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How I Met My Husband

Updated on May 28, 2014

Our Story

This lens is going to be about how I met my husband, what I like about him, and why I married him. I hope you'll find it entertaining.

When I met my husband, I had been a long-term relationship with someone else. How long-term? Try 10 years. The relationship had been dead for about 5 years, and I think we both remained in it because it was comfortable and secure. I know, bad reasons to stay. I was thinking about leaving the relationship anyways, and meeting my husband just pushed me into it faster than I would have otherwise.

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The Beginning

I was in a bar called Rumpshakers (it's closed now). My husband's band, and the boyfriend's band were both playing in it that night. I've been sitting in this bar for about 3 hours. My then boyfriend was a "social butterfly" type, so he'd pop in every once in a while, then disappear again. I'd been buying my own drinks, and talking to the drummer in the boyfriend's band.

My husband had no way of knowing I was with anyone, because the boyfriend was nowhere to be seen. My husband thought I was with the guy I was talking to for a while, but he realized we weren't acting like a couple the longer he watched.

He sat down a couple of bar stools over, and started a conversation. Yes, a conversation. No lines, nothing like that, he just sat down and acted like he was interested in what I was saying. Not the approach I'm used to. Anyways, I had a few more drinks than I would have had otherwise, and gave out more information than a sober person would have. I didn't give him my phone number, but I did tell him where I worked. This was Friday. Imagine my surprise when he showed up at my work on Sunday.

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The Middle

Okay, so, he shows up at my work two days later. I was surprised he even remembered anything I had told him. We were both drinking, and I'd never had anyone I'd met do that to me before. I was dumbfounded.

We went out and had a cigarette because I had a break coming, and we just talked out there. He told me a little bit about his band and himself, and asked me about my work schedule. At the time, I didn't know why I gave him that information, but I'm glad I did now.

This was in July of 1999. At first, my husband was only trying to make me a fan of his band, or so he says, but I'm sure there was more than that behind it. After about two weeks of him visiting me at work, and me sneaking away to see him every once in a while, I had to tell him I was in a relationship with someone else, and I was very sorry because I really liked him. I told him I was going to leave the relationship I was in as soon as I had the funds available to do so. I didn't see him again until September. I told him that I hadn't been able to forget about him, and I was almost ready to move out of the apartment I was sharing with my boyfriend. I told him I was only $100 short to move, and you know what he did? He gave it to me. He didn't "loan" it to me, he gave it to me. Who could resist that?

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The End

So, we started dating in September of 1999. He wanted to keep some of his independence, and I wanted to keep some of mine too, so we didn't even move in together until after we were married. He stayed at my house a couple of nights a week, I stayed at his once in a while, but we both kept our own places.

Our first date was the MInnesota Renaissance Festival. To this day, we go every year. Although my husband won't admit it, he goes because it was the start of the best time of his life. His words, not mine.

In January of 2000, he asked me to marry him. There wasn't anything really romantic about it or anything. He just said, "Let's get married." With no hesitation, I said "sure." He told me afterwards that he knew he was going to marry me the night we met. Two years to the day we met, we got married.

We just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary this year. We both decided there must have been a reason why neither one of us had been married before, or had kids before. We were meant to be together, it just took us a little while to find each other.

He can be a little chauvanistic sometimes, but with that comes the "chivalry" thing. He still helps me with my coat when we go out, and he still opens doors for me. He calls me his "princess", and even though, we've had a couple of rough patches, neither one of us would change any of it.

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How Did You Meet Your Significant Other?

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Photos Of My Husband - My own personal "bad boy."

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Rick as the drummer in "The Confederate Boogiemen"Photo copyright Shari O'LearyChristmas, 2008Photo Copyright Shari O'LearyJust hanging with BenPhoto copyright Shari O'LearyPlay timePhoto copyright Shari O'LearyRick and DixiePhoto copyright Shari O'Leary
Rick as the drummer in "The Confederate Boogiemen"Photo copyright Shari O'Leary
Rick as the drummer in "The Confederate Boogiemen" Photo copyright Shari O'Leary
Christmas, 2008Photo Copyright Shari O'Leary
Christmas, 2008 Photo Copyright Shari O'Leary
Just hanging with BenPhoto copyright Shari O'Leary
Just hanging with Ben Photo copyright Shari O'Leary
Play timePhoto copyright Shari O'Leary
Play time Photo copyright Shari O'Leary
Rick and DixiePhoto copyright Shari O'Leary
Rick and Dixie Photo copyright Shari O'Leary

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    • TN Grand Dad profile image

      TN Grand Dad 

      5 years ago

      I knew when I met her... and to this day, 30+ years later, she's still not 100% sure why she 'took up with me'. It's been an interesting journey... 5 kids... 9 grand kids... and it just keeps getting better. It's a lot of work - don't ever take it for granted - but the results can be amazing!

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      Lorelei Cohen 

      5 years ago from Canada

      I always like to see marriages that are happy and filled with respect for one another. As I write this my better half appears to be spending his day off in bed today lol. It is Saturday so that is okay.

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      Shari O'Leary 

      6 years ago from Minnesota

      @AlleyCatLane: That's what we thought too. There were just too many coincidences to make us think otherwise.

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      Shari O'Leary 

      6 years ago from Minnesota

      @Board-Game-Brooke: There's always hope. We were both over 30 when we met.

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      C A Chancellor 

      6 years ago from US/TN

      Nice story! I'm still looking for my "Mr. Right." Maybe someday!

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      6 years ago

      Looks like you were meant o be together. My best to you and your husband.

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      7 years ago

      You have lucky to have a loving family.

    • sharioleary profile imageAUTHOR

      Shari O'Leary 

      7 years ago from Minnesota

      @ICanCook: I'm glad you enjoyed it. It's nice to know that it's interesting enough to keep people reading it. Thank you!

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      7 years ago

      Very interesting story and good topic for a lens. I actually read and was interested in your story.

    • debnet profile image


      7 years ago from England

      ''Rumpshakers" Love it!!! That's a story for the grandchildren :)

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      7 years ago

      Thanks for sharing your story and best wishes to you both! :)

    • ellagis profile image


      7 years ago

      Nice story!

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      7 years ago

      liked your lens, this was cool reading about how you met mister mister. gave your lens a 'thumbs up'!

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      Heather B 

      7 years ago

      I love these personal lenses. Thanks for sharing your story!

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      7 years ago

      hmm interesting.

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      mattseefood lm 

      7 years ago

      I enjoyed reading your story. Thanks for sharing :)

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      7 years ago

      I am always interested in reading lenses like these. good job with and all the best to you both.

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      nosajreef lm 

      8 years ago

      This is a great lens. I can relate.

      Believe it or not I met my wife on an online personal site never in a million years did I believe that would ever work. Check out this lens about how we met its so unbelievable but all so true. To this day I can't believe it a dating site?r

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      8 years ago from Tacoma, WA

      Great lens, Squidoo Angel blessed, and I know I will be adding this to my Angel Lensography in the love stories section!

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      8 years ago from Berkshire, United Kingdom

      I met my fiance about a month after you met your hubby! We moved in together 4 months later and we're still blissfully happy over 11 years later (we've finally organised ourselves to get married next year) I've been married before but like you, me and my OH were meant to be and you KNOW when you've found each other :) I loved reading this lens and wish you and your lovely hubby health, wealth and happiness all the days of your lves :D

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      8 years ago

      hi again, you inspired me to write my own journey with my husband :)

      let me know what you think

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      8 years ago

      this is so cute i am going to have to make one of these. our story is...odd :)

    • ZablonMukuba profile image


      8 years ago

      this is a romantic epic lens

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      9 years ago

      This is really, really sweet . . . you give me hope!

    • ZenandChic profile image


      9 years ago

      Depends which husband we are talking about in my case...

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      Heather Burns 

      9 years ago from Wexford, Ireland

      love it! I met mine at a seminar and we too just started talking and never stopped. He called me every night since the night we went on our first date. Great story!

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      9 years ago

      Great I think everyone likes to hear how people have meet 5*

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      9 years ago

      Lovely story, I always find it interesting to hear how couples meet! Keep up the great squidoo-ing! x

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      Liz Mackay 

      9 years ago from United Kingdom

      Lovely story ,thanks for sharing 5*

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      Holley Web 

      9 years ago

      It's always wonderful when people find the one that is meant for them. Sometimes it takes years and bad relationships to make you realize how wonderful that person really is.

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      drifter0658 lm 

      9 years ago

      You know you're one of my favs.....and I love this story. No lines, just conversation. That is awesome to no end. Like a pair of old jeans, just too comfortable to walk out of.

      You rock!

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      Adrienne Jenkins 

      9 years ago

      I love hearing how people meet. Thanks for sharing your story.

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      9 years ago

      Very nice story! You know all relationships have those rough patches, but what is most important is what is in the deepest part of each of your hearts. Congrats on your almost 8 years together.

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      9 years ago

      Great story, it's nice to hear about happy couples... instead of the other statistic... here's to many more happy years!

    • Suzie-Shine profile image


      9 years ago

      I always like reading stories such as this. Makes me want to go ahhhhh, but I won't of course. Your own 'bad boy' - gosh, great.

      Be happy,


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      Kate Loving Shenk 

      9 years ago from Lancaster PA

      Stories about meeting your loved one is always an attraction, and this was no exception!!

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      Carol Goss 

      9 years ago

      Very nice story, Congrats on snagging him )

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      9 years ago

      I'm thrilled to get to read your story! I hope there are more out there like this!

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      9 years ago

      I did enjoyed reading your short story... I have funny experiences with my husband too..

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      Sherry Venegas 

      9 years ago from La Verne, CA

      This was entertaining. I read every word. You forgot "work" as a place to meet. I worked for the phone company 39 years and there are hundreds of working couples in that field of work. In the seventies there was more mixing at work than at the bar.

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      9 years ago

      My husband and I are both photographers. We met while both were photographing in a Botanical Garden. He proposed 2 weeks later, we were married 2 months later. That was 13 years ago. :)

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      MikeMoore LM 

      9 years ago

      I knew my wife for 6 years or so before we dated. We were friends for a long time, but we were both in a commited relationship. Your story is very touching and very cool. All the best to you and your hubby!

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      9 years ago

      Ah...Love is a magical thing.

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      Linda Jo Martin 

      9 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

      Very romantic... I'm glad you two are so happy together. 5* and an Angel Blessing for this.

    • Cari Kay 11 profile image


      9 years ago

      I love reading "how we met" pages. My hubby and I met while deployed overseas...might be a page in that as well :)

      Thanks for sharing your story!


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