Opposing positions can lead to a better understanding. Personal attacks say a lot about the commenters' inability to discuss a matter intelligently.
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Abby you relate my experiences also. Probably you are right ignoring and kindness are valuable and make our points better than what we my otherwise say sometimes.
Thanks for commenting, Eric. Trust me, there are times I wish to say certain things, but I refrain because I know it will only make the situation worse. I've learned to not take things as persona as I use to. Still, there are tough times.
I agree Abby. Would you believe I am a conservative Christian also? Actually I'm labeling myself "moderate" because I'm too intelligent to go wholesale with someone else's agenda. It depends on the subject and the info I have. Thanks Abby!
Diane - I guess I'm more moderate as well. I figured you were the same just from your other questions. Many think all black people are liberals, but I have a ton of black friends who are more conservative than me. So, yes, I can believe it. :-)
Crafty, I think you understand where I'm coming from. And the fact that you have an opinion different from others doesn't make you an evil or stupid person.
Welcome to HP, Crafty! I have really enjoyed my time here, and for the most part, we don't have too many issues. But, there will always be the one. Your answer is right on target. I like what you said about "perspective." Have a great weekend! :-)
Crafty, I look forward to reading more of your wisdom. You make good points.
Nice to meet you too Laurie! I thought this would be my refuge. I had participated on Huffington Post, truly the viper's pit. I participated on yahoo and a couple of other places. There is no way to tell which one is worse.
Please to meet you fpher48! Don't forget racial issues. Politics - the opponent is Satan til he's your wonderful running mate. I hate people calling me and telling me ho to vote for. We benefit by exchange of ideas - don't have to agree.
Diane...I stand duly corrected, but am happy to say, racial issues never entered my mind. My family & close circle of friends is The United Nations! LOL......True, healthy exchange IS beneficial. You are wise.
Good point. In a previous job, most communication I had with coworkers was email based and very to the point (much like responding to a comment). It's very hard to determine tone and feeling behind most comments, so it's best to not try.
I totally agree with this. Many see debate as "attack". Debate is still tactful and direct. Name calling = attack. Disagreement and stating ideas or disagreement not an attack. Written communication does have challenges.
I couldn't have said it better, Eric. :-)
Abbey let us keep speaking our mind. And looking for what we agree with. I think your haircut is perfect but you dark clothes not right.
Eric an opinion is fine. What's bad is, "You are so stupid if you believe that." There are certainly people who do that. If they don't do it to you ... great! I know you thought I was addressing you and white people - I said no such thing.
Eric, are you speaking of my avatar pic? Maybe I should have wore red instead. I will work on it. ;) LOL. Have a wonderful weekend.
Diane, I did not catch your comment yesterday. I did not think you were addressing races here. I used race as example because that is personal. White is just part of me. But it is only half of my son ;-)
Eric, I have a host of white people who are very dear to my heart. I'm in a multiethnic church, neighborhood, and school. I would never paint a whole race with a broad brush. https://hubpages.com/politics/whiteheroine I will take care of he
I am in a ethnic centric church. I am the only white person there. And I have issues with it. Language was the reason, but 2nd gen. is changing that. It fits with this topic. Because like personal attacks language can be a barrier.
Pleased to meet you Manatiti44. We grow from glory to glory. Are you new to Hubpages. I'll have to read your profile. Nice to meet you and agree with you!
Please to meet you too. I am a God-lover. No. I am not new. I write both prose and poetry of the sublime, lofty and esoteric nature. Yes. Do stop by, Diane. Cute smile.
You're handling it well. You are being more than fair postage some of the garbage and responded. Good strategy though! "Be silent and be thought a fool. Speak and remove all doubt." Someone should tell him.
lol, he never actually listens to anyone. I have read some of his hubs. He is always the only correct one. I had to keep laughing one even was the "fact" Russia was a better place to live then the U,S.A.
Go to the Religion and Philosophy Forums where one sees ACTION. All in all, hubbers love and respect one another. Disagreement is expected and many hubbers are mature enough to realize that!
gm, I was thinking, I'd love to have experiences like those who never seem to have iddues. You and I have participated on some discussion under religion. I try to stay away from philosophy because I'm, sure it gets fierce there.
Yes, it gets QUITE FIERCE there. The Religion and Philosophy Forums are my REALITY shows so to speak. This forum is like blood gladiator sport of the verbal kind. Another one are the Political Forums, they're a HOOT!
Gm I stopped participating in all of that because of the stress. "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
True Larry. Some people can't even discuss the issue because they are calling you an idiot, stupid, bound for hell, or some ridiculous stuff. You are a good guy Larry. I like you!
You are so right, Larry. I have seen this in other threads, especially when it comes to your opinions especially. Sometimes I want to say something so badly, but it's like feeding my pearls to swine unfortunately. Can't discuss with those attitudes.
Larry Wall is synonymous with "gentleman". and Dianetrotter with "lady".
If some one personally attacks you, they attack what I strive to emulate. So it would be personal to me. Yes I am synonymous with "bulldog". Thanks Diane for a great discussion.
My thanks to all of you for your kind comments. I think this is the most praised I have received for one day in my life. I should forward this to my old boss--but I will not do that.
Justsilvie, I learned a lot about myself when I went to a psychologist for my fear of being alone at night. Since then I like to think and rethink before I write. Once it's out there ... kaboom! Thank you Justsilvie for reassurance.