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Birth Order - How Did It Affect Me?
I Am Third In Birth Order
Yes, I think that my place in the Birth Order did affect me. I am the third child in a family of four children. I am the youngest of three girls so I was the "baby girl" of the family with a younger brother. My sibilings and I are all so different and are 3 1/2 years apart. It doesn't seem that the age difference would be great enough to make a difference but it was. Our parents were in such a different place in their lives as each of us were born so it did make a difference in how we were raised.I often wonder what our birth order has to do with the way we turned out. I am so thankful for my family and dedicate this page to my wonderful sisters.
Our Dad called us "verses"and I was the "Third Verse"
I have read a lot over the years about birth order and agree with some of the things I read. I would like to share with you what I think and please keep in mind that this is just my personal opinion. I am not a trained psychologist and don't claim to have the answers. These are merely my observations of how I think my place in the birth order helped to make me who I am. What do you think? Where are you in birth order?
Photo Credit: Tate Family Photo 1958 from my personal photo collection and not to be copied
Want to read a little on the subject of Birth Order? - This is supposed to be a very interesting book about Birth Order
Very interesting reading no matter where you fall in the order of births in your family. We can always learn something new about why we are the way we are.
Learn what it means to be in your spot in the family. Do you think it makes a difference if you are the oldest, middle or third child?
We Are Family by Sister Sledge
Are you the oldest, youngest, middle or what?
Where Are You In Birth Order?
Birth Order And Clothes
Third Place in Birth Order Wears Lots of Hand-Me-Downs and Pass Arounds
Being the third girl meant that I wore a lot of hand-me-downs but I really never minded it. I always admired my older sisters so much that I was thrilled to be able to wear something that belonged to them.
We always wore starched Crinolines with our dresses. There were always plenty of them but they may have been too big and too long so we had our own elastic band that we tied to adjust it to the right size.I remember that we had a coat closet in the hall that was always full of coats all sizes and styles. I never wanted a new coat but just couldn't wait until I was big enough to wear the red one. I thought it was the prettiest coat in the closet and I loved the way it looked on my sisters. It was a big day for me when I could call that coat mine. Betty, my oldest sister, also made many of our clothes from fabric our dad would get at the mill that was used for table cloths and bed linens. Betty would make the cutest outfits from that fabric using the borders on the cuffs of our Bermuda Shorts that would match the border on our top. I always loved those short sets until I went to a friend's house for dinner and matched their tablecloth.
We had an aunt that made us dresses alike every year. I wore the same purple plaid dress in my school pictures for the 1st through the 6th grades. When I outgrew my purple plaid, I wore Joan's and when I outgrew hers, I wore Betty's. I have not ever and will never own another purple plaid anything.
Hierarchy of Birth Order
Who is the Boss in Birth Order or is it Who is the Bossiest?
This is the way I remember the hierarchy among my siblings and me.
Betty, the first born, told Joan what to doJoan, the second born, told me what to doMel, the only boy, told me what to doNow, that just didn't seem quite fair.This, my friends, is why I don't like for anyone to tell me what to do.This is the one reason why I am stubborn and bossy now.
I have a friend who calls me "Sarge" among other things. Do you think this is the reason?
ABC News 20/20 Siblings:Relationships and Rivalries
Birth Order And School
The books say the oldest is the smartest. Is that true?
This is the way I remember us going through school:Betty, the first born, was always very smart, made excellent grades, and was a leader in school. She was always dependable and hard working. I don't think she had to study a lot but just paid close attention in class and always went above and beyond the call of duty on any assignments.Joan, the second born, always made excellent grades but it never seemed to matter much to her. She had a bit of a rebel streak and I have read that is common with second born. I think her mind was like a sponge and she just soaked up anything and everything she heard, saw and read.Now I was a bit of a different story. I did have to study but enjoyed learning and aimed to please my teachers. We went through the same school with the same teachers and I think they just assumed I was smart because Joan and Betty were. Mother had to go to the school one time and tell the teacher that she had three daughters and they were all different and she expected them to treat us as individuals. I was really surprised to see the good grades I made on this report card because that was not the way I remembered it.
Photo: A couple of years ago the secretary at Pendleton Elementary called to tell me there was something for me to pick up in the office. I thought it probably had something to do with my volunteer work or with my grandson. When I got there, she handed me my permanent record from Pendleton Elementary. Seems they had been cleaning out old boxes that had been in storage for years. Now, all this time I had heard how important my permanent record was and there it had been stuffed in some old box for years. Go Figure!Mel was just cute and smart and always an over achiever. He made great grades and was a leader and involved in everything from scouting to sports.
I Like My Place In Birth Order
The third place in birth order is fine with me!
Being the third in Birth Order has a lot of advantages and the main one being that I had two older sisters to learn from. They both taught me so much over the years and I am very proud of both of them. I love my sisters very much!
I didn't get into trouble much because I watched and learned what my sisters did that made my parents unhappy and I would do just the opposite. It worked for me.Our parents and our brother have passed away so we are all that is left of this little family. We stay in close touch and are very close. We enjoy sharing our thoughts, laughing together and crying together. We support each other and are always there for each other.Yep, I loved being the 3rd Verse!
A Journal For Sisters - A record memory book just for sisters
Sisters share just about everything and now you can have your own Sister Journal to document all those tales.
This would be a special Sister Surcey, wouldn't it?
Sisters, Sisters - The 3 of us are a HOOT doing our rendition of this song and dance
My sisters and I start out arm in arm like we are going to do some fancy "can can" dance but every time we forget the words to the song and can only go a couple of stanzas and a couple of kicks!I found this video of the Moss Sisters singing this song and have no idea who they are but I think they enjoy each other as much as we do!
This Page Is Dedicated To My Wonderful Sisters - Here we are #1, #2 and #3 in Birth Order (actually here we are 2,1, and 3)
Thank you Joan and Betty for helping to make me who I am today!
Wouldn't it be sweet of me to give each of my sisters one of these? - Click the sister bracelet to purchase
A Sister Bracelet for your special sister
Great gift for your sister