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My Personal Experience in the Unemployment Realm

Updated on July 27, 2014

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My Experience

In October of 2012, I moved to Boston to be with my boyfriend at the time, who had just acquired a new job. I had to leave the place I had worked at for nearly 3 years. It was a completely different lifestyle. Change can be good, but it can also be hard.

Work was a big part of who I was. I was fast and energetic, fit, productive, friendly, and I always had a smile on my face. I felt secure, and I had money. Not a lot, but enough. Without a job, I struggled with my self-image. I always enjoy self-assessment exercises, but had trouble answering the question “who am I?” Without the one piece of the puzzle that is usually there, it is hard to answer that question.

Furthermore, experience causes change. Without a job, I didn’t have the same kind of structure. I didn’t know what is going to happen day to day. I didn’t have that same sense of accomplishment. Sitting around the house all day caused me to gain some weight, which was bad for my self-esteem. I’m used to interacting with people every day, so I felt lonely and secluded at home.

I spent a few weeks settling into my new place and trying to figure out what to do with my life, where to start, and how to deal with the inevitable internal struggle. In November I started the long process of finding a job. When I started getting information together for my job-hunt documents, I struggled with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. There are so many jobs in this area, but there are so many people, too, and it seems like the majority of them are more educated than I am. But no matter how much I wish I could turn back time and find a way to stay in college, there’s no way to do that. All I can do is move forward. But I have found that action is the best cure for feeling helpless .

During this process of hunting for a job, I came up with this advice:

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~ Keep in mind that many people are unemployed- you’re not alone!

It is encouraging to know that we are not alone. Many other people are going through a similar situation. In my case, I had it much better than others, and I always kept that in mind. I have read so many stories of others who are jobless, and they break my heart. Things could be so much worse.

~ Acknowledge your situation, and move on.

Dwelling on your problems for too long doesn’t solve anything. It is hard to avoid at times, but try to accept the situation for what it is, and move on.

~ Try writing your feelings, your plans and your goals down in a journal- or a notebook, if you prefer.

I have been writing in journals since I was a kid, so it comes natural to me. Writing is therapeutic, and recording goals on paper is a positive step forward. It is a physical reminder of what can be done, and helps you focus on the tasks.

~ When you think negative thoughts, counter them with positive thoughts.

There’s always a positive side. Don’t beat yourself up, encourage yourself. And if it would help, take action. When I feel bad about my weight gain, I look in the mirror and accept the way I look now, and then either exercise that day, or do something to make myself feel pretty.

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~ Be thankful for what you do have.

This exercise has helped me during many challenging times in my life. No matter who you are, no matter how bad things are, there are always things to be thankful for. Focus on positive feelings, and you will feel uplifted, at least for a little while.

~ Try to surround yourself with supportive friends and family.

I am thankful to have supportive friends, and I make an effort to remain connected to family. I may not have as rich of a social life as I did when I worked, but I visit with my loved ones, and communicate online. If I am feeling discouraged at all, they reach out to me and remind me why I should remain hopeful. One thing that can make life feel so much worse is being around people who are negative and “toxic”. I have had people like that in my life, and once they were out of the picture I was able to live a more meaningful life without feeling bad about it. But in reality, you can’t always abandon those who are not positive, so just try to make sure they don’t affect you negatively. Don’t let anyone drag you down. If possible, make them feel better.

~ It probably goes without saying that when you lose a job you need to find ways to pay your bills.

What expenses you have and how you can come up with money greatly varies by person. Some may have a “significant other” that has money to pay for the important bills during the job hunt. Some may qualify for unemployment pay, or social security benefits. Some people may have a nice little savings or investments they can dip into. Some may have things they could sell. Some may decide to look around for a part-time job, to hold them over until they can find something more substantial. Of course, in some places even that can be challenging. Even though it is not a pleasant thing to do, it is important to get your finances in order as soon as possible.

~ Try to stick to a routine, so your day has structure and is productive.

When you are not working, it is amazing how time-consuming job tasks can be. There are plenty of things to do to fill up your day. It is a good time to use any time-management and organizational skills you may have, or learn new ones. Think of every day as a learning experience.

~ Remember to make time for yourself regularly, and to spend time with your loved ones.

If you never make time to relax and do the things you love, you will get burned out. When you are job-hunting, be as productive as you can, but when you carve time out for yourself, try not to worry. And making time for loved ones is important to your relationships and your mental health.

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~ Redefine who you are

Some people may not have their self-image wrapped up in their job as much as I did, so it may not be an issue. But this is a good time to assess who you are. Think about your values, your skills and abilities, your personality traits, your goals, and what you enjoy doing. Not only will it help you define who you are as a person, but it will also help in determining what you would like to do with your life (if you don’t know already, or if you decide you want to use this opportunity to steer your life in a new direction). It is also very handy in constructing a resume, cover letter, or even just a “pitch” to an employer. When you land an interview, knowing yourself is very important, and being prepared is the key to obtaining a job.

In conclusion, I have learned a lot during my job hunt. The journey of rediscovering myself has been enlightening, and I am seeking to improve my skills. Even though my future is filled with uncertainty, I know that I will get a job in time. I just need to be patient and diligent. I go through periods of discouragement, but usually reflection and action are encouraging, and move me forward. If you’re not moving forward, you’re moving backwards.

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      peachy 4 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      love reading yr hub. Great experience for jobless people like me. I depend on hubpages to earn some bucks. Hunting job is still the main concern. Voted awesome.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you, Peachpurple. I wish you luck in finding a job, as well as making money here.

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      aykianink 4 years ago

      I know what floundering is. It shatters your self-image. I applaud you for taking a chance. I hope your relationship is coming along nicely.

      My favorite line:

      "~ Redefine who you are."

      Possibly the best advice ever.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts. Voted up.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you, Rajan!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Excellent suggestions here Kathryn! It is not easy at all; our self-worth tends to be tied, at least in part, to working for a living. I was unemployed once, for about six months, and it was a very hard time psychologically. My best to you!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you, Billybuc. At least it can be a learning experience, and once I get a job I will appreciate it that much more!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      I know the feeling as I was laid off from a very long career due to the economy. I have since been blessed with employment but went through the same growing pains you describe. You include awesome advice and if the recently unemployed follow this, they will survive the unemployment duration with fewer scars.

      Outstanding and I wish you well on your continued employment hunt.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you very much, shiningirisheyes (by the way, I love your user name. It sounds pretty).

      I actually had a lot more information , but I decided to leave that for another hub. I didn't want my very first hub to be too long.

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      Insightful Tiger 4 years ago

      I love the conclusion " If you’re not moving forward, you’re moving backwards." Very true and wise words!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thankyou for reading this, and for your comment.

      As for the last saying, I was going to add it as a quote, because it has been said in one variation or another quite often, but even after Googling it for a while, I couldn't figure out who first said the quote! But I like it very much.

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      Healthy Life 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      These are great tips to deal with unemployment and personal experience is the best teacher. You are right that so many other people are in the same situation and redefining yourself is such a positive way to approach this. I agree that with any difficult situation it is so important to get rid of the negative people in your life. I had to do that and am much happier. Voted up. Welcome to Hubpages!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you so much, Healthylife2!

      I try to remain positive in every situation life throws at me, but it is so much easier when you are not around people that drag you down. I'm glad that you have discovered that, too.

      Thanks, I really do feel welcome! This is a wonderful community, and I feel like it is going to enrich my life. There are so many good people, and good articles.

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      Sheri Dusseault 4 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      Hi Kathryn,

      Great hub! I can kind of relate to you as after 27 years I am in the process of closing down my biz and am trying to follow a lifelong dream of being a writer. I have only had a day or two so far and haven't actually written anything I consider publish worthy yet, but am already a little afraid of the isolation. I am used to staff and customers and phones ringing etc. Still, I am excited to get some real time to write. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise for you? I have found most blessings show up as big old problems at first. Anyway, my plan is to do some voluteer work just to get out of the house and feel....well...needed!

      Best wishes to you both here and in the real life job world.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you, Sheri, and good luck! It sounds like a wonderful opportunity to try life out as a writer, and follow your dreams. It will probably take some time for you to get into a routine, but eventually it will be your "new normal".

      I went on a job interview recently, and it is promising. It is a part-time job, which would give me time to do other things as well. It would close my employment gap, bring me around people again, and bring in some money while I figure out what path I want to take in life.

      I agree with you, a lot of blessings come disguised, and I like to turn every "problem" into opportunity. I have learned a lot over the few months I have been at home, and it got me out of the rut I was in (I liked my rut, but sometimes it can keep me away from better opportunities).

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      This hub is full of great tips for the unemployed. I agree that positive thoughts produce positive results. I think change is hard for all of us. Wishing you good luck on finding a great job. Up and very useful.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thankyou, Pamela99, I appreciate your positive comment.

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      thebiologyofleah 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Great tips in this hub! I recently went through a period of unemployment and I compiled a similar hub. We have a lot of the same ideas on how to stay sane while going through unemployment. I found Hubpages to be a great help while I wasn't working, it allowed me to make writing my 'job' and the positive feedback from hubbers was great. It also helped me get the job I have now as I used my articles to serve as a writing sample.

      Good luck to you in your search! Stay positive!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thanks, biologyofleah! I appreciate your comment, and for cheering me on! I have found this to be a very positive outlet for me. I like that at least I am putting my writing and research skills to use (and strengthening them), and enjoying the company of so many wonderful Hubbers. This is a great community. It is very encouraging to be here.

      Wow, so writing articles on here was good for helping you land a job, that is fantastic!

      I'll have to check your hub out!

      You're a Masshole, too! Yay (I mean that in fun, of course)!

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      Ireno Alcala 4 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      Positivism is the name of the game. You're right Ms. K. when you rectified that you're not alone being a jobless-but less idle individual.

      I, too, am jobless for a moment since I disembarked from my recent ship's duties as chief cook.

      I recently applied at the two manning companies that my fellow sailors referred.

      The first one was online and the other was a personal call. I walked and walked here at the thoroughfares of Metro Manila, Philippines (my country) and came exhausted at my cousin's home.

      But (take note), I collated data through pictures (photos I've taken along the way) in order to weave new and useful hubs.

      At least, we have a passive income here at HubPages. And I'm so grateful with that.

      And I'm happy being out on the road, setting aside my seafaring duties (lol!).

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Yeah, I am definitely not alone!

      Your life seems interesting. It must have been a different lifestyle when you were chef on a ship! It must have added a rich element to your life. And going by your photos, you have had many experiences in your life. They may not always be 100% positive, but every one of them helps us to grow as people. I wish you well in the pursuits of 2013.

      Sometimes it is nice to have a change of scenery, or look for a different job. And in the meantime, it is nice to have a creative outlet. I am not making money on Hubs yet, but I only need to publish one more featured hub to have 10, at which point I will apply for the Ad Sense, etc. Before then I need to put some research into it, because it is new for me.

      Good luck with finding a job, and using your free time effectively!

      Your collation of photos to use in hubs sounds very productive. After starting on HP, I was really happy I take a lot of photos, because they will come in handy. I don't mind searching for free photos online once in a while, but I would rather use my own.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      You can always do school part-time. I attended University of North Texas part-time for years, and for a couple of those years I was working 55 hours a week. It can be done.

      Lots of good advice here, especially for the long term unemployed, many of whom are still with us. Despite the rosy pep talks on TV, many of us are still living in a depression -- it's only a Recession for those people who never noticed it in the first place.

      Adding a link to this hub in my hub, "Do You Know What Qualifies As a Job Search While Collecting Unemployment Benefits?"

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      School is always a good option for those who have the money or the assistance. It can help towards getting a better job, too.

      I agree with you.

      Thanks for reading, and for the input.

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      Linda Rogers 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Thanks for sharing your unemployment experience with us Kathryn. You read my story about my sister leaving a job after nine years because of a hostile supervisor. She joined an employment agency that sent her to seminars, brushed up her computer skills, etc..it really helped her to stay focused and structured, which in turn, kept her from getting depressed. I saw her less when she was unemployed because she was either at the work force agency or doing something productive. I am so proud that she found a job about 4 months into unemployment. I know you'll find a job eventually and in the mean time, enjoy the time off. Great, useful and hopeful hub.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      That's great! It's nice that employment agencies are such a help, and that your sister improved her skills while in between jobs. That is an inspiring story. I'm so glad she ended up getting a better job, too.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      "The sky is the limit"--that's my mantra and "always, always be thankful for what you have"...very well said Kathryn!

      Great job here. I like your positive attitude and the way you laid out all those valuable and do-able tips here.

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      CrisSp, thank you for the compliment, and for taking time to read my article.

      I really like your mantra! I like being positive, and finding the silver lining in my life. Being negative is very draining. Once in a while I get discouraged, but it doesn't take long for me to look at the bright side. change my attitude, and take action in any way that would help out my situation.

      You're welcome, and thank you for commenting.

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      Sarah 4 years ago from USA

      I really agree with you about establishing a routine. I think I would have gone crazy if I felt I was just sitting on my butt all day. First thing in the morning, I do yoga, then read some hubs, set to write and it always makes me feel better. Thanks for writing this great article. I have to share it!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Sarah, I a routine is so important to me. I don't like feeling like I'm doing nothing, and without routine an entire day can go by so fast, without even feeling like much went on. I still have slightly aimless days once in a while, but once I get into the swing of things, it's easier.

      Yoga. That's a good idea. I work out in the gym in my building, but yoga would be an interesting thing to try out.

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      Dan Harmon 4 years ago from Boise, Idaho

      Both my wife and I lost our jobs a few years ago. While I was able to find spotty work (although at a good wage) she never did. My work slowly decreased to the point that I finally just gave it all up and retired early.

      A loss of future income, but I couldn't be happier. While I realize that few have that option, it can be great for those that do.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Wilderness, it is great that your story has a good ending. I have known of people that had to retire early, and sometimes it is just the best option. I'm glad that it was possible for you, and I hope that your life (and your wife's) is enriching and satisfying.

      My job search has been a little frustrating at times, but I work through it. I am trying to get a job that will take me in a different direction, and increase my skills. There are so many jobs where I live, but there are so many people, too, including quite a few college students and graduates. It is hard to compete with that! But I will keep trucking on, and at some point the search should be fruitful. I am learning a lot in the process, so I'm better for it.

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      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      This is awesome and timely for me. I lost my long-time job about a year ago, and I'm still in the process of redefining myself. Self-esteem definitely does take a hit, and I don't have the real-life friends that I used to, either. I could relate to so many things that you said. I'm making it with some teaching online and freelance writing, which I hope to build as time goes on. I'm going to continue to redefine my life. Your hub is inspirational.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thank you, Vicki, I'm so glad you find it inspirational!

      This was quite a heart-felt hub for me to write, because the first few months I was without a job I felt so raw and unsure of myself, and it took a while to become comfortable and learn my lessons. Even now I go through spells of insecurity and doubt.

      I don't have as many friends as I used to, either. The ones I had in recent years are in Virginia, and there are a couple of old friends I sporadically get in contact with within closer distance. It's certainly not like when I was a kid, and I was automatically around others all of the time.

      I'm glad you have found things to do to make money and take up some of your time, and I hope life brings you in a desirable direction!

      Life is certainly a journey. We constantly learn and grow, and things change, and we have to change continually. It gets to be uncomfortable, stretching us to our limits, and after a while we get used to what was once unfamiliar.

      Have an enjoyable week!

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      jocent 4 years ago

      Your hub hit me like I was in your shoes. That's what I felt during those trying days, Imagine you were in this level of the management and in just one turn of event you have to start all over again. Lucky for you to have the support of your family and understanding boyfriend, they love you so much that they don't want to see you very depressed.That for me is so inspiring enough to make me strive harder and overcome my fear.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Jocent, thank you for reading my article, and for the nice comment. Starting over again is indeed tough, but I think good things will come out of it. It is very good that I have supportive family and boyfriend, because they make it much easier for me.

      I'm glad that it inspires you! That makes it very worth writing a piece like this.

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      Cuttler 4 years ago from HubPages

      Very informative piece. I was once without a job for three months and it was painful just waking up everyday e=with no sense of direction. These tips are very nice for coping with the stress that comes with unemployment.

      Voted up, useful and shared

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Cuttler, thanks for reading, commenting and sharing, as well as voting it up. I appreciate it.

      I think a lot of people have been through experiences involving unemployment at one point or another, so I hope people can get some useful information from this. It can be a very stressful experience!

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 4 years ago from Pune, India

      Great hub, very useful suggestions for many. Thanks.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      You're welcome, I'm glad you like it. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      Rumana 4 years ago from Sharjah, UAE

      Great hub... It will be an inspiration to many people!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Rumanasaiyed, thanks! I hope it is an inspiration to many people. Unemployment can be a scary and disorienting place to be.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my article, and have a fabulous day!

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      Indian Chef 4 years ago from New Delhi India

      it's a very good hub. You started with sky is limit and then told your own experience. I am sure who so ever read it get inspiration that they can do same.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Indian Chef, thanks for reading and commenting on this. I hope that many people get some encouragement and inspiration from my words, because there are times in life that can be tough, and a little disorienting.

      Have a great weekend!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Life is full of challenges and sometimes one just has to be positive and avoid the negative thoughts to get by I found myself in a new place after a long time and now my smiles are very important to me, encouraging words here.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      DDE, I'm glad you find my words encouraging. These were fairly hard lessons to learn, so I'm glad good could come from them! It's very true that sometimes it is necessary to be positive. Being negative is so easy at times, but it can also really drag us down, and make us feel bad. A positive outlook can make even the hard times just a little bit easier to handle.

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      Indian Chef 4 years ago from New Delhi India

      Kathryn, I fully agree with you that you have to have positive people around you and you have to pay bills even if you are not earning. Also when you work and earn then your life style becomes what you earn and are used to that life style. When you loose job or money stops coming, the life style do not change much and you still have to pay bills nearly the same as when you had job. Voting it up and awesome.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Indian Chef, thanks for reading and commenting. Yes, people who lose their jobs should also change their lifestyle. One thing that would be very bad to do (at least for most people) is to take out their credit card to keep up with the life they're used to. Fortunately, Andy has had a job the whole time, so I didn't have to worry about whether or not I would have a place to live. But I did have to be careful with my savings, and use it for needs, rather than for "extra" stuff. There are many things we can live without, or cut down on, when needed.

      Thanks for the votes, and have a fabulous weekend!

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      Abby Campbell 3 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Great tips, Kathryn. I can't imagine not having a source to pay bills. That's got to be tough, but I'm glad you're back to working now. :-)

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thanks, Abby. I am glad I'm back to working now, too! It's a relief. I am still looking for something a little more substantial, but for now my job gives me enough of an income to pay the bills I need to, and save for next time I'm without a job.

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      DREAM ON 3 years ago

      Struggling without a job is a lot of pressure on any couple. Rent,monthly bills,expenses all pile up and can be quite overwhelming.Your hub gave great advice and tips when searching for a job.A lot of companies are just hiring part time help which makes work so much harder.Congratulations on your new job! How is work going?

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Dream On, it sure is a lot of pressure!

      Thanks. My job is going well. I'm working at a craft store part time. When I first started, it was during store set up (brand new store), and I got plenty of hours. Now my hours have been reduced (it's pretty much how retail jobs go), so I have more time at home. I am looking for another job, or else an additional job, so I can make a little bit more money. But for now, the pressure is off, and I am making enough money to get by. Thanks for asking!

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I updated this article. As my earliest one, it needed a bit of a revamp.

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      Susan Britton 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Great advice. I am also starting over and found your tips helpful. My problem is I just don't know what I want to do and I can't seem to get motivated since my friend Passed away. Oh well it will come in time I hope. Have a good day Kathryn.

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Suzzycue,

      It's terrible that you have had to deal with your friend passing away. I'm sorry.

      I'm glad that my tips could be of use to you. Good luck figuring out what you want to do. I think it is a hard decision to makes sometimes, even without bad things happening. But like you said, it will come in time.

      Thanks, and I hope you have a good day, too. I hope you feel better soon.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Peg Cole 3 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Kathryn, one thing I did that I will be forever grateful for having done was to finish my college degree. True, it took nearly 19 years to complete and I lost scads of credits whenever I moved to a new place and enrolled (again) trying to meet their basic requirements, but it truly was worth it - even though I was nearly 40 after graduation. It changed my whole financial picture and opened many doors that had been closed to me without that little piece of paper. Life does begin at forty and it keeps getting better all the time!

      With your obvious skills I know you will reinvent yourself and since this post was a few months ago, I do hope things have turned around for you.

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Peg,

      I'm glad you finished your degree!

      I got a part-time job back in April, which I was most grateful for. But it's only a temporary solution. At this point, I am moving back to CT. Boston is fantastic, but it is wayyy too expensive! Apartments can cost $1,000, or ever 2 or 3,000. I would rather get jobs that pay just as much (very likely, because jobs my style around here don't pay anymore here than they do in cheap CT), and have an apartment that is $600-800. That's more my style.

      Unfortunately I don't have a degree, only limited college courses. So I really need to figure out what path I want to take, and do my best to get there. Like you said about your own situation, a degree can help open a lot more doors.

      Your story is very encouraging. Thanks for sharing it with me. Sometimes I feel like it is too late for me to go far in life (it can be discouraging), but 35 is still young. Just not in the same way as being in the 20s is.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a beautiful weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      poetryman6969 2 years ago

      Since I am in IT, the internet takes care of keeping me employed. It a totally different experience from having to troop down the government employment office and deal with those folks.

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      Kathryn 2 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Poetryman,

      That is excellent! Those in that field have a lot of work available to them, and I am glad that you don't have to deal with being unemployed. The internet is a wonderful thing most of the time.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a wonderful day!

      ~ Kathryn

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