I have been asked that the last two visits and I have just decided if they can't remember what I said the first time then it is just too bad! I find that a very personal question and really none of anyone's business but mine. It is beyond embarrassing I think? What do you think?
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I never had body shaming so sorry for you my sister is nurse; whatever that has to do with anything, I do not discuss sex with her either. Of course if I were having a sexual prob I'd have no prob discussing it I am not an idiot & no childhood ha
no one called you an idiot I was merely stating my opinion and experience on a question you asked publicly. Just because I disagree doesn't mean I have a negative opinion about you.
Well if they have a reason they should state it not just probing into personal things for no sound reason. I think we have enough of our privacy taken personally.
Oops; guess you aren't shy then! lol
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Thanks Kiss andTales; it is the cutest I found.
Yes, my doctor does ask, despite the fact that I am in my 60's and my husband in his 70's. She asks that question because sexually active women may want to continue hormone therapy a little longer than those who are not, if no breast cancer issue.
Guess I just need the reason Dora! lol
Well they very well could lie about it so what's the point. It shocked me at first because I found it embarrassing (guess I am from the old school that does not discuss sex!) but at this 3rd time being questioned it just sort of made me mad. lol
For some, the point of lying may be to...in their mind, anyway...color the doctor's perception of them or to support their image of themselves. I was taken aback by the question, but at the time Viagra was new and the doctor had samples available.
lol I guess that would be a reason to ask and we know they must get a kick back on things like that!
Yes; I could surely understand it in those circumstances! lol
Hm well I can understand in that case.
I agree. Never understood the tendency to feel humiliation over such a natural human function.
You do not because you were not brought up in a modest generation. Many older people do and especially women. Women that were raised in a modest home 30 plus years ago feel embarrassed because they were taught to feel embarrassed to speak about it.
Well they got their answer twice is my point; why do we have to talk about it every time?
I can't even imagine humiliation; whats that about? I can embarrassment because I was not brought up talking about personal things with other than the one I am being personal with. I call it dignity; if you don't have it C it is your right.
I don't think it is emarrasing either. Lots of things can and go wrong when couples have sex. It aint only down south. Mammograms anyone!
I have dignity. As an adult, I can discuss my body and my health with healthcare professionals without being ashamed. it's your body - everyone has one. My late grandmother was a former nun, I know all about body shaming - doesn't make it right.
My mother wasn't a nun she was a southern Christian mother and like all of them they taught us to keep our skirts down & our mouth shut about personal matters. We could do what we wanted to in the marriage bed but why would we brag about it to an
Answering a question that your doctor asks for medical purposes is in no way the same as bragging or being immodest.
answering a medical question without shame apparently makes me immodest and bragging? OK then - better that and healthy than ashamed by my own body. good grief.
I guess...but they have handled all those issues up til now without knowing what goes on in my bedroom. lol
Hm, they may want you to tell them come to think of it! lol
Yes I have been asked that too and told when not to have sex as in pregnancies and I have no problem with that.
Oh yeah my OBGYN advised not having sex for a while after having a baby. And maybe it would be fine to ask if you poss have a yeast infect or STD but they can advise and not have to ask
Exactly; health reasons are OK, I am no prude. I have never had a problem with that.
I myself am bit of a prude-don't like wearing shirts that show any cleavage or wearing pants that show off butt cracks.
Well I agree with that myself! I don't call that prudish though; more like modesty which I think is a very good thing. More people should know what that is!
I agree modest is a better word
I had nothing to cause this question either or I would understand getting it. In fact I ask why they wanted to know and the nurse said she didn't know; which seems pretty evasive to me.
What do you think they're evading? Why else would a doctor want to know if you're sexually active if not for medical reasons?
Why didn't my doctor bring it up and actually we had more important things to discuss & I never even thought to ask her about it but surely if it were important she would have. I think it is just more of knowing every little thing about us.
Certainly I can see that and after childbirth and all those reasons are sound reasons.
I did ask and got a non-committal answer, such as "I don't know."
If you feel he is violating you ,and you do not feel comfortable with him with your body,
Then change physicians , I did for something similar and I would consider worse then then your question.
Your womanly notions are telling you something !
I have been happily married to one man many years and have no sexual problems or diseases so I have decided my life is open enough that my gov't can follow me anywhere. I think I will keep the one thing no one can know to myself.
That is your private matter, but when some one ask you a question of the subject ,it is for a reason, if he is bold enough to ask you ! Be bold enough to ask why, and that is your right. I am old school too! Just believe in telling the truth.
I did ask and the nurse said she had no idea why they wanted to know. That is when I decided it was my business to share with only who I wanted to. I like the doctor and it is a she, lol, who I am very comfortable with.
I always believe ask the source of the problem. If she is a woman as you ,she may have a greater reason of concern, maybe she does nit want to alarm you .but there is a reason she is asking ,just ask her not the nurse ,she ask you as your doctor.
My doctor and I discuss everything and she knows I have no sexual problems this is just coming from somewhere else and as someone has mention ObamaCare I bet that is it! That is sort of what I was looking for, I knew it was about something!!
Of course! Could be dangerous for them too if they thought about it. That is really what is so silly about it all; there seems to be no rhyme or reason for much of their nosiness & when they could maybe help as you say they certainly are not disc
Lady G, I don't think I'd feel embarrassed at all to tell that doctor to mind his own business! Dealing with your physical health needs is one thing but probing into your relationship is another.
now that is odd, I can see asking about sexual activity for health purposes, but the other stuff you mentioned? Yeah, I'd tell him I'm hear for a health screening not an interrogation.
I dunno. Maybe it is some kind of new rule that they have to ask these kinds of ?'s in WV and for the new Obamacare. Asking that in the company of one who may or may not be abusing you is not kosher.Who is going to say that in front of the abuser?
I bet that is where it is coming from; ObamaCare; just never thought of that. For sure I will think twice about answering questions form now on. What rights or freedom or privacy will we have left?
I agree. I mean if it does relate to why you went then I can see it but just out of the blue is puzzling to me and I don't discuss sex with my friends or just anyone as many do and that is my right. My mother raised me to be modest and Christian.
Thank you; I think that is a great idea. I would have been mortified as a teen if asked about sex. Little did I know at the time it was a common thing for teens. Then when my 2 were teens doctors offered them birth control and I do not know what all!