To Crap Out or Not To Crap Out: How To Stay Positive (it's a choice)
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How To Stay Positive When The Fit Hits The Shan
What does it mean to crap out?
Free Dictionary DOT com says, "to withdraw from doing something with someone, unexpectedly, perhaps because of fear or cowardice."
For me, crapping out is going negative.
First off, crapping out is a decision you make. Period. Anyone who tries to tell you different, including yourself, is already crapped out and needs to read this HUB!
In life, it doesn't always go the way you want or how you planned. I could spend a whole article/hub on the how's and why's of the fit hitting the shan and the reason's behind things not going your way but that's not why we're here right now. The reason we're here is to look at ways to handle it once it's happened.
That being said, a basic understanding of "why" will not hurt at all in your quest to not get all crapped out. Actually, since crapping out is ultimately your choice, you will want to explore the depths of this at some point, but for now, understand the following life philosophy:
"Life" is a journey and an experience that we select every moment of our existence From the moment we arrive on this planet to the moment we leave. If there is a higher power, and I believe there is, nothing will come down on you that you cannot handle or survive. Period.
I will now refer to the words of St Francis De Sales that were instilled in me by me dear loving Grandmother:
"Have No Fear for what tomorrow may bring. The same loving God who cares for you today will take care of you tomorrow and every day. He will either shield you from suffering or give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace, then, and put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginations."
- St. Frances de Sales
If you don't believe in a higher power, then the following will be difficult to accept or even understand, but try it anyway.
Take 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING that happens in your life. The good, the bad, the tragic, the wonderful, the horrifying and the amazing.
So with that out of the way, let's unfit the shan and put the crap out in reverse....
Control The Content In Your Mind
First and Foremost: Focus on what you can control
You can freak out over the stuff you have no control of or you can pile all your energy to that which you're in complete control. It's totally up to you. More often then not, when it's going nuts and nothing SEEMS to be working out the way you planned, you tend to feel like you're not in control. That some mysterious force has conspired against you. So how do you handle that?
Ask yourself, what do you currently have influence over? Two things come to mind right away.
- Your response
- Your mood
Everything else is hypothetical influence. Sure you have lot's of things over which you may have influence, but these two are guaranteed, so start here. Influence spreads outward like ripples in the water. You are the stone. Use your response-ability and your selection of mood (read attitude) to decide how big of a splash you're going to make!
So you and every human being on planet Earth has some very unique abilities that literally separate us from the rest of the animal kingdom. One is to see yourself in the 3rd person, another is to choose your response to stimuli and live outside of instinct. What we traditionally think of in terms of the word responsibility suddenly takes a back seat as we examine the word differently.
The ability to respond. This concept delivered to me by Stephen R Covey in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is an opportunity to examine how you've been responding to the world around you. Are you a knee-jerk reactionary type who spends time wondering what just happened or do you choose how to respond based on a series of collected morals, values and ethics?
If you take a mother bear for example. You get to close to her cub and you're going to have a slight problem. Mama bear just doesn't have it in her DNA to make a judgment call as to whether or not you're a threat to her attempt to carry on her species. She's simply going to shred you into little pieces. When it's time for the Alpha-Male Lion to mate... well, it's time and there's not going to be much discussion or thought put into that.
Most of us are a unique combination of the two. Your mission should you choose to accept it is to move closer to a response-able person.
Mood? Yeah, what about that? Your mood is yours. If it sucks, that too is yours to choose. When mood hits the toilet, what do you do?
- Acknowledge. Acknowledge that your mood sucks right now and then acknowledge that it only sucks right now because you are allowing it to.
- Accept. Accept that something beyond the scope of your immediate influence has infiltrated your good nature.
- Appreciate. Appreciate all the good that currently exists in your world.
- Appoint. Appoint a new mood that better services your higher good right now. Remember the last time you felt totally in control, powerful beyond measure and happy as a clam.
- Anchor. Anchor the energy of that last powerful memory and carry it with you as you move onward and upward.
- If all else fails, fake it till you make it. More often than not, creating action and converting adjectives and feelings into verbs has this unique ability to actually stimulate and create the emotion you'd rather be feeling.
An example of this could be...
You just lost a sale to a competitor and you have an appointment with a potential client in 15 minutes. Toss it for now and simply pretend that you not only got the deal but it was a bigger deal than you thought. Get excited about it. I mean really excited about it. Cheer, fist pump, jump up and down, do a "Yabba-Dabba-Doo" if you got to. The point is, to fake it till you make it. At least you can laugh at yourself for now and go into your appointment fresh instead of all crapped out!
Then later, you can debrief both situations. Ask yourself these questions:
- What worked?
- What didn't work?
- What did you learn?
- What can I do better next time?
- If you're in sales ask yourself: What objection stopped the sale and how will I handle that one next time?
This is taking charge of your mood and acting response-able.
Speaking of words that start with the letter "A" lets turn our attention to Grant Cardone.
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Where Was I?
Oh yeah, A-cubed!
All three of these, YOU are in charge of. Not your boss, your spouse, your family, just you. You're the pilot, the navigator and the mechanic. All in one. Anything less is you literally giving your ability to respond to some outside force and is you basically saying, "it's easier for me to be a victim than to take charge of my life."
Why is it that there are so many people on welfare and unemployment insurance? If this was 1861 instead of 2011, what kind of National entitlement plans existed?
The Homestead Act was signed into law in 1862. That's 160 acres you can claim west of the Mississippi. Assuming you survive the trip... Only 40% made it. How's that for entitlement?
Think you got it rough?
What kind of attitude was necessary to survive in the frontier of the 1860s with a Civil War raging and some pretty disgruntled natives laying in wait to protect their land?
Grant reminds us that success is our ethical responsibility, duty and obligation.
Did the settlers of this great nation share the same ideal? Damn right they did!
Their attitude towards freedom and expansion is what built this county. They developed the approach to adapt, build, struggle, fight and took massive amounts of action to succeed. All so someone can file for unemployment when they get fired for consistently showing up late.
If you're down on yourself, think about what the people who came before us had to go through for us to be able to crap out and sweat the small stuff.
Own your attitude.
Be willing and eager to constantly adapt and perfect your approach.
And commit to taking the appropriate amounts of action to bring it home.
The final piece to your attitude adjustment and to avoiding/prevent "the crap out" is to make sure you are taking massive amounts of action.
Grant Cardone says, "Massive action = new problems"
What is 10X?
10X is the reality that in order to guarantee success in any endeavor you need to take 10 times the amount of action you initially thought was required to achieve that goal.
For instance, if you're in sales, instead of setting one appointment and hoping that they show, set 10 appointments and deal with that! I mean, seriously, which problem would you rather have? One no show appointment that you have to follow up and chase down or 4 people showing up all at once?
If you're looking for donations for your favorite charity, is it better to call on ten people or 100?
If you're in a relationship that's struggling, do you stay on course or pour on the love?
What do you think produces the more favorable result?
Regardless of your attitude, mood, or how you're feeling or what's going on around you, taking massive action will do several things in your favor. One of which Grant talks about is production yields happiness. Note, that's not just about selling.
Give that some thought... really consider what production means to you.
When you'd like to know more about that, call me (David Bradley) at the office (800-368-5771) and I'll tune you in to a program that will do several things for you, one of which will teach you how to stay on point with your attitude. Another will teach you how to produce to create happiness. You'll also learn how to handle yourself in any situation that requires persuasion.
You and your attitude will fair far better from doing too much rather than too little. Look at any successful person from our current President to our first President. In fact every President that won an election took more action than their opponent. I'll suggest that regardless of their political policy or views, the ability to take massive amounts of action and lay down a big footprint is what put them in the oval office.
Bottom line here: When the fit hit's the shan, do more... A LOT MORE, not less. You'll be too busy to crap out!