When a man refuses to work and you decide to take care of him
Stop working for men who don't want to work
This hub came to exist because a friend of mine works two jobs to fend for her family, while her husband sits home everyday and refuses to find a job.
Now grant it, the job market may not be what you want, however there is work if you really want to work. It just might not be what you want to do for now.
Men stop being lazy and making your wife or girlfriend take care of you while you sit home on the couch all day playing video games, talking to your next gig on the computer or entertaining your other worthless friends while she is working her butt off to provide for your family. If you want a mother then move back home.
This attitude that these men have sickens me, especially when children are involved and she is wondering should I pay the bills or buy school clothes or even groceries for that matter. I can not understand why any grown woman with or without children tolerate this behavior when their partner just refuses to work period.
Here is the solution: Send him back from where he came from. Stop being taken advantage of. Working, cleaning, cooking and taking care of the children. Sometimes they won't even get up off their butts and do the housework when they refuse to work. But they don't mind feeding their faces and their friends and leaving the mess for you.
If you are living in this situation with children either boy or girl children, what is this teaching them? It's teaching your daughters to grow up and be like you. It's teaching your sons that they don't have to get a job because they can find a woman to take care of them and they don't have to worry about taking care of their families.
Most states and townships have day labor pools so there is no excuse. If you buy a paper on Sunday for your area I am quite sure there are jobs listed. For God sake make him go mow someones grass or walk dogs. There is always a way to legally make money.
When you have children it's not about you and they shouldn't have to go without because a man won't provide.
It's 2012 so stop this idiotic behavior and make them work or fly the coop. You will live fine without them because it's one less mouth to feed and less electric too. Your not going to be any poorer if he is gone or not.