are there any items on the list that are already part of your life? Acknowledge them as successes and cross them off.
Now consolidate or group the remaining items on your want list and identify the one that feels like the most fun. Fun things tune you in to your most confident, excited self and open up your creativity.
Imagine yourself being highly successful at that one fun thing. Assume that all the other things you want will come along with it, without your even having to work for them . . . which will happen, as long as you don't block them. Staying with the fun of the one is key to making all of it happen.
"Staying with the fun of the one is key to making it all happen."
Keeping the Focus
Most of us have been taught that we need to work at goals, in order to achieve them. The Law of Attraction says otherwise. Once we've visualized a goal and have allowed ourselves to become excited about it, the Law of Attraction will "move mountains" to make it happen - to bring the opportunities we are looking for. Our only job is to stay steady with it, to move past any worries or fears, to feel confident and sure again.
Here is an example. A few years ago I decided to marry something I really enjoyed doing with making money. I liked to write and was passionate about working to support the environment in some way. Within a month or so a friend told me about a job that had just opened up writing proposals for a water conservation consultancy. I was excited, applied for the job, and got it. The salary was low, but I expected it would increase as time went on.
Presently I noticed that the owners of this company were not excited about water conservation, but only about making money. I had created a great team of people that were starting to generate additional work for us, but the company's attitude made me uncomfortable.
Instead of seeing it as a reminder that I was increasing my income by doing something I love, I began to criticize them in my mind for being greedy and focused on the wrong thing. I began to resist the making money part of it and stress the environmental part of it. (The company, meantime, had its own fears they were acting out.)
Eventually the company adopted the attitude that working for the environment was a good marketing tool, changed their website to reflect it, and hired more staff who believed it. But I didn't change my attitude about money. I resisted it every time they said, "Let's make money!" Because of that and other things, even though I liked what I was doing I ended up with less money than when I had started four years earlier.
Getting Past Challenges
My biggest challenge in that situation was the negative attitude I'd held about focusing on money as a major goal. I only half saw my resistance when it was happening, Once I recognized it, my job was to get optimistic again, this time including the receiving of money as a reward, or as part of the pleasure and/or process of doing the kind of work I like best.
Sometimes you will have resistance that is too strong to ignore or distract yourself from. In this case, you'll need to talk yourself out of it. Tell yourself (from the example above), "What they want I want also. It doesn't matter which they think is most important. I know that I can have everything I've been asking for, including having a rewarding job AND lots of money. I just need to stay excited about it." Then find what's most exciting to you about your situation and focus on it.
The excitement you put out as you go about your work (or project) is what will draw opportunities to you. You will recognize them as they come, because they will feed or match your excitement. There is a knowing about it - a sort of recognition or expectation that will tell you this is something to act on.
What is the Real Goal?
The real goal is staying tuned in to the best of yourself and your dreams. You have been creating dreams all your life, every time you experienced something you didn't like, so there is a huge reservoir of them waiting to manifest. The more you stay tuned in, the faster they can come. The better you can retrain your thinking to focus on positive and self-confident thoughts, the more clearly you will recognize the opportunities you long for. They are all around you.
Your life could be transformed overnight if you wanted it to be, if you have the discipline. Watch your feelings. Use them as gauges to direct your thoughts and actions. They will tell you when you are tuned in and when you are not. When you feel bad, you're not tuned in. When you feel great, you are.
When Does it End?
Never. Life is all about growing and expanding. The more you see that you don't like, the more you automatically ask for what you do. The more you focus on what excites you, the more you'll draw it to you and the more successful you will feel yourself to be. Then you'll see more you don't like, recognize what you do like, get excited about this new thing, draw it to you . . . and it goes on and on. Life and you and those you love will continue to expand for as long as life exists.