How to deal with difficult coworkers
Difficult coworkers are those people who possess the following characteristics:
- a BUZZkeeper (s/he has the latest news of anybody and of anything in the office)
- an AIDS practitioner (As If Doing Something, but actually doing none)
has the basic 4C's. S/he always Complains, Criticizes, Compares, and Competes.
The day of a difficult-to-deal coworker is never complete if s/he was not able to perform at least one of the above-mentioned characteristics - characteristics that let you draw a negative picture of an employee in a workplace. But, be careful, most often than not, negative employees do not look "negative" or "difficult" at all. They are well-groomed individuals, who knows how to color-coordinate their attire, and who knows how to look neat and pleasant looking even with unbranded clothing. In short, these people look great. (I should know, for I have encountered a truckload, and not just a handful of them, in my workplace.)
RESPECT them BUT BE CAUTIOUS...
Like you should to any individual, these difficult coworkers also deserve to be dealt with respect but with caution.
Respect them for what they are, and for whatever they are doing. But be cautious for you might fall prey to their charms.
They have the capacity to emphatize with you, but they do not have the capacity to withhold confidences. They just know how to strongly deny once confronted.
They are humble enough to ask for your suggestions on projects/ assignments that they working on, but they will claim such suggestion as their own, once presentation day begins.
They are gracious enough to invite you to join worthy endeavours, but they will be the first to make a comment for your joining.
The list to describe difficult coworkers is endless. But still, these people deserve to be respected.
HOW TO SURVIVE THEM...?
It is not easy to survive in a workplace full of difficult-to-deal-with coworkers. But there are some ways on how to manage your day without messing with these type of people. Try the following tips:
- If they try to stop you, look for another way. Go over, go under or go around, just look for another way.
- Stay positive at all times. These people will eventually stop if they found out that you are not affected at all by their "dirty tactics".
- Learn the art to understand them. Often, these people have unresolved problems within themselves, thus, they look for other people to "carry their problems for them."
- Pray, pray and pray. Pray for extra and renewed strength each day you will encounter these people.
- Just go out and do something wonderful. Even if they criticize you, just DO ALL YOU CAN to finish your assignments/projects in your workplace. Anyway, the Good One above knows who performs and who does not.
The above-mentioned suggestions may not be 100% foolproof, but they are very helpful. I know they are, for I have applied them myself to my workplace.