Whether you have this belief from religion, moral or whatever; do think it is reasonable to believe marriages should last a lifetime?
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Yes it is sad John but it is a wonderful accomplishment for the ones who possess such a dedicated will; for marriage can be a rocky road at times and for ones it is not then just a simple miracle. Thank you for contributing.
Thank you rainsanmartin.
Yes, 30 years is a big investment, I can understand that.
You could become a nun. Thats what I use to tell my mom I wanted to be if I wasn't a ballerina dancer or I could be nothing just like her! She loved to tell that one on me.
I am sure your mom raised you as mine did me. Just one.
Lol ...they would kick me out I am sure. Yes, just the one ... I did think about being a nun when I was younger but got over that real quick!
Well, I suffered emotional abuse in my first marriage and got a divorce when it became physical. My church only recognized infidelity as grounds for divorce. I told the church to go butt a stump, I wasn't going to be beaten to death.
I certainly don't blame you for that and I am sure it is not what God wanted for you either. We can be unfaithful to God turning away and from Him so if a husband beating his wife isn't the same thing then I would be very surprised, knowing God.
Jackie, I didn't turn away from God, just from the church. I love my God, but I didn't love theirs.
It's true MizJabbers & any place calling themselves of God are not if they uphold the mistreatment of anyone, much less a wife. All Christians I'm sure knows what God's word is on that; tho good churches are hard to find I love fellowship in true
No, never stay in an abusive relationship, as I stated above! I am sorry you had to suffer such MizBejabbers.
Thank you ...for such a nice answer.
Thanks so much Joelle for contributing and sharing your view and experience.
Well I would say your experience proves monogamy can and does work. An upset in the middle doesn't mean it has to end and you have proven that too.
Thank you so much for your input.
So you think marriages are meant to be for all time, generally speaking and no one is abusing anyone. lol?
Agree 100% with this. Though not sure why "Jackie" has a comment about abuse. By all means, if the marriage is abusive, it should be one to get out of. Nobody should take that abuse no matter what beliefs are.
Abuse should never be tolerated Jackie. My parents were married for 48 years and death is what parted them. I have been married to the same man for 28 years. It can be done, but it is not an easy thing to do. It is work to keep a marriage alive.
I was saying that would certainly be the exception to the rule. No one should stay in a marriage in that case.
That is certainly an achievement! Thank you.
Very glad to hear that duffsmom, he must be very special and you are very lucky, indeed.
There was really only one question and if no is your answer that is you choice. No one here is discriminating that I can see and I have blocked no answers from anyone. Just a friendly discussion among fellow hubbers.
Jackie - sorry I misread the question. I do believe a marriage should be monogamous, between two people that love each other. A marriage to me means a commitment between two people to each other.
No problem, Donna, thanks.