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How to Easily Design Your Dream Life

Updated on August 18, 2015

Are you living the life you imagined you would be living when you were younger? Have you achieved the success you dreamed of? If not, can you identify why?

The epidemic – Millions of people seem to have given up on their dreams and settled for less. It seems to me that the majority of Americans are leading lives of quiet desperation. They are going to jobs they don’t really like and are just going through the motions of the daily routine of life. Many have simply settled where they are at in their life without seeing their dreams come to pass or achieving the success they desired. Are you one of these people?

Reality Check

Only recently did I begin searching for answers about this important issue about life. A 50-year old man recently revealed to me that he feels like he has not accomplished nearly what he thought he would at that stage in his life. I realized that many people were not taught how to plan their lives, so that they can live it on purpose. One statistic I heard many years ago said that most people spend more time planning a vacation than they spend planning their life!

Most people had so many dreams and ideas floating in my head, but never once sat down with a pen and paper to draw the blueprint and map out a plan to get me there! Some may occasionally write down their goals, but had no concrete plan on how to achieve them. You certainly never headed out on a vacation without knowing where you were going and how you were going to get there. So you can see that you may be one of the statistics who may have spent more time planning a vacation. This is the sad, but it is the true picture. It makes me really wonder why learning how to set goals and plan your life is not taught in school.

Time to learn a new habit

Fortunately, it is never too late to learn a new habit, and I’m proud to say that I have begun mapping out a plan to build a successful Internet Marketing business that will allow me to achieve financial freedom in the within the next 5 years.

The cure – Defining what success would look like for you

Where should you begin so that you can start planning your life and achieving the success that you have always dreamed of? First, you need to have a clear understanding of what success would look like to you.

Have you ever really thought about how you would define success or what success would look like in your life? Not what your parents, your kids, your spouse, or the world says that success is….what is success to YOU? It is okay if you haven’t, because you probably were never taught to do this, or you never took the time.

If you are not feeling successful in your life, I’m willing to bet that it is because you don’t have a crystal clear picture of what success means to you. Or maybe you have achieved what you thought was your definition of success, and you are not experiencing the joy and fulfillment that you assumed you would (this is evidenced by many famous people who achieved their dream, but maybe their marriage is falling apart, or they have no relationship with their family, or the worst tragedy of all….they take their own life).

Wouldn’t you like to KNOW that you will be fulfilled when you achieve your definition of success? How else are you going to achieve success in your life if you don’t know what it looks like for you?

Key areas of your life

It is good to think about all of these areas when you are defining what success looks like to you.

1. Relationships (family, friends, significant other, co-workers)

2. Physical health (fitness, health, nutrition)

3. Career/life’s purpose

4. Finances

5. Personal growth and development

6. Spirituality

7. Fun/Leisure/Hobbies

8. Physical environment/surroundings (where you live, decor of your home/office)

9. Emotional health

Take Action

So get out a pen and paper and start writing!

Here are some things to ask yourself to help get your creative juices flowing. Filling the spaces below could help you figure out your purpose and what success really means to you, from a personal perspective.

1. My favorite part of what I do is ……………………………………………………

2. When I’m doing ................................., I don’t feel like I am working

3. I would be happier if I had more time to…………………………………………...

4. I feel nervous or anxious when I think about ……………………………………

5. If I won a billion dollars, I would spend most of my time doing…………………………………

6. If I never had to do this again, that would be fine by me…………………………………………

7. I wish I had a better…………………………………………………..

8. If I had the money to do ............................, it would make everything possible

9. When I picture myself nearly retired, I would spend the majority of my day.......................

10. Sometimes I feel like I’m missing out on………………………………………………………

11. My personal life and work would feel more in balance if ………………………………………………..

12. I feel like I’m living my purpose when I’m…………………………………………………

13. I know I’m making an impact on others when I ……………………………………….

Now, write a paragraph on what success looks like to you.

My definition of success

I’m sharing my personal definition of success with you. Feel free to use ideas from it, but make sure that your definition reflects your beliefs, values, desires, etc.

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    • Wilsono profile imageAUTHOR

      Wilson 

      2 years ago

      Thanks for commenting, Greeneyedblondie. Yes, a lot of people truly need this.

      Thank you, Caryn Bickel. Glad it inspired you. We can all make a change, and lead a better life.

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      Caryn Bickel 

      2 years ago from Los Angeles

      I am especially grateful for your take on challenging the status quo! Bravo!

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      greeneyedblondie 

      2 years ago

      I feel like a lot of people need this!

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