Thanks for the feedback. I've been very stressed and upset about this. I've used all my assertiveness skills and communication training to try and resolve things. No avail. I'm out of ideas and feel backed into a corner ...
suvitharoja - I WISH the proof were in the pudding. I've been self-employed as a Content Provider and Consultant for 4 years now. While I don't usually discuss my income, my family has seen that it supports me.
lanaz - YES! I have a client that needs me to work in his office when he contracts me. My mom used to call for a chat or drop into the office unannounced to visit. I've explained that it was unprofessional and made me look bad in front of my client. Mercifully, she stopped doing that.
suvitharoja & kschang - I discussed things with them *several times* over the past 4 years, yet my family thinks I'm at their disposal, because I'm "just goofing around on the computer all day."
I've explained repeatedly that just because I work from home, doesn't mean I'm actually available all the time. I've outlined what I do with my time, what I do for clients, how long it takes me - add in my personal life with my SO and personal activities ... I've asked them several times to call before coming over and now if I'm lucky, they call when they're in the car about 10-20 minutes away .... hurray for progress :-/
I've asked them several times to let me know at least 2 days in advance of planned events and get-togethers or even when they'd like me to pop over for a casual visit. They exchange this infuriating look like I'm being a prima donna and totally ignore my request.
I have set my boundaries, explained them to EVERYONE very clearly and enforced them repeatedly over the past few years to the point that I refuse to change my plans when folk show up announced and have missed several family events. They just won't co-operate and then get furious with me.