The Reasons why you are an unlucky person- Part 1
The Luck Habit
Are some people luckier?
Are some people more lucky than other people? On the surface, it might seem that way. Some people are born richer, smarter and stronger than other people. They are lucky to be born that way. People also assumed that successful people are lucky as they are blessed with advantageous circumstances.
However, many of us are not necessarily gifted with good wealth, health and opportunity. Does it mean that our lives will be unlucky for the most part?
Reading The Luck Habit by Douglas Miller
I was sitting around in the library, waiting for a friend. While I was waiting for him, I had the opportunity to come across a good book written by Douglas Miller. He outlines the fact that certain habits will bring people into a position of being more luckier in their endeavors.
Today, I am going take it a step further and flip the points that Douglas Miller wrote to show people why they are unlucky.
Why people are unlucky- Contents
Not knowing what matters
Cannot do will not do attitude
1. Not knowing what matters to you
Too often, unlucky people do not know what matters to them. They failed to prioritize the activities that will be of most beneficial to them. As a result of that, most of their day is ruled by circumstances and other people. After that, they will be too exhausted to spend time investing in themselves, leading to failure to create opportunities to get lucky and be successful.
When I was studying to get a diploma, I had a lot of free time. However, I always see myself as an unlucky person. The free time I thought I had will be sucked by video games, last-minute projects(due to poor time management) and watching anime. As a result of that, I never had enough money as I splurged on anime merchandise and video games. On the other hand, my friend had it all good. He is doing well in his shirt printing business and had a lot of time to spend on himself. After having a heart to heart talk with him, my friend was lucky because he had the discipline to prioritise. He used to be a game and anime addict like me, but eventually cut it down. He created a life plan, managed his time well and voila, all the opportunities come flowing to him
So what is the solution? Well one of the ways is to have an efficient goal setting system. I know it sounds overused, but setting SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-Based) is a very effective method to set goals. The reason being is that this system gives the goal-setter a sense of direction and urgency for the person to achieve his or her goals. Let me show you one of my smart goals.
Importance of SMART Goal
My initial goal was to do a lot of push-ups (vague goal).
SMART Goal 1- I want to be able to do 50 push-ups by June 2017. I will use the 100 push-ups programme to get there. (Refer to the table)
For the longer term, have a life plan. It does not have to be overly detailed, but it should contain enough information so as to give a basic guide for your life in your next few years. Here is an example of a life plan. You do not have to follow it word for word, but it a good template for one to use.
Rough Life Plan
Learn Website Development
Junior Events Manager
Junior Events Manager
Senior Events Manager
Senior Events Manager
Start own Events Company
Save 5k USD
Save 10k USD
Save 15k USD
Save 25k USD
Invest in Company
2. Feeling dead and unenthusiastic
You were having a nice time interacting with your girlfriend on vacation at Paris. Suddenly, the alarm rang and you woke up. And you realised that you have no girlfriend and your next boring vacation won’t be until 6 months later. You then crawl out of the bed(assuming you did not hit the snooze button) and proceed to prepare to go to your dead end job.
There are bound to be many times in our live where we felt very dead. We feel that life is going nowhere. Opportunities are hard to come by. Luck is not on your side.
In contrast, the lucky person wakes up in the morning happy and alive. He went into the kitchen and saw his beautiful girlfriend making for him a nice breakfast. He couldn’t wait to go out to sightsee in Paris and meet his French clients after that. Too often, we think that this situation is unattainable. We think that the guy was just fortunate to be in that circumstance. While that may be true, there are some people who worked hard enough to get into that circumstance. How?
He is eager and alive. He is always trying to new things which led to him to start a business. It allowed him to meet new people. Which led to meeting his love.
The conclusion is that one should always try to maintain a state where he loves to be alive instead of hating it. It would enable the person to be at his strongest state, allowing him to be able to overcome challenges and accept new opportunities, making himself to be more likely to be successful.
So you might ask, how do we get to such a state? How do we feel alive all the time? For me, I personally make it a point to try at least 1 new thing per week, whether that is as simple as learning how to sew or trying to learn how to programme. By learning new things, I open myself to more opportunities.
3. Cannot Do/ Will not do Attitude
Whenever we look at more luckier/successful people, we often feel inadequate. We felt that we'll never be able to be at their level. This will deal a huge damage to our confidence and self-worth, which in turn will lead to us rejecting the need to work hard and push our limits.
This cannot do attitude, the little voice in our head, will trap us in eternal negativity. We will tend to magnify our failures while minimizing our successes. Thus one will feel unluckier than other people.
Successful people however, do not allow that little voice in their head to dominate their decision making. They foster a can do and will do attitude, overcoming their challenges, one at a time.
There is one man whom I admire from the bottom of my heart. He is the epitome of a person who should always have a can-do, will-do attitude. The man’s name is Henry Ford. Below is a simple infographic I made for this man. I also highlighted the value which made Henry Ford great.
There is one factor which led Henry Ford to success. And that is perseverance. Henry Ford never gave up in spite of his initial bad luck. Eventually, he was known as one of the few giants which built America.
There is a quote which I would like to share. “ The more I practice, the luckier I get.”. What the quote means is that the more practice one puts in his trade, he becomes better at it and exposes him to more opportunities which will make him successful. Kobe Bryant did not become one of the greatest basketballers by just sitting around. He worked hard on a daily basis and thus became one of the greatest pillars to his basketball team
Success is not a mere coincidence. Luck is an unpredictable and uncontrollable force that shapes your fate, but getting into the state of good luck is something which YOU can control.
Stay tuned for my Part 2 of the series.