Job Hunt: The Slow Journey to Your Dream Job
Searching for a job and not finding one is about as soul crushing as getting dumped... only it happens over and over again. No one ever really talks about how soul crushing it can be. I speak from experience when I say "soul crushing," having been looking for a job since about May 2012. I know there are people out there who have been looking for a job for much longer than I, and I know they must feel even more crushed at times than I do.
It's worse when people ask how the job hunt is going. I have many friends who are content where they are with their careers. They have their dream job, or they are at least guaranteed their job sometime in the near future, or they at least KNOW what their dream job is! I fall under none of these categories and my dream career ranges from being a big-shot publishing editor to a stay at home freelance writer, to a famous novelist who wrote one masterpiece that allows me to live off the royalties for the rest of my life, to the owner of a small shop that lends or sells books and food and coffee.
Having more than a year experience in job searches I know many "helpful" websites that search for jobs for you, all of which I am a member.
Not to mention the spin-off websites that these major websites redirect one to when one clicks on an ad for a job.
I know the important thing is to just not give up. For some people it takes a couple days to find a job, for most it takes years to find a job. I just need to remember to keep at it and I will get there someday.
What has helped me to stay sane during this hiatus in my life are the following:
1. Remember that when your loved ones ask you how the job hunt is going they are not trying to send you back down that spiral into depression. They are actually trying to help because they are concerned about you and they want the best for you.
2. Read books, watch movies, go outside, look at puppies and kittens, remember that life goes on, there's always hope around the corner, and there's always something beautiful to experience. I have a go-to movie that I watch every time I start to get discouraged; Blue Crush 2. I know it's odd because it's not exactly a masterpiece movie, but it's about a girl who discovers that the important thing in life is family and that you don't have to know exactly what you want in life. It makes me feel better every time I watch it.
What's your go-to movie that makes you feel better?
3. There are millions of ways to learn how to make a good resume and do well at an interview. Use them! From self-help books to websites to career services at your school (counselor if you're in high school). I've noticed that they all say about the same thing: don't use first person in your resume, highlight your assets, list your past jobs in reverse chronological order, etc. However, as redundant as it can be to go over and over what you need to know about interviewing and making your resume, it is important to keep up to date on what is required or necessary to make your resume or interview amazing.
4. Take a day to do what you REALLY want to do. Every now and then I'll take a day for myself to either relax and read, or to work hard on my writing. I haven't exactly discovered the one career I want to do for the rest of my life, but I do know what I like to do and it's refreshing and it boosts your mood for when you have to get back to the nitty gritty work of looking for a job. Just make sure its not one of those days that makes you not want to get back to work.
5. Even if it's not what you want to do, you should get a job that can pay the bills. I have a job right now that is definitely not what I want to be doing and it doesn't even pay that much but it gets me money so that I don't have to mooch off my parents (much). This way I don't have to worry too much about not being able to buy food or pay rent.
I may be just as redundant as the helpful websites when I say this, but the key is to keep at it. You will get discouraged, but you'll get through it and you will get your dream job eventually. In the meantime, this is life, live it and have fun, that's the most important thing.