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Birth Order - How Did It Affect Me?

Updated on April 27, 2015

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I Am Third In Birth Order

Yes, I think that my place in the Birth Order did affect me. I am the third child in a family of four children. I am the youngest of three girls so I was the "baby girl" of the family with a younger brother. My sibilings and I are all so different and are 3 1/2 years apart. It doesn't seem that the age difference would be great enough to make a difference but it was. Our parents were in such a different place in their lives as each of us were born so it did make a difference in how we were raised.I often wonder what our birth order has to do with the way we turned out. I am so thankful for my family and dedicate this page to my wonderful sisters.

Our Dad called us "verses"and I was the "Third Verse"

I have read a lot over the years about birth order and agree with some of the things I read. I would like to share with you what I think and please keep in mind that this is just my personal opinion. I am not a trained psychologist and don't claim to have the answers. These are merely my observations of how I think my place in the birth order helped to make me who I am. What do you think? Where are you in birth order?

Photo Credit: Tate Family Photo 1958 from my personal photo collection and not to be copied

Want to read a little on the subject of Birth Order? - This is supposed to be a very interesting book about Birth Order

Very interesting reading no matter where you fall in the order of births in your family. We can always learn something new about why we are the way we are.

Birth Order Book, The: Why You Are the Way You Are
Birth Order Book, The: Why You Are the Way You Are

Learn what it means to be in your spot in the family. Do you think it makes a difference if you are the oldest, middle or third child?


We Are Family by Sister Sledge

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Birth Order And Clothes

Third Place in Birth Order Wears Lots of Hand-Me-Downs and Pass Arounds

Being the third girl meant that I wore a lot of hand-me-downs but I really never minded it. I always admired my older sisters so much that I was thrilled to be able to wear something that belonged to them.

We always wore starched Crinolines with our dresses. There were always plenty of them but they may have been too big and too long so we had our own elastic band that we tied to adjust it to the right size.

I remember that we had a coat closet in the hall that was always full of coats all sizes and styles. I never wanted a new coat but just couldn't wait until I was big enough to wear the red one. I thought it was the prettiest coat in the closet and I loved the way it looked on my sisters. It was a big day for me when I could call that coat mine. Betty, my oldest sister, also made many of our clothes from fabric our dad would get at the mill that was used for table cloths and bed linens. Betty would make the cutest outfits from that fabric using the borders on the cuffs of our Bermuda Shorts that would match the border on our top. I always loved those short sets until I went to a friend's house for dinner and matched their tablecloth.

We had an aunt that made us dresses alike every year. I wore the same purple plaid dress in my school pictures for the 1st through the 6th grades. When I outgrew my purple plaid, I wore Joan's and when I outgrew hers, I wore Betty's. I have not ever and will never own another purple plaid anything.

Hierarchy of Birth Order

Who is the Boss in Birth Order or is it Who is the Bossiest?

This is the way I remember the hierarchy among my siblings and me.

Betty, the first born, told Joan what to doJoan, the second born, told me what to doMel, the only boy, told me what to do

Now, that just didn't seem quite fair.This, my friends, is why I don't like for anyone to tell me what to do.This is the one reason why I am stubborn and bossy now.

I have a friend who calls me "Sarge" among other things. Do you think this is the reason?

ABC News 20/20 Siblings:Relationships and Rivalries

Birth Order And School

The books say the oldest is the smartest. Is that true?

This is the way I remember us going through school:Betty, the first born, was always very smart, made excellent grades, and was a leader in school. She was always dependable and hard working. I don't think she had to study a lot but just paid close attention in class and always went above and beyond the call of duty on any assignments.Joan, the second born, always made excellent grades but it never seemed to matter much to her. She had a bit of a rebel streak and I have read that is common with second born. I think her mind was like a sponge and she just soaked up anything and everything she heard, saw and read.Now I was a bit of a different story. I did have to study but enjoyed learning and aimed to please my teachers. We went through the same school with the same teachers and I think they just assumed I was smart because Joan and Betty were. Mother had to go to the school one time and tell the teacher that she had three daughters and they were all different and she expected them to treat us as individuals. I was really surprised to see the good grades I made on this report card because that was not the way I remembered it.

Photo: A couple of years ago the secretary at Pendleton Elementary called to tell me there was something for me to pick up in the office. I thought it probably had something to do with my volunteer work or with my grandson. When I got there, she handed me my permanent record from Pendleton Elementary. Seems they had been cleaning out old boxes that had been in storage for years. Now, all this time I had heard how important my permanent record was and there it had been stuffed in some old box for years. Go Figure!

Mel was just cute and smart and always an over achiever. He made great grades and was a leader and involved in everything from scouting to sports.

I Like My Place In Birth Order

The third place in birth order is fine with me!

Being the third in Birth Order has a lot of advantages and the main one being that I had two older sisters to learn from. They both taught me so much over the years and I am very proud of both of them. I love my sisters very much!

I didn't get into trouble much because I watched and learned what my sisters did that made my parents unhappy and I would do just the opposite. It worked for me.

Our parents and our brother have passed away so we are all that is left of this little family. We stay in close touch and are very close. We enjoy sharing our thoughts, laughing together and crying together. We support each other and are always there for each other.Yep, I loved being the 3rd Verse!

A Journal For Sisters - A record memory book just for sisters

Sisters share just about everything and now you can have your own Sister Journal to document all those tales.

Sisters Record Memory Book; A Gift Of Memories
Sisters Record Memory Book; A Gift Of Memories

This would be a special Sister Surcey, wouldn't it?


Sisters, Sisters - The 3 of us are a HOOT doing our rendition of this song and dance

My sisters and I start out arm in arm like we are going to do some fancy "can can" dance but every time we forget the words to the song and can only go a couple of stanzas and a couple of kicks!I found this video of the Moss Sisters singing this song and have no idea who they are but I think they enjoy each other as much as we do!

This Page Is Dedicated To My Wonderful Sisters - Here we are #1, #2 and #3 in Birth Order (actually here we are 2,1, and 3)

Thank you Joan and Betty for helping to make me who I am today!

Wouldn't it be sweet of me to give each of my sisters one of these? - Click the sister bracelet to purchase

A Sister Bracelet for your special sister

Thank you for visiting this "About Me" page. Now tell me "About You" - I would love to hear from you here

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      Melody Lassalle 3 years ago from California

      This was an interesting article. I am the youngest of 5. What I found was being last meant it was a little more difficult to find my place in the world and to figure out my uniqueness. It seemed my siblings had everything cornered already.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 3 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      Yes Diane. I am the peacemaker too. Not a bad place to be.

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      Diane Cass 3 years ago from New York

      I'm a middle. Birth order really applies to my family. My sister (1) is the driven on, I'm the peacemaker in the middle, my brother is the doted on baby.

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      asereht1970 3 years ago

      Loved this lens. I'm the oldest and I must admit that I'm the most lazy. Maybe because I have 4 younger siblings who do what I asked them to do. What you wrote about the 2nd one being a bit of a rebel must be true. Saw that with my younger sister who's born next to me,

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      Anja Toetenel 4 years ago from The Hague, the Netherlands

      I loved this Lens, thanks for sharing so much sister love and nice stuff about birth order. I was the oldest and loved it too. I wish you and your sister many more happy years together!

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      Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 4 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      I'm the youngest of seven children, and the last one still alive. I think that's probably because of my stubbornness. I never liked being told what to do either!

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      LisaDH 4 years ago

      I'm a middle child and everyone always says that's why I'm always the mediator in conflicts. I had to keep peace between my brother and sister!

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      Jogalog 4 years ago

      I'm a middle child and find birth order fascinating, especially the way it affects relationships in later life too.

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      writerkath 4 years ago

      I'm a middle child - I guess I'd have to say that I felt a little left out growing up. But I've gotten over it. :)

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      Michey LM 5 years ago

      I am the single child, but I love to have siblings... my parents told me that after war in Europe were hard to decide to have many kids... Great funny lens,

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      inkserotica 5 years ago

      I'm the youngest of three and I hate it, lol! I got blamed for everything :(

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      Lorelei Cohen 5 years ago from Canada

      I am also the 3rd child out of 6 though.

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      WhiteOak50 5 years ago

      The bracelet listed right above- "A sister is a forever friend", I am wearing that right now. I was blessed with this gift from my sister just last month. I am the oldest of the three of us girls and we have a brother that is second youngest. Fantastic page, I enjoyed it.

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      poutine 5 years ago

      I am the baby in the family and enjoyed my rank.

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      ohcaroline 5 years ago

      I'm the youngest of 6...3 girls and 3 boys. !8 years between my oldest sister and 16 years with my other sister. They always seemed to be of a different generation to me. They weren't around when I was growing up. We've had times of being close...but it comes and goes. You are blessed to be close to your sisters.

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      Kate Loving Shenk 5 years ago from Lancaster PA

      It is wonderful to read this one again! You Tate Sisters ROCK!!

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      JJNW 5 years ago from USA

      *** Blessed by a SquidAngel ***

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      OMENA777 5 years ago

      I enjoyed this lens. I'm the 3rd oldest of 9 and known at the peacemaker

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      Gr8fulGirl 5 years ago

      Enjoyed reading your lens......linked it to mine :o) Thanks for sharing! Blessings from Maui, Wendy

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      Lori Green 5 years ago from Las Vegas

      I am an oldest biological and smack in the middle of 7 with step siblings.

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      Lori Green 5 years ago from Las Vegas

      My daughters are SO spot on their birth order personality. My middle child is responsible for all my grey hair trying to be the center of attention.

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      Lorelei Cohen 5 years ago from Canada

      There are also 3 sisters in my family. I am the middle sister (and I must add the only one who still has her natural hair color ha!)

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      ccsonian 5 years ago

      I am oldest of two. I am married to the youngest of 4.

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      Frischy 5 years ago from Kentucky, USA

      I am also from a family of 3 girls followed by a boy. I am the oldest.

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      mizrae 5 years ago

      I am the oldest of seven, three sisters and three brothers. Was I considered bossy? I think my siblings would say yes.

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      Chazz 5 years ago from New York

      Very interesting -- especially living my adult life in a household of 2 first-borns and our only child...My wife is definitely the smartest person I know but she is also the smallest among her siblings (there are 5 of them, 3 girls and twin boys) and complained as a child because she had to wear hand-me-ups from her younger but taller sister.

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      candidaabrahamson 5 years ago

      This is an excellent lens, teaching me more about a topic I really like, birth order. I'm glad you like your spot in the lineup! Well-deserved purple star.

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      Christine Larsen 5 years ago from South Australia

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      sousababy 5 years ago

      Really interesting stuff . . thank you for sharing (from the youngest of 5). Take good care, Rose

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Made for a wonderful read! Definitely there are influences to the birth order. Like you, I am the third child and the only son! Thanks for sharing your story! Best wishes. :)

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      Mona 6 years ago from Iowa

      Really interesting and sweet. I'm one of two. Happy Valentine's Day! *blessed*

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      sheilamarie78 7 years ago

      What a wonderful lens! I am blessed with five sisters and a brother. We used to sing the sisters song, too, but we're not yet as cute as the Moss sisters. They're great!

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      chrissuard lm 7 years ago

      Very nice lens, blessed!

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 7 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      @kateloving: I don't know how you missed it, Kate, because you sure have been making the rounds visiting my lenses and it is greatly appreciated.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 7 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      @Nancy S Oram: What a fun surprise to see you here Nancy. I sure miss seeing you around and do think of you often.

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      Kate Loving Shenk 7 years ago from Lancaster PA

      Why have I not seen this before? Well, lots to look forward to, as far as all your lenses go!!

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      Nancy Oram 7 years ago

      Nancy, more we have in common. Our names, plus I am the third girl with a younger brother! I really enjoyed this lens.

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      Indigo Janson 7 years ago from UK

      Such a lovely tribute to your siblings and a most enjoyable read.

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      Kiwisoutback 7 years ago from Massachusetts

      Great subject to write about. The birth order in my family definitely had an effect on me. I'm the youngest, so there's definitely a different (more seasoned?) parenting approach, and a different way of growing up because parents know you're the "last one." In some ways, it seems similar to the "first one."

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      tssfacts 7 years ago

      I am the oldest in my family of three kids. My first brother died at a young age and my other brother arrived when I was seven. Never had a sister although I wanted one "really bad".

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      Sue Dixon 7 years ago from Grasmere, Cumbria, UK

      I'm the oldest of just 2- always wished I had sisters, even if it meant being #3. A lovely lens!

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      Susan Deppner 7 years ago from Arkansas USA

      I'm glad you're happy being third in line. I'm oldest - and bossy. Wouldn't have it any other way! (Congrats on the purple star!)

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      WindyWintersHubs 7 years ago from Vancouver Island, BC

      Congratulations on your Purple Star! I agree that birth order does affect you. I am the oldest of five too many diapers for me, lol. :)

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      Laurel Johnson 7 years ago from Washington KS

      I've visited this fine lens before, but just had to come back and congratulate you on the purple star. Congrats!!

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      AuthorNormaBudden 7 years ago

      Congrats again, Purple Squid. I'll add this to your feature later but, for now, I think you'll want to visit:

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      Robin S 7 years ago from USA

      Your Purple Star has been awarded by our Purple Star Queen of the week, luvmyludwig.

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      KarenTBTEN 7 years ago

      I'm the younger of just two: one boy, one girl. We didn't fit the traditions or stereotypes very well, at least when we were small. Since there weren't other children living near us, we mostly had each other for company.

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      Virginia Allain 7 years ago from Central Florida

      I'm a 3rd child also, so I can relate to all you talked about on birth order. We got our hand-me-downs from our cousins.This was fun to read.

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      norma-holt 8 years ago

      This is a lovely lens. Great family pics and nice story. Top marksNorma

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      Andy 8 years ago from London, England

      Great lens. Very interesting. I'm the middle one of three. I'm not sure how that had affected me though.

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      debraanne 8 years ago

      I am the oldest of 6 and we all pretty much fall into the standard birth order categories!

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      grannysage 8 years ago

      My half-sister and I are ten years apart. We had different dads. We always say we both felt like only children because our lives were so different. We are completely different in personality too, but are very close. She's always been my big sister that I could run to when I needed help. I love the story of your family and the pictures are wonderful.

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      The Childrens and Parenting Group that this lens belonged to has survived all the recent changes on Squidoo and is now a Lensography. This lens is now featured at Children and Parenting HQ.And of course this visit gives me the chance to Bless this excellent lens.

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      I was the oldest and I thought it was not the best position to be. My sister got more than me and my baby brother got it all!!! But I am thankful to be the oldest now that I look back and see that I actually had the first position in everything except financial means which shows my proprities now. My grandparents seemed to love me the best because they had me longer. My Mother now respects my opinion more than my sister and even my brother because I am the oldest. And by the way, my brother calls me his little sister because I double dog dare him to tell my age which is 39 to all concerned!! j Loved your lens. Brenda

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      jgelien 8 years ago

      I am number four of five kids and the only girl. I don't know what affected me more, birth order or not being a boy. All I know is, I always wished I had a sister.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 8 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      [in reply to puzzlemaker] Yes we are 4 yrs apart with Betty the oldest and then Joan and then me. The older we get, the closer we get!

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      puzzlerpaige 8 years ago

      Well, I've always wondered about the third sister. I know you Ohme and Joan, but who was the other? Now I see it is Betty. Y'all are quite a group!I have one older brother. We fought like cats and dogs when young, now I love him to pieces.

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      Debi Jones 8 years ago from Coeur d'Alene, Idaho

      What a fun lens! I have an older brother by almost 6 years. When we were kids I tried to keep up with him and do everything he did, which proved to be quite an impossible task! He looked out for me and kept me out of trouble...which was quite a task for him!!

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Good idea for a lens! Made me think for the 1,000,000th time in my life: "I wish I had a sister." I was the oldest and had two younger brothers and nobody in the family ever shared my enthusiasms! I was very bossy and don't like to be told what to do - don't you think, actually, that's a pretty common human trait? Thanks for visiting my puppet lens of the day!

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      Anahid LM 8 years ago

      Hi : I am also the third in birth order,I am the third girl then 2 boys and a girl we are 6 siblings.I am stubborn and I have a mind of my own. I see you have visited my lens and Edition H. all about Hydrengia. I like your lens good job. I give you five stars. All the best. Anahid

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      sirkeystone lm 8 years ago

      Loved this lens! As an only child for the first six years of my life, I think I experienced a lot of several different views. My parents were very young (well I was younger but we won't get into that!) so they felt more like older siblings than parents most of the time. I had a cousin who was nearly my age who usually got her way over mine, but I still think of her like a sister. Then my little brother came along and changed everything again.Now my brother has played with me in three different bands and we are considering yet another musical venture. We are closer now than we have ever been, and my parents still don't feel that much older than me.My two kids were two years apart. If I had it to do again, I'd do it the same way. Even if my my daughter is getting married in a month!!(I think I misplaced my mid twenties around here somewhere...)

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      ParthenaB 8 years ago

      Love this lens! Thank you for visiting my lens on Adult Attachment Disorder, I'm so flattered that MomtotheZoo recommended it. If you have time to stop by, you might enjoy my newest lens - it mentions birth order theory! so I'll be lensrolling you there as well.Is Marriage Outdated? stars & favorited, too.Be blessed!

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      CCGAL 8 years ago

      I've wondered about birth order ... I'm the oldest of three ... one brother and one sister. Enjoyed the lens!

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      dc64 lm 8 years ago

      Very interesting, and I can see how birth order does effect a person's personality somewhat. Of course, there are so many other factors, but it's kind of fun to consider birth order.

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      laurenruiz05 8 years ago

      Nice lens. I love the photos and your tone :)

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      mrvardeman 8 years ago

      Cool lens. I was the first born! 5*s!!

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      Tiddledeewinks LM 8 years ago

      I was # 8 of 12 children, I have 8 brothers and 3 sisters ( one is 13 years older the other 2 younger than me).

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      julcal 8 years ago

      Delightful lens! i was the oldest daughter of 11 and I am like a carbon copy of your oldest sister! It's so classic. What a great idea for a lens. Fun, thought provoking and TRUE as the sky is blue!5* and the whole shabang!

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      Kay 8 years ago

      I am such a typical firstborn. I also love Dr. Leman and have to say, I'm not a parenting by the books type of mom but his books did influence my parenting. Great lens!

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Excellent lens! Had to give it 5*.Warmest RegardsFtuley

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 8 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      Thank you all for your visits. My sisters and I are enjoying reading all the comments.

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      Dianne Loomos 8 years ago

      I love the design of this lens! Enjoyed reading it too. Kudos from the second of three.

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      thepartyanimal2 8 years ago

      I am the youngest of 3 and was spoiled rotten, but I also lost my mom at the age of 8 to cancer - so I think that added to me being babied extra.

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      Steve Dizmon 8 years ago from Nashville, TN

      Well, lets see; I am an only child, my wife is number six of eleven children and our two children were born twelve years apart. There must be some sort of psychological implications or interesting statistics there. However, after brief thought, I don't think I want to know what they are. Interesting read. 5*

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      Deb Kingsbury 8 years ago from Flagstaff, Arizona

      Interesting subject to think about. I was the third and last (the only girl), but, for me, I was almost like a first and only. My brothers are 16 and 20 years older than I am and were no longer living at home when I was born. (Well, the younger of the two WAS actually, but he moved to a college dorm not long afterwards.) So, in that case, I think birth order affected me differently than it may have affected some of my piers who were also third and last but were much closer in age to their siblings.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 8 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      [in reply to Peter] That's a good question, Peter

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      How do you define birth order? My wife's family has 3 "first-born". His, hers and theirs. What about a child born and raised after a large gap and older siblings have left home?

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      Laurel Johnson 8 years ago from Washington KS

      Thanks so much for the nice words you left on my poetry lens. You are a gem.Since I already 5 and faved this one, guess I'll just move along. :))

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      Julia M S Pearce 8 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

      Hi there! I enjoyed your lens!I am the youngest of three and will always be the youngest in their eyes even though I am in my fifties.Being the youngest has its ups and its downs.I think you definitely get spoilt but them again I don't think you are ever treated seriously as you are always the youngest even if you have a masters!

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      RuthCoffee 8 years ago

      I think birth order, as well as a number of other things, influences our personality. A lot of it probably has to do with our parents ability to deal with us based on where else they have to place their attention, their level of experience, and so forth. I was the middle of three.

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      dustytoes 8 years ago

      I loved reading your lens and seeing the photo of you and your sisters! What a nice family you have. I have one sister but always wanted to belong to a large family...oh well.

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Welcome to the Children and Parenting Group

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      HenryE LM 8 years ago

      I love reading information about things like this. In college I even wrote a paper on it because I thought it was fascinating. They say the oldest is the smartest, the middle is the peacemaker, and the youngest is a follower. Also, middle children make the best marriage partners because they know how to lead, follow, and compromise! I'm a middle child :)

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      I love your lens! I do think birth order plays a huge role in how our personality develops. I'm the oldest of 3 and the only girl. Dad left when I was 6 and that threw me into the role of being the Second Mom in the house for way too many years. There are a lot of expectations and pressure put on the first born child.

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Wonderful to see this lens doing so well Nancy. Fun lens! ~ Susie

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      bluehawk 8 years ago

      Great lens! At least I know why I'm confused - I'm the third son, but the other two were out of the house shortly after I was born, so I'm also raised an only child. I'm also my fathers only child. So I guess that makes me the third and only child?Thanks Nancy!

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      tdove 8 years ago

      Thanks for joining G Rated Lense Factory!

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      dahlia369 8 years ago

      I never thought birth order meant anything - until reading this lens. I was the first child (of two) - and had to be responsible for everything - too early. It wasn't always fun!

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      Lee Hansen 8 years ago from Vermont

      I was the big sister - to 5 younger siblings. I become their "other mother" and was always expected to be the achiever, leader and the responsible one. It's still in me, although I am not the leader or main organizer now that we're all adults. In fact, I like to sit back and watch my brothers and sisters handle life issues I've already experienced ... like having teenagers, paying for college, and becoming a grandparent. I loved this lens ...

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      Snozzle 8 years ago

      Very entertaining. I'm an only verse, which I guess had an effect on me as I don't like many people - not really that's a joke. Interesting subject.Mike.

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      sherridan 8 years ago

      I certainly see some repeating patterns in my clients seeking career counselling. First children are perfectionist and driven (due to inexperienced parents being demanding and overprotective); middle children are mediators who tend to be lost and drifters (busy parents have less time to pay them attention so they learn to keep everyone happy with minimal support and direction, but also with little clear focus); and youngest children are generally more daring, social and confident (more relaxed parents spoil them and they become the centre of attention in the family, with greater freedom sooner). I would not recruit on the basis of birth order, but some people do take such biodata very seriously.

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      ElizabethJeanAl 8 years ago

      Welcome to the Totally Awesome Lenses Group.Lizzy

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      What a nice lens. I have 3 sisters!

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      x3xsolxdierx3x lm 8 years ago

      I really like lenses like this :) I enjoyed reading it, and, definitely 5 stars :)

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      JoeTedesco 8 years ago

      This is great... what a lens. Welcome to our group.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 8 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      [in reply to mukunda22] I should have known that you were the 3rd in birth order. That is why you are so sweet and nice.

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      Kate Loving Shenk 8 years ago from Lancaster PA

      Wonderful lens--I am the third born--the "Baby"--Lol---When I think of my family--I still get the vibes that I am the baby and will always be--Very Odd!!

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 8 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      [in reply to JaguarJulie] Send me the link to your case study and I will post it here. Thanks for visiting

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      julieannbrady 8 years ago

      Quite an interesting lens! Thoroughly enjoyed how you presented the information. Reminded me of my Tribes case study in August 2008, "Birth Order Leader of Siblings Tribe." I believe that birth order does make an impact on us. ;)

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      jipock 8 years ago

      Great lens! 5*****