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Never type when you are angery

Updated on April 24, 2012

As many

of my readers already know. I have a temper. I also have a low tolerance for people who troll. I get upset when people feed the troll. I lash out at both parties usually when I am already in a mood to lash out but don't want to do it to people I actually have to face on a daily basis. These are weaknesses I am still prone to. I am really not sure how to get over them. I know that they impede my ability to write. Especially here.

Every time you lash out remember who you are offending. Especially if you don't take after one person who may or may not deserve being ridden you may want to be careful. Everyone you offend is someone who probably won't contribute to you making money here. Unfortunately there is a politic about doing well here. You do have a clientele. They are your readers. Your product are your articles, not your answers. You can use your answers to aid you in gaining traffic but if people see your name and say, "Not again," You may not get read.

I try not to lash out too often. My pet peeve tends to be in the lands of Religion. It doesn't feel right for people to talk about it as though there were some right to debate the subject. I hate it when atheists bash Christians and I hate it when Christians decide to argue the point as though they can make a dent in the minds of those predisposed to disagree. Even so, It probably doesn't do any good to rail at them both. Those are huge segments of your perspective audience. Why do I do it? Usually it happens when i am tired, or peevish. Would I take back the words I spew. Probably, not because of any fallacy on my part but because of the general hubris involved.

It isn't a good habit to anger your public. Maybe if might get you some notice at first but if there is no substance that excuses your temper then you will be treated as just another barking dog. If there is substance, it is a good way to earn yourself a flamer. For those who don't know what that is, a flamer is one who goes to your site just to insult you.

Remember, no one has to read your work. It is completely up to them. It helps to keep as much of your readership happy and to project yourself as a generally happy person. If you want to increase your viewership, find out what your readers are interested in and add to those subjects in your articles. There is so much to write on and so much research to be done that you shouldn't have time to rail against writers. it does happens some time.

If you do lash out, see what you can do about learning from the people you lashed out at. Read their works and leave constructive comments on their work. If you find writers that, after further analysis were worth your time, feel free to become their fans. Be sincere.

Remember, you are a writer not a basher. The pen is mightier then the sword. Your words can inspire others or it can cut to the heart. There are few crafts like writing in which what you say actually matters. So make every word count. It is worth your time to do it. It also might be worth your wallet.

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    • Jaggedfrost profile imageAUTHOR

      Jaggedfrost 

      6 years ago

      Thats me, purveyor of mental T Bone stakes. Thanks for the read and stopping by.

    • stanwshura profile image

      stanwshura 

      6 years ago

      Ugh...treat HP like my soapbox to unburden my shoulders, or like a job, where temperence, diplomacy (yuck!!!), and focusing on quality writing and, when applicable, research and vetting of sources....

      Eenie meanie minie mo.... ;)

      Thanks for the brain food. Jussssst might take awhile for me to digest!

    • Jaggedfrost profile imageAUTHOR

      Jaggedfrost 

      6 years ago

      Thank you mike. Sometimes the "wrong" feel right and I would be one who resembles that remark. Once in a while, however I begin to wonder if saying the thing that might educate falls by the way side because the person who aught to have read it was hurt by something else I wrote in a fervent vent of "honesty."

    • empire mike profile image

      empire mike 

      6 years ago from empire, colorado

      jf- the title of this drew me right to it, for i have lashed out, in comments, not to in individual per se, but to concepts which have made me angry. i raged against the entire male gender, of which i am a member, in a good friends hub. called them all a--holes. i meant it and glad i said it. still am. i happened to be agreeing with the hub's writer. i even predicted to the writer when the hub came out that few men would reply, which was correct. doesn't mean they weren't viewing. i hope some were offended by his hub and my comment. why, because men need to get out of their arrogant selfish lifestyles. i personally am not here to make any "money." i'm here to write, and i am very honest about what i write. if there's a wrong, "write" it. as far as comments to individuals, i control my fingers. this hub, yes i found it intriguing and emotionally stimulating, as you can probably can tell. and very good advice. it is wise advice, just as thinking before you speak face to face with someone- which is infinitely more important, since once you've said it, you can't delete it. good hub, jaggedfrost!

    • Jaggedfrost profile imageAUTHOR

      Jaggedfrost 

      6 years ago

      And what calling would that be my dear?

    • Nellieanna profile image

      Nellieanna Hay 

      6 years ago from TEXAS

      You're right. That is complicated - and tense. Seems to be working with itself against itself. Have you maybe missed your calling? :-)

    • Jaggedfrost profile imageAUTHOR

      Jaggedfrost 

      6 years ago

      That is a little complicated. I think sometimes I get to the point in my internal chemistry where a little masochism ends up salving some inner angst that I am expressing. I cant seem to get it quite right. I think, with in me is the thought that it isn't entirely my fault. I know that the end result wont reflect that but I am honest enough to say so. Am I OK with my psychology? I have come to a point in my progress as an individual where I am not always sure how much further I can go to change matters as they stand. They aren't as I would wish them but then I am not entirely sure on that score. I swear, the more you work to perfect things within the sneakier your body gets at asserting its feelings on any given topic.

    • Nellieanna profile image

      Nellieanna Hay 

      6 years ago from TEXAS

      Are you OK with that?

    • Jaggedfrost profile imageAUTHOR

      Jaggedfrost 

      6 years ago

      Here I usually don't have a problem when I write my hubs. When i answer questions or respond to comments from other writers on my hubs, I tend to be a little more rash.

      It gets me in trouble from time to time.

    • Nellieanna profile image

      Nellieanna Hay 

      6 years ago from TEXAS

      There is value to being free to write as the moment activates but you don't have to post it immediately. A habit of letting it stew a bit before publishing - maybe even writing it offline and giving it time to settle before pasting it can allow one to air the demons without always sharing them. Eventually it tends to provide its own brakes as one is writing. I'm not prone to lashing out in anger but I do sometimes react in ways not true to my best self. Letting it sit a bit is a good way to allow myself to question whether I really want to go out on a shaky limb or misrepresent myself. Sometimes in that whole instant reaction, it may come off sounding blaming or misconstruing the other person(s), which is simply not my motivation. Time allows instances of that to surface and be reexamined and discarded if not one's intention.

      Nice thing about writing is that one is provided a cushion of time, if one chooses to use it, before saying the first thing that comes to mind. It can even help one become more aware of one's spoken messages and their effects.

    • Jaggedfrost profile imageAUTHOR

      Jaggedfrost 

      6 years ago

      Amen to that. Thank you for stopping by.

    • twolittlehands profile image

      twolittlehands 

      6 years ago from Utah

      I like what you said about after lashing out at someone, to develop some respect for them. There is nothing to be gained by bearing a grudge.

      You express yourself very well, Jaggedfrost. I enjoy your articles.

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