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When your Boss is having an Affair with a Co Worker

Updated on June 12, 2013

I am writing this Hub in response to Snoblet’s Question in Q & A.

Snoblet Asks: "What will you do if you find out your Boss is having an Affair with your co worker?" I personally would:


a) Remind myself that it is none of my Business.

b) Keep a professional attitude towards them and turn a blind eye.

c) Be Diplomatic. I have observed in such situations, if you step on any one of their toes, you will upset both of them and in the case of the co-worker, the Boss would take their side.

d) Not engage in any office Gossip about them or even stay around it, to avoid any implications. Once people start chit chat about it, I'll go and grab a coffee.

e) If it gets to a point where it affects my work. Example, I rely on my Co-worker as a team-member and they consistently don’t deliver or something else. Then, I might either consider speaking to a Senior Manager, looking for another Job or praying them away.This could mean they would end up getting a Transfer or have to travel somewhere urgently, or be even given another position, which keeps them out of my way. God works in mysterious ways. (◕‿◕).


My Experience

I have been in a position where my Boss was going out with a Colleague. They were both Senior staff and were so lovely to me, so I never had a problem with them. I even got promoted because of them. They just happened to find love in the Workplace and never rubbed it in our faces.

What would you do if your Boss was having an Affair with a Co Worker?


Definitely a "No No"


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      Nur 4 years ago

      I would have thought cats ndeeed more attention if you don't want them to run away. I would have thought dogs could live happily by themselves in the back yard. All you need to do is feed them and reward them treats so they behave. Depends on how good your pet's memory is too.

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      @Rose The Planner - Totally agree with you. A lot people have found true love in the workplace and they handled themselves well, without inconveniencing staff. Thanks for stopping.

      @J Dove Miller - Thanks. It's nice to know you will do the same. Lovely to see you again. Best Wishes.

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      @CriSP Thanks. I agree it's important that the people involved are not already married. About the other Hub, I was just fed up of HP picking and choosing articles to be featured and saying it's not up to standard. It never used to be like that, which encouraged a lot of people to write.

      I closed it to comments . The funny thing is, while they are picking and choosing what Hubs to be featured, many of our articles are being stolen and re-published on other sites. They should spend half of that energy doing something about it.

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      JDove-Miller 4 years ago from YOUNGSVILLE

      I like your reactions to the office affair. Unless it impacts me, I'd ignore it also.

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      @alwaysexploring - We are on the same page, Ruby..... keeping out of it. Thanks for stopping by.

      @MsDora - Thanks. Sometimes, for peace sake, it's best to do that. I'm glad you stopped by.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      I thought this was such an interesting article. I think this sort of thing happens often in the workplace environment. If you think about it, you end up spending more time with co-workers than your own family sometimes. I think when a boss is carrying on with another employee, it is an awkward situation to say the least. You're caught between a rock and a hard place. Quite frankly, the only thing that would bother me is if either of them are cheating on their spouses or significant other. I think that would make me uncomfortable. However, if neither of them are married, more power to them. Great article! Thanks for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      I don't see any problem with it provided they are both singles or won't be ruining a family of their own for their momentary pleasures. To each his own...I'd stay away from the business.

      P.S. I was just reading your other hub: Jobs - Favourite and Funny Stories from Work Life, in which we couldn't put a comment. Oh, why HP? Anyway, it was actually a good read. I enjoyed it too. Cheers!

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      I'd tried to keep out of their business. In fact, I'll imitate your attitude.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      It is none of my business so i would say nothing...

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      @Levertis - Aaawh... A Happy outcome. What a nice professional couple. Come to think of it, many married couples today met at the workplace. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      @FullofLoveSites - Thanks for sharing your opinion. You are right, it's one thing to be single and available but it's completely different when people are married and trying to be available. :-)

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      Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

      If the two sparklers were not indecent, and both or either was not married to someone else, I would look at it as a normal relationship. If it did not affect their own or anyone else's duties, create problems, or cause any undue discomfort, why should anyone be offended? I do not believe that it is professional for either a married couple or singles to cause an unnecessary distraction at a job site. Business should be business unless a couple wants to announce an engagement or plans for marriage at lunch, during a break, or at the closure of a meeting. That's good news!

      If you meant for your readers to understand that you were referring to cheaters, I missed it, and I apologize for that. Cheaters are always a distraction on a job, and their frollicking is unethical. If unchecked, their behavior would lowers the morale of the company. They should be warned once, if the offensive behavior is not sexual, and fired if it happens a second time. If they are caught in unacceptable misconduct, they should be fired on the spot regardless of their marriage statuses.

      I recall a specific couple, both single and my co-workers, having dated secretly, announce their engagement at the close of a business meeting involving all employees. We, including CEO's, were extremely surprised and so happy for them. Because they were both single and kept their relationship outside of the job site, they did not violate any policies and procedures. They soon married!

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      FullOfLoveSites 4 years ago from United States

      If your boss is single and available, there's no prob. Unless it's either he's married or you're jealous because you like him too and you wish you were in the coworker's place. And they even flaunt about it in the workplace. Hehehehe. Anyway, it's just my opinion. :)

      I would choose letter E.

      I've never encountered a boss and a colleague having an affair, just among my peers so far. So it would be very interesting for me to see that myself if that happens. :)

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK


      Thanks Bill, lovely to hear (read) from you. It's nice to know the people at your workplace then, were transferred. Brilliant outcome. :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great picture accompanying this hub....I have been in this situation and it was uncomfortable for all around them....they both eventually got transferred, a predictable outcome. :)

      Nice to you you writing here again my friend.