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Work Life Balance

Updated on November 8, 2012

Physician, Heal Thyself?

This is another small business owner post from Paul Hassing.

Some people hate their work.

Some like it, but seek to balance it with life.

For others, work and play are one.

I imagine the third group is happiest and healthiest, but I'd like to know.

Funny How It Goes

I once got a lift with a professional cleaning couple. Their van was knee deep in crud. Yet I'd seen their work and it was flawless.

When I asked about the disparity, the husband replied 'We clean all day, we no want to clean after: you should see our house!'

When I asked a traditional teppanyaki chef if he got to eat at his place of work, he replied that he always bought Hungry Jacks on the way home!

The teppanyaki kit his girlfriend gave him was still in its box. He explained that after looking at teppanyaki all day, he couldn't face it in his free time.

My friend loves her managerial job, but wishes she could shut the door at 6.00 pm to be with her family, friends and hobbies.

Instead, work follows her everywhere, pervading her nights, weekends and even holidays.

An extraordinary lady I know uses horses to heal and teach people. In the two days I spent analysing her business, I found not one gap between her work and her passion.

Her life is seamless, her contentment absolute.

As I composed this lens, I saw this tweet: 'Am about to tackle my Twitter page design-wise. This is my day job so why do I find it so daunting?'

Why indeed.

At Christmas I got a newsy letter from an auntie; I still haven't written back. My wife says I write the best greeting cards; I cringe when she hands me one.

My World Vision kids haven't had a note from me in 18 months, despite my promise.

I'm a writer; why do I commit these literary sins?

I love writing, but not in my spare time. Though I do write at odd hours if I'm in the mood. I don't really fit the categories above.

So I'd like to know:

1. How do you feel about your work or business?

2. Should work/life separation be full, partial or zero?

3. Is the adage 'Find a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life' true?

I warmly invite your stories and thoughts.

Paul Hassing, Founder & Senior Writer, The Feisty Empire.

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      Paul Hassing 7 years ago

      @darciefrench lm: Thank you for such a generous and heartfelt comment, Darcie. I've had a look at your lenses and been very interested by your journey. I'm pleased to hear you're getting a good handle on this life caper. Best regards, P. :)

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      darciefrench lm 7 years ago

      I bought into the illusion for a long time that work needed to be separate from play. My life was seriously compartmentalized- happiness here, duty there, hell all over. There was no streamline of Joy, no glue to keep it together long-term. Surrendered all of that. Have been flying free, winging it now for almost 3 years. Never know exactly where the rent, bills and food will come from, that had to be surrendered with the 9-5. (budgeting is a bonus of 9-5 work perhaps). Am I happier this way- you bet! I'm always doing something that has potential for income. Always- the difference is doing what I want vs what I'm told; linear outcomes are easily surrendered to the Big Guy now- (after 3 years of 'insecurity' I understand experientially that God looks after all children :-).

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      Paul Hassing 7 years ago

      @eclecticeducati1: Thank you kindly. I greatly appreciate your thoughts and blessing. :)

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      eclecticeducati1 7 years ago

      You have a lot of great points! You should love your work and I think it would make someone happier. Blessed by a Squid Angel.

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      Paul Hassing 7 years ago

      @MagpieNest: I sure do hear you on THAT one! I imagine that's the dream of many. Guess the only way to get there is to keep on plugging away. Thank you for droping by. :)

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      MagpieNest 7 years ago

      On a day to day basis, I love my job. But there's so much else I want to do. I'd like to semi-retire as early as possible and follow my other interests.

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      Paul Hassing 7 years ago

      @GabrielaFargasch: Great to hear from you, Gabriela. From the quality of your lenses, I can see you're on the right tram! Thank you for stopping by. :)

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      GabrielaFargasch 7 years ago

      I hate working for other people! My dream in life is to be my own boss........... I'm almost there!!

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      EnshaReiya 7 years ago

      Thanks Paul, your topic is on track and relevant, as many people are in career and lifestyle transition, many because of health reasons.

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      Paul Hassing 7 years ago

      @EnshaReiya: Thank you so much for taking the time to join Squidoo and comment, Ensha! I really appreciate your wise, heartfelt comment. People would do very well to click your link for more of the same. You've been such a supportive online friend; I am most grateful that you simply don't know how to stop giving! Best regards, P. :)

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      EnshaReiya 7 years ago

      Great questions Paul

      What if itâs different strokes for different folks? A combination of loving what you do and finding your balance.

      2010 â The year of Balance, has presented an opportunity to create a lifestyle that fills you up rather then empties you out. Attaining this somewhat elusive balance/harmony can begin by noticing what part of your life needs more energy and start by putting some in.

      The least healthful model in the work/life balance picture- being miserable in your daily job/business, equals discontent multiplied by hours /weeks/months and what can feel like lifetimes to the body and mindâ my suggestion is change jobs and if that isnât possible right now, begin this transition by changing your attitude now to minimise the effects on your health. Take action steps into finding new employment; remember these changes you are making will most likely take you in a whole new direction â get excited your life can now open up in a more positive way.

      Somewhere in the middle - You love excellent coffee, but you donât want to drink it 24/7. Recognising that even while you love what you do, sometimes you just want to adjust direction for a while and explore another one of your loves, allowing yourself to return refuelled and replenished with plenty to give.

      Life on Purpose - Paul, this is the one that you would have recognised with your friend and her horses â where her work isnât something that she does, it is who she is â this connection pervades everything in her life. The best way I can explain it is that there is no separation. You are being the dance rather then the dancer.