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How to Effectively Communicate with Peers

Updated on January 2, 2013

Effective communication helps us get a better understanding of not only other people, but situations also. It enables us to resolve differences, build trustful and respectful relationships, and create peaceful environments for creative ideas, problem solving, and affection. Easy as it seems not everyone knows how to communicate effectively. When many people communicate it either gets misunderstood, which then causes frustration and even a bigger conflict. By learning how to communicate effectively, you will be able to have a better relationship with your partner, kids, friends, and coworkers.

Effective Communication

Within in the information stage, it is all about sending, receiving, and processing messages, but with effective communication it is all about exchanging information. Effective communication requires you to understand the emotions behind the information that is being processed. Once you start to understand the emotions this will not only help eliminate miscommunication, but help with all your relationships. Effective communication uses a number of skills including nonverbal communication, attentive listening, stress management, and being able to recognize and understand your own personal emotions and those of the partner you are communicating to.


Listening is a big part of effective communication. Attentive listening means not only understanding what they are saying, but being able to understand how the other person is feeling about the subject they are talking about.

To show that you are attentively listening it is best to summarize what the speaker is saying and give feedback where it is necessary. This will not only show the reader that you are engaged in the conversation, but it will allow them to know that you understand what they are saying to you.

Nonverbal communication

When communicating about things we really care about, we do a lot of nonverbal signs. Some nonverbal signs we tend to do without even noticing is body language, such as facial expressions, body movements, eye contact, and poster. The way you look can tell the other person exactly how you are feeling about the subject without even saying a word about where you stand on the situation.

Knowing how to understand nonverbal communications can help you better connect with others, and express what you really mean to one another. This also helps build stronger relationships at home and the work place.

Managing stress

In little doses, stress actually helps people perform under pressure, but if you have large doses of stress it can be very overwhelming and can affect your communication greatly. When you are stressed, you are more prone to misread people, sendoff confusing signals, which can be misread by a lot of people. It is best to try to stay away from stressful situations or handle it a little at a time, especially if you are communicating with others. You may not know this, but your body language gives everything away. Yes, you do not have to say a single word to anyone and they will automatically know that you are stressing over something.

Emotional awareness

Emotions play a big part in how we communicate at home and at work. It is the way we feel, more than the way we think, that happens to motivate us to communicate or what decisions we make. The way we react to emotionally-driven, nonverbal cues affects how we understand other people and how they understand us. If we are out of touch with our feelings, and don’t get why we are feeling the way that we are, we will have a hard time understanding others and how they are feelings. Basically that means if we cannot address what is bothering us, then it gets all miscommunicated with others and results in fights with others that we truly care about.


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