There are 10 comments that are harsh but not mean on the Internet. Read each comment as though in love with the writer.
Sometimes the route to the top has some hard moments
Not everything said that challenges you is mean
Some comments need to be harsh. Frankness is important to help other writers. Comments are not mean because they address whatever is raised.
Some folks need to get a thicker skin. Hubpages is not your living room where you get in pajamas and sing kumbaya with your closest friends. It is a public place. Not only are your invited guests free to join in, strangers as well are welcome. Did you know that in many cultures, “please”, “thank you” and “excuse me” are not even used verbally as they are not sincere in some and in some they are presumed.
So one water buffalo says to the other, "you are a water buffalo" the other responds, "how could you say that?"
Honesty is the best policy?
I have some folks that follow me just to be a thorn in my side. I like it, it keeps me sharp. I rewrote some the other day just to avoid harsh comments, it made my piece better. We all know about the husband who says “yes honey that is a wonderful outfit” and his poor wife goes around looking the fool. My wife is not a fool. She does not ask my opinion, she just struts her stuff, and I better have a comment, hey sometimes orange does not work with green. She loves that I help her to look her best, and she is awesome when she makes sure my fly is zipped.
The point is that we have to be comfortable enough with ourselves and commenters.
Here are the ten comments:
You are wrong.
You really need to do a grammar and spell check buddy.
Where did you get your facts?
This seems a little preachy.
This needed to be longer.
Do not tell me what I believe.
Break it up more, please.
Are you stating this as fact, or your opinion?
This makes me feel – sad, angry, edgy…..
Was this meant to be funny? And my favorite
That is not ten, that is eleven ;-)
Here are ten that you can normally safely make:
I do not agree but you wrote it out very well.
Looks like you put a lot of work into it.
I never saw it that way.
Thanks for sharing your views.
I learned something, thank you
I love this guy, he always has something helpful to say.
Take the flattery of attention
A wonderful truth of this world is that people need people. A sad truth of this world is that people need people. I do not always like what I read, but I always like the fact that you wrote it. I do not always like my comments to others, but I hope you appreciate that I took the time to write it. Showing Love is not all platitudes and pleasantries. Sometimes sharing an opposite view is good for everyone.
My good friend, I cannot see in me, what you do, please let me know what it is that you see.