ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Perception Of Failure

Updated on January 19, 2015

Failure a friend to success

When I think about the word “Failure”; it reminds me of my family when I was in primary school that my cousins and I should try by all means not fail. They threatened us that should we fail; we won’t get Christmas gifts such as clothes and toys. One of my cousins failed Grade 4 and he felt extremely shameful, he felt like a loser. The perception that they gave us about “Failure” is that it should be avoided at all costs which resulted in fearing to fail.

My first experience pain of failure was in Grade 12; I felt depressed and embarrassed; I did not know how deal with a pain. My family was disappointed but fortunately I did not think about committing suicide. Today I see many students committing suicide because of pressure from parents and peer pressure that other students passed; and they are going to Tertiary. I came to realise that “Failure” is stepping stone to success; that if I am willing to succeed in life then I must be willing to fail. True failure is when you fail to try.

The true perception of “Failure” should be seen as feedback from the universe. If we do so, we’ll see “Failure” as necessary for instruction rather than as an instrument for destruction. If it is seen as instruction, we will seek to learn and grow from it and as a result, post-failure, we will be better and not bitter.

When I was at Tertiary doing second year, I failed a major subject and I know that I gave it all preparing for exams but I failed; yes, I was very disappointed and I even questioned my abilities and started to doubt myself. I had to do self evaluation, trying to identify areas that I need to improve in order to comeback with a strategy of passing this major subject. I had to learn to manage my time efficiently to stay on top of the game. Success won’t come without making an effort.

Sometimes things beyond our control happen and we lose focus on our dreams and we fail, but we don’t have to blame circumstances because they pass; the most important thing is not to give up. I love watching Wrestling and my favourite Wrestler is John Cena, he lost very crucial fights where he thought he would beat his opponent but he failed or he failed because someone disturbed the match. He would challenge his opponent again for the second match and he will comeback well prepared and win the fight. In life; there are so many tests that some we fail and some we pass them therefore we should persevere on the tests that we failed; never give up on your dreams. Failure is simply a price we pay to achieve success.


If you can change your perspective on failure, it will help you to persevere and ultimately achieve your desires. So how should you judge failure? By taking a look at seven things failure is not:

  • People think failure is Avoidable.... It is Not

Everybody fails, errs and makes mistakes. There is a saying that “To err is Human, to forgive divine. Maybe you are hard on yourself that you made terrible mistakes in life; it is time to forgive yourself and move on. These are following rules for Being Human:

Rule #1: you will learn lessons

Rule #2: there are no mistakes – only lessons

Rule #3: A lesson is repeated until learned

Rule #4: if you don’t learn the easy lessons, they get harder

(Pain is one way the universe gets your attention)

Rule #5: you’ll know you’ve learned a lesson when your actions change.

  • People think failure is an Event......It’s Not

Failure does not come in a moment, failure is a process. If you failed exam; it shows that you neglected the process leading up to the test. How well did you prepare for exams? Or you started studying on last a minute preparation.

Failure is like success; it is not someplace you arrive. Success or failure comes from how you deal with life along the way.

People think failure is Objective...It is Not

You are the only person who can label his/her past actions as failures, therefore failure is subjective. Optimistic people don’t see setbacks as failure. Whatever setback that they come across; they know they are getting closer to the crown.

People think failure is the Enemy... It is Not

Most people try to avoid failure like the plague. They are afraid of it. But it takes adversity to create success. Failure is good because it brings growth by learning from our mistakes. As musicologist Eloise Ristad said “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we at the same time give ourselves permission to excel.”

People think failure is Irreversible....It is Not

There is a saying in Texas: It doesn’t matter how much milk you spill as long as you don’t lose your cow. In other words, mistakes are not irreversible. Keep everything in perspective. The problem comes when you see only the spilled milk and not the bigger picture.

People think failure is a Stigma....It is Not

Mistakes are not permanent markers. When you make mistakes, don’t let them get you down. And don’t let yourself think of them as a stigma. Make each failure a stepping stone to success.

People think failure is final....It is Not

Even what may appear to be a huge failure doesn’t need to keep you from achieving your great goals in life. View failure as a temporary setback and success as a journey to greater things.

“Remember is not over until God says it’s over.”


How can you help yourself learn a new definition of failure and develop a different perspective concerning failure and success? By making mistakes and learning everyday. Remember, mistakes don’t define failure. They are merely the price of achievement on the journey toward success.

Don’t give up on your dreams.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • vocalcoach profile image

      Audrey Hunt 

      3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      I had to come back for another read. Thank you and may success be yours!

    • Bongzwane profile imageAUTHOR

      Bongani Zwane 

      3 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

      Thank you very much......and much appreciated.

    • Bongzwane profile imageAUTHOR

      Bongani Zwane 

      3 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

      Thank you very much.........

    • agaglia profile image


      3 years ago

      This was an interesting Hub. I agree with your premise that failure is a natural part of learning. Everyone fails - or falls down- before they succeed at almost anything, beginning with learning to walk.

    • vocalcoach profile image

      Audrey Hunt 

      3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Failure is a necessary step to success. We aren't machines or computers - we are human. How many times did Thomas Edison fail? Many times. Today we all enjoy many conveniences because he never gave up.

      Wonderful hub! I voted up, useful, awesome and interesting. Sharing with others too.

      Thank you!


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)