What To Do When You Just Lost Your Job
Breathe deeply. Easy to say right? You say they do not understand! I just lost my job. What am I going to do?
Firstly, I am a three time job loser in my life. I was never single, so I had a wife and children to support. I can say with confidence that you will make it "through" this just as I did. Here are a few steps that you may want to take to get back on track.
It's Not Personal
I am assuming that you did not get fired for being bad, you got laid off. Therefore, it was nothing you did. And it's not about you. The problem that we have as humans is that we do not have our identity figured out.
When you ask someone about themselves, they ALWAYS tell you what they DO. This is the first mistake. We attach our identity to our job. It is what we allow ourselves to become. Therefore, when we lose our job, we feel that we lost ourselves. Naturally, your mind goes into panic mode.
The second mistake is we allow the panic. All of a sudden there is no food, the house will be lost, the kids will starve, and on and on. Remember, you are not your job and your job is not you. You are a person. A person with characteristics that make you special. Take this for what it is, the company does not require your skills and services. Find out where else you can be of service.
Next, you did not LOSE anything. How do we feel when we lost something? Say you lost your car keys. How do you feel? Upset? Angry? You panic?
You did not lose anything. Your employer no longer needed you. Period! ( or full stop for my Aussie friends!)
Stop Worrying and Start Focusing
Worry will never add another day to your life. 95 percent of what we worry about never comes true. Think about it. Before your job dilemma, you worried about things. Have they come true? Doubtful.
In addition, worry starts a vicious cycle. What we think about, we bring about. The more we think about something, plus add emotion to it, the more we see it. The more we see it, the more we believe it. The more we believe it, the more we see it. Should I go on?
The trick is focus! What are you focusing on. I will tell you
How am I going to _______
To further illustrate my point (as I feel you are not feeling it), close your eyes and start thinking and focusing on getting cancer. Keep doing this for 15 minutes. How does that feel? I will tell you that 100% of my seminar participants freaked out. They totally believed that even a small amount of time doing this would bring them cancer!
Now! If that is true (and I know it is), why not focus on positive outcomes!
Prosperity. Abundance. New job. Fun job, etc
We are taught going through school that we can only do one profession. Be a doctor. Be a lawyer,etc. Then we pigeon hole ourselves and actually believe that all we can ever do is what we have been doing. We go right back into the job ads and look for more of what we had before that let us down. Please read "time to reinvent yourself".
I have done so many different things in my life and i still look for others. Why not write a list of all of the things you are good at and like? See what is out there. You may be suprised and find a new path.
Attend business networking events. Business people network alot. Organizations such as BNI, Smart Networking, Chamber of Commerce, BOUNCE, and others exist all over the world. Attend a lunch or breakfast and network with other people. Every person knows at least 2,000 others. They can be of use to you in your pursuit.
Make A Plan
Plan your days. Do NOT sleep in. It will become a habit. Decide what you are going to do and plan out your strategy. Start each day with affirmation cards. Write on cards
I will get my perfect job
I will pay all my bills
I will enjoy my day
Money comes to me very fast
I attract money where ever i go
Write out your behavior and check each one off. Do not get discouraged ifnyou do not get results the first day.
We cannot measure results! We can only measure behavior. Do the behaviour and the results will follow.
Yes, i know. I can hear you! You are saying, "but I need money now!"
Ok. That too, has a plan to it
1. Do not panic
2. Cut out all unnecessary expenses. Do not focus on the lack of them. Focus on what you do have and how those things can help you make money
3. Take stock. All unnecessary items can be sold on Ebay or have a yard sale.
4. If you have a car payment, sell your car and buy a cheaper one for cash. (reference Charles Givens - financial self defense)
5. If you have a mortgage and can downsize, sell you house and get a cheaper rent payment (reference Charles Givens)
6. Go get a lesser job temporarily. I stocked grocery store shelves (when out of work as a CPA) until i found what I wanted.
7. List all of the ways you can make money
A. Look at a site called fiverr. You can do all sorts of things for five dollars!
B. Sell other people's products via your facebook or twitter page
C. Work part time
D. Write articles on HUB pages and get adsense and ebay earnings
E. look for people (like me!) that pay people to help promote their products
Bottom line is this. I believe that everybody can find "a" job. It may not be exactly what they want, but it does not have to be forever. We all a people. We have talents and skills that we can put to good use and earn money. I hope this was helpful.
If you think I am crazy and do not understand your situation, please comment. Tell me your challenges. I will comment in the most constructive way to assist you in your life.