How do I respond when another Hubber tries to make me look stupid when I ask a q

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   mgeorge1050posted 10 years ago

   How do I respond when another Hubber tries to make me look stupid when I ask a question?
   
   I have recently had another user attacking my questions and answers in this forum.  How should I respond to these actions?  It kind of makes me mad, but at the same time, I am sad that he thinks so poorly of the other Hubbers here in the community.  I disagree with certain things people write, but I don't feel the need to make them feel stupid.  So how should I respond to this Hubber?

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   Dont Taze Me Broposted 10 years ago

   
   
   Try not acting stupid by calling an answerer of your question names, ridiculing them for their answer and then deleting your whole question so no one can see he and others have pointed out how your own comments to his answer are insincere, duplicitous and just wrong.
   It seems you want to ask a question and then control the answers you get and if you can't you censor them - if you look stupid it's not likely because someone else makes you look stupid. Stupid is as stupid does.

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      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      aha....DTMB...It looks to me like you have the inside scoop that I do not have.  Well then, it's good that Forrest laid out the facts!!  Kids!!  what are ya gonna do?...

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      Dont Taze Me Broposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You don't have the scoop because mgeorge doesn't want you to know the facts & deleted them so she can make some mythical case that someone is trying to make her look stupid when it was originally mgeorge who was attempting that.

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   I'm not familiar with the exact attack nor hubber you refer to, but regardless, I can suggest you simply NOT respond.  Since you truly believe the attack was intended to make you seem stupid, you can just ignore it.  You know you are not stupid, don't you?
   I'd like to add mgeorge, you can rest assured that our fellow hubbers do not find attacks acceptable and most pay no attention to this sort of thing. 
   The vast majority of Hubbers see this for what it is and are certainly not influenced negatively.
   Don't give him/her your time or attention.  Hang in there.  Peace.

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   junksellerposted 10 years ago

   Only you can make yourself look stupid. When someone like DTMB comes around with their "stupid is as stupid does" pictures (which is pretty ironic by the way), they are only making themselves look stupid. Just don't pay it any heed. Intellectual content always rises to the top and anyone interested in such will have no problem discerning one from the other. Why people are so willing to swim around in cesspools is beyond me. Let them if they so choose and keep your feet on dry land.
   
   There are a handful of people around here who seriously are incapable of opening their mouths without an insult coming out. I am not entirely sure they have the mental capacity to even understand the difference between a personal attack and a valid argument (maybe they just don't care). Either way, it's well beneath my time. I suggest you treat it the same.

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      mgeorge1050posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      This is a great answer, I just find it difficult to ignore.  You are correct on all points, and I now plan to avoid religion based topics in hopes of avoiding this guy.

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      Dont Taze Me Broposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      If you find it difficult to ignore why don't you republish the question you deleted which is the source of your make believe victimhood and show exactly how it was you who was trying to make me look stupid.

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      mgeorge1050posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I have un deleted the question so everyone can see that you started out as usual trying to not answer, but attack my question.  I do reply with a poke at you merely in response to your attack, and I even apologize in a second post.

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      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      aw...c'mon, junkseller....be nice. We all know there's a fine line between a rebuttal & an insult. It's one's reaction that is most crucial....right?  The chipmunks must have taught you that!!  LOL....Smile

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   sheilamyersposted 10 years ago

   It's very interesting to read your explanation for the question and the responses people leave behind.
   
   As some of the others have already said, the best thing to do is ignore the negative comments. You're not stupid and as the saying goes "There are no stupid questions". Ask whatever you want, whenever you want. The only people who can stop you from doing that are the monitors here at HP.
   
   As for the accusation that was tossed out by DontTaze, I know it's false. I saw at least one post in which the person did insult you. DontTaze's response is no different from the one I saw to your previous question. Ignore him and the others and enjoy spending your time with the rest of us.

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      mgeorge1050posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your wise comments.  I see you all over the place here at Hubpages, and I know I can trust your response.  DTMB have called a mutual truce over the matter.

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   TJSMITHposted 10 years ago

   The best way to handle an hostile comment is to ignore it.  I was tempted to delete some  comments but I feel, the person took the time to read my post and answer it,  let it stay.  Some of the comments received, I want to shoot back an rebuttal but I am not trying to change people's minds but want to express an thought or idea or seek an answer.  I went to a Chinese restaurant the other night and the fortune cookie  received was an eye opener for me.  I am a very sensitive person and my mom told me I "wear my emotions on my shoulders" so I get defensive or hurt very easy, something I am working on.
   Back to the fortune cookie... It stated.  "no one is important enough to make you angry".    Who knew the solution to life's problems would come with Sweet N Sour Pork.   Keep on writing and ignore the rude comments. 

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   Dave36posted 10 years ago

   It's really pretty simple buddy, & it's down to you to not respond negatively back....Iv'e been thanked, & iv'e been laughed at since iv'e been on here....Just be true to yourself, & always write what you think honestly otherwise how will you learn anything yourself....The old sayings are the best, & words don't really hurt not if you don't let them.....Just the same as when someone wants to upset you in a real life situation, you breathe relax smile, & see where your feelings come from to get better at controlling them....So what if someone laughs at what i say, i can't get annoyed/angry etc as only a person led by their ego mind would reply with negativity....So not everything i say will be accepted by everyone, AND i will be wrong with what i say sometimes, (but not this time!lol)....The test is not to let it bother you, because if it does your not in control of your feelings/emotions....So what i'm saying is it is "great" practice when someone is abusive to us, & if you still get feelings of sadness/madness from someone's comments, well you need more practice that's all....When your wrong with a comment a "real" person will inform you of that, & why constructively....If someone says your an idiot, then that's someone's ego replying for them.

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   M. T. Dremerposted 10 years ago

   Volatile hubbers come and go. I can think of several over the past few years who swooped in riding a whirlwind of insults and left a path of rage behind them. But these people tend to get lifetime bans from HubPages and/or they leave because too many people here don't see the 'truth' that they have created for themselves. I wrote a hub once (How to deal with crazy people on the internet) that might be helpful, but it really just boils down to the quote "hatred is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." There is another quote that says "Forgive, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." Internet trolls feed on conflict, sensible people don't. So it's best to ignore them, not because it is easy, but because it's the only way to save yourself.

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   MarieLBposted 9 years ago

   Hi #mgeorge 1050, I know this was a way back, and no doubt you are over it, but it is good to bring up the subject from time to time, to remind us and others how to handle this glitch in our forum.
   
   I am new here, and new to writing.  I am not young and not so au fait with today's technologies, so I get excited when I see some progress, and deflated when I see none. 
   
   I have found that this forum is fantastic, friendly, ready to help and to empathise.  But of course, there are always a few who are impatient with the new, the not-so-successful. 
   
   I got a dose of that recently, and at first I thought I will say something to make the other person feel guilty.  Then I thought I will simply ignore that post.
   
   In the end I replied in an honest and genuine way without attaching any blame tactics. 
   
   It is, I believe, the only way to teach.  One can only teach by what one does.

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