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Ever had a friend die & had a hard time helping them & now feel so bad you couldn't have done more?


This happened to me with my sister-in-law & we had been so close. When she first found out she had cancer I was caring for my mom & could not see her but a time or two but we sent letters (she had no computer knowledge) & at first we both felt very positive that she could beat it. After about a year though things got bad & we knew she would lose the battle & though she & I never talked about it I knew through family all the horrible things she was going through. Right before she died she called me to say she did not want to die. I only said I did not want her to. What more could I have said?

 

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    Thanks Traveller; I wish I could start feeling it was.

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    I know that feeling; I had a best friend that was looking for me just before she died and I keep wishing I could have been in the right place at the right time.

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    Thank you Eric; I agree with you on the grieving, a good cry refreshes us all an makes us feel we have given something to those who have passed on. I would appreciate someone gave a good cry for me...and then they can get on with their life.

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    I hope so too and I believe in life after death for us all too; whether we want it or not.

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    I guess we share the same regrets here Rachel and we can't go back so we have to go on.

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    I hope I can comfort you Virginia in saying I kept my Mom her last years until she had to go in a nursing home & did all I could & I have that feeling too. I think it is just being a daughter who really loved their mother never feeling we di

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    Thanks D; probably so...still it was such a helpless feeling of wanting to comfort her knowing how terrified she was.

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    Jackie Lynnley 20 months ago

    I guess Michael I feel guilty I wasn't in spiritually better shape to have the only words she needed...nut I do know it is no use now to beat myself up. I guess it is just a normal thing we all feel maybe for all the ones we lose. Thank you.....