I need to Leave
The first thing that probably popped up up in your mind when reading the title - was getting out of a bad relationship. Much has been written about getting out of bad relationships. This Hub addresses getting out of a situation sometimes as traumatic - leaving a workplace, voluntarily.
The world economy is in a slump. Many would say, “if you have a job just keep and cherish it, you do not know what’s out there”.
Is this the correct advice or shouldn’t we look at why we want to leave, what are the forces pushing us to do so. The reasons for leaving jobs and moving are usually caused by wanting to improve and advance or, for whatever reason, dissatisfaction at work
Certain situations can have an impact on ones quality of life and leaving a job could seem the only option. But is it? It may certainly be so, and therefore the questions arises - how should I go about it?
Leaving a job to another as a career move is understood and if planned correctly, part of an individual’s personal climbing up the career ladder, with all the pro’s and con’s to it.
The other situations invariably are more complex and can have a great influence on ones self in the present and the future. This HUB will address this situation of discontent and wish to leave work.
An economy that is in a recess does not mean that everyone is not working. Most people are working, but due to the environment caused by the recess are consuming less and saving more for rainy days. It is also a time when employers look towards cutting costs.
The reasons for wanting to get up and go are many - bad relations with the boss, finding work unsatisfactory and totally boring or having to perform tasks not in the job description. So what do you do about this. Leave immediately ? Carry on gritting ones teeth and continue? The answer is to rationally analyze the situation, listening as well to ones inner thoughts, and then planning a course of action.
“ Personal Situation” - what does it mean? It is like a salad of what is going on in an individual’s life, personal and professional, including of course the work-place at the present time. This salad will determine the action plan ahead. It should not determine the long term strategy.
Before we get into the eating of our salad just a few words on the situation at work.
If one is so fed for whatever reason, this will show. The psyche will bring it out and parade it to all, even if the individual does not intend this to happen. You get up in the morning without any energy, don’t want to go to work and hate being there.
Now, what do we do about this? Life itself is like a business, a very complex and personal one that we need to simplify in order to succeed. We are fed up at work, in a knot that needs untying.
First and foremost make a strategic decision and calm down. Taking a decision can in itself calm one. It will help rationalizing our moves.
In order to plan - answer the questions (see below for some examples) that need to be asked. The answers will be a base for the action plan.
Our strategic decision should be - “Ensure Financial Security and Satisfaction that will enable me to live Well”.
Live well - we will not go into what is living well as this is another topic that is totally individual and different from one to the other, but has common grounds. Living well can be defined as a situation when an individual , in his or her eyes is financially and mentally satisfied.
Before continuing it should be stressed that in todays world financial security has a major impact on any definition of living well. Without it the mental stress is enhanced.
Having said this, it does not mean that one needs to hold onto any job one has with dear life. On the contrary, dissatisfaction at work could lead to losing involuntary the job. It means that when a want to move out arises this move must be executed with a plan that is feasible.
The strategy has been set, now we need action plans.
Lets get back and look at our salad and ask ourselves a few questions which can determine our action plan.
1. Is work really so bad or am I exaggerating? This question could this very instant annoy terribly some in this situation - “of course it is bad, terrible, catastrophic”
Maybe it is, but could it be that it is not that catastrophic. In many cases it is not. We are not satisfied, bored or the boss is just demanding, but it’s not horrendous. Decide this and maybe one will see the positive aspects which weighed up could change our mind or at least give breathing space. Maybe it’s not so bad.
There are of course situations where it is impossible, and all we want is out, and now and the faster the better
Understanding the answer to this question will define the urgency of actions - help define the time-frame. It will also put us in perspectives and play down our discontent, which shows. We don’t want anyone speeding up the process of leaving (if this has been decided) until we are ready.
2. Personal Family situation - Single with no obligations is less complicated than someone with a mortgage and children. Here the responsibility sets in.
Yet, there are many young married or have children dependant on them who are prone to be rash in their behavior. Obligations will slow the process, but should not cancel it, just change the action plans.
3. Mental Situation at work - this may sound to many as “well they are spoilt”, but it is not as simple as that.
A bad situation at work, especially when a very bad relationship with ones boss or colleague occurs, can cause dramatic mental stressthat could lead to actual physical manifestations and serious health problems. If this occurs, the need for leaving the specific “boss” or job is sped up greatly.
You must be sure that this is the situation and not get into a vicious circle that ones psyche caused. A circle that can be broken, (question one above) even for a period of time that will enable taking rational decisions and not impulsive ones.
4. Capabilities - an actual hard look at credentials and capabilities.
5. What’s out there? What are the opportunities ahead and would I need to move and relocate?
6. My Expectations - What do I want?
The answers to the above are the definitions of the action plans and the time frame of our moves.
The answers are not necessarily more complex than the questions and basically have the same outcome. The difference between individuals will be mainly in the timing of the actions based upon the answers to the questions above.
The outcome will be in all “Ensuring Financial Security and satisfaction”. This could be another job, a move within the present employer, or becoming independent.
Making this change is an individual’s decision and his or hers alone, as is staying at the job. This may sound not realistic, but staying at a job is also an individual’s decision. Even if there are no jobs in sight, not taking any actions to make a change is a decision that each one makes. The change can even be in ones attitude.
To summarize - the economy and personal situations should not stop someone truly unsatisfied from making changes, but, and a big but, this change must be made rationally, carefully and responsibly in order to ensure personal financial security and satisfaction.