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My Journey to Clarity

Updated on October 29, 2014
A seed is planted
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My Journey to a New Season in Life

Fall 2009, I was reading an article in our church newsletter from Pastor titled 'The Ministry of Listening'.

The article spoke to me. A seed had been planted.

The words touched me in ways that I did not understand at the time, regardless I kept the newsletter close at hand. I somehow knew I was beginning a journey that would eventually reveal itself.

I didn't know what the journey was and I didn't know how long it would take but the power of those words were now embedded in me and it was a matter of patience to allow them to reveal themselves.

Now let's fast forward to January 2011. I had been studying on-line marketing course through a community of instructors and a new course was being offered in 'coaching'. I had no idea what this was but listening to the description of the course I was intrigued.

I had grown comfortable in this teaching community and it was filled with people of a giving nature. I had grown to trust the teachings and leaders from this community so I listened to the introductions to the new coaching interactive classes offered.

What I learned about this course, combined with what I was searching for at the time, ignited an overwhelming curiosity in me and that seed that was planted from Pastor's article from 2009 started growing.

This is my story of my journey searching for the answers to where life was taking me and how I arrived where I am today. Come along for the journey and perhaps you will discover some things about yourself through my own story.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.

What is Coaching?

This is a good question and I asked the same question.

Coaching is a focused support service.

Coaching is a partnership.

Coaching is an action oriented process of active listening and asking leading open ended questions to help you to discover what you are seeking support in.

A coach does not solve problems for the you but instead creates a supportive, safe, confidential haven without judgment that allows you the freedom to seek your own solutions.

Yes, I now understand what a Coach does.

Yes, I now understand what a Coach does.

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    • anonymous 5 years ago

      Very good.

    • Cynthia Sylvestermouse 5 years ago from United States

      Definitely!

    • anonymous 5 years ago

      Yes I understand the general concept, but I am still left with a lot of questions.

    What Can Coaching Do For You?

    Let me count the ways.

    Do you think you need a coach?

    Still not sure what a coach does?

    Allow me to ask you a few questions.

    Do you need a sounding board just to allow you to hear yourself? A coach will listen and repeat back to you what it is they hear you saying so that you can hear what it sounds like.

    Do you have a goal you are trying to reach but not sure how to reach it? A coach can help you set priorities and provide an action plan to help you reach those goals.

    Do you feel isolated and think no one else is going through the same situation? A coach will reassure you and help you to find your way all while supporting you confidentially.

    Do you feel you need someone to help you accomplish task? A coach will hold you accountable for what you need to do to get the job done all in a supportive and encouraging environment.

    Do you think your ideas are to BIG? A coach doesn't and will allow you to explore those ideas.

    Do you feel at a fork in the road and don't know which way to go? A coach will ask you the right questions to help you decide which path to take.

    Are you trying to put the puzzle pieces together to make it all work but you're too overwhelmed to see the big picture? A coach will walk with you, help you break the task down into baby steps and encourage you through the process all while supporting your effort allowing you to explore your options and keeping you on the right track.

    If any of these scenarios describe you then you may want to consider checking into looking for a coach.

    A good coach:

    • will lead you in the right direction
    • has a servant's heart
    • wants to help you move forward

    Can A Coach Help You?

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    Would You Like to Find Out More About Coaching? - Read on it.

    Coaching is a very general term. From life coaching to business and leadership coaching, there are many areas of your life that you may need a coach to help you work through. There is nothing that can replace human contact and another living person to help you through the way. But maybe you aren't ready yet. Here are a few guides that may help you decide if you need a live personal coach to help you. Happy reading.

    Why I Chose this Path to Becoming a Certified Coach?

    So why did I decide to become a certified coach?

    My life was beginning a new chapter and I didn't know how to proceed effectively.

    In the past, I had friends that would seek me out to talk about their situations. I'm always glad to help others, but it's hard to admit when you need help yourself and even harder to open up if you don't think you are going to be listened to.

    I was feeling burnt out, I was feeling isolated. I was in a rut with myself. I knew I needed to transition to something new.

    I have had a vision of a life's ministry for some time but wasn't quite clear what it looked like. Up to now my main ministry, passion and focus has been raising my children. That was what I desired, I feel I am living my life's dream as a stay at home and work from home mom. But of course it doesn't happen by itself, it takes a supportive spouse which I am blessed with.

    But when my son began high school in 2009, it hit me that my kids are growing older and my life was in the early stages of a whole new season.

    I began feeling the tug of them becoming more independent and needing mom less, which is what a parent should desire for their children. So I do feel the bittersweet success of accomplishing this goal.

    But I didn't want to be blind that I would be hitting a stage of empty nesting, there will be a void and that realization hit me hard.

    I knew I had to do something to begin substituting these voids that would be creeping in and I didn't want to be caught off guard. So I set a path for myself to begin slowly working to transition into my next phase of life.

    Life is full of writing new pages to your story. One chapter is coming to a close in mine, not tomorrow and not next week but with as fast as time flies it will be here in a blink of an eye and I needed to begin finding what the next chapter will hold.

    When I read a book series, I am not very patient to wait for the next sequel to come out, and I wanted a head start on mine next sequel.

    Kids Growing Up

    Now What Mom?

    Self evaluation has been my process for taking stock in what I am about, my core values of my faith and my family.

    I can feel I have a servant's heart, a teacher's heart and a compassion for people. But how was I going to collaborate all of this? I wasn't completely clear.

    So fast forward to Jan 2011, I had been taking on-line marketing classes from Marketing Merge to help keep me home and this community was expanding into other areas of teaching.

    A new coaching session was beginning and I was impressed with this group of educators and leaders. This community sends a Christian theme of giving to other's first. So I was intrigued with what they had to say about these coaching classes.

    I'm looking for something new and when an opportunity presents itself I listen to see if it fits me. I try to keep an open mind, forming my own judgments.

    As the course was shared, I heard them explaining that this new growing profession of coaching was an action oriented process of learning how to listen and ask the right questions.

    By learning these skills it would allow the coach to effectively help others (their clients) find solutions through what was within the client. The coach does not solve their problems but instead allows the client freedom to seek their own solutions within a supportive, safe, confidential haven without judgment.

    This resonated with my approach of helping others. Now hopefully without sounding greedy here, the prospect of being paid to use my skills and gifts while helping others intrigued me.

    When the light bulb went off what this course was and what it could mean for me, it connected the dots back to the seed planted in me in 2009. The ministry of listening is what bubbled to the surface.

    Feeling I had reached a point that I desperately needed a support group and the sense that this skill was the next step to improve my own communication, I decided to move forward. The support from my husband made it unanimous and I registered for class.

    The Next Chapter of My Life Begins

    Shop is OPEN

    The first level of certification has been completed and with it came an overwhelming wave of growth, support, clarity and direction in my life and this coaching community has become the 'family' of support I needed.

    I can now officially place the "open" sign in my window.

    I am currently working to set up my plan and profile to begin accepting clients.

    I will be continuing my coaching studies to reach higher levels of certification in coaching but for now I feel a need to exercise what I have learned, begin establishing my new skills and allow this profession to pay for the rest of my education.

    All while incorporating my coaching in my other pursuits of interest to help substitute the void once my children are full grown and off on their own.

    This is just the first stop to getting me there.

    I invite you to contact me if you would like to find out more information as to how I can help you. I offer a free 15 minute session to see if we are a good match to helping you. There is never any obligation. Click the 'ladybug' in upper right hand corner and then click the 'contact' button. I'll be glad to chat.

    Things to Look for in a Coach - How do I know?

    If you are looking for a coach and don't know very much about it, it can be intimidating to figure out what, where and how to look for a coach.

    Here are a few things to consider to begin your search.

    • What do you need assistance with? Finding the right coach is the first step. Research a coach's expertise, specialty or niche.
    • Most coaches will probably provide you with a free 'intro' session. It's good for both of you to see if the partnership will be a good fit. Coaches will want this as well. Coaches are giving people and looking out for your best interest.
    • Ask for referrals from the coach. Who have they successfully helped. How much background do they have. Every coach has to start somewhere but a certified coach has logged some coaching hours during their training. It's required in order to qualify for certification.
    • Feel free to contact up to three coaches before making your decision who is best suited to help you with your needs. A coach feels the same way. A good coach will refer you to someone to fit your needs if they do not feel like they can assist you. It's not personal but in your best interest.
    • Expect there to be a contract of agreement. It is necessary and will protect both you and the coach. Keep things on the up and up and it is expected from a professional.

    Want More Info About Coaching? - Do some research.

    The links listed below are a few coaching sites that will help you to answer more questions about 'What Is Coaching".

    Opening ourselves up to others is a very hard thing to do, especially here on the internet. It has been a journey for me. Coaching has helped me to work through it. I have found several people on the internet that share their stories willingly, letting us see a glimpse of their private life and they inspire me. I have met many giving people in my new coaching community family.

    If for any reason, even the simplest, you need someone to listen to you I would love to partner with you. I always provide a free 15 min get to know each other session to see if we are the right fit. We may not be and that's okay. It has to be right for you.

    At the very least feel free to comment and share any coaching stories you have experienced or just stop by and sign in.

    Either way, thanks for visiting.

    My Sincere Gratitude for Stopping by to Visit. - please sign the guest register.

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        Paul Turner 5 years ago from Birmingham, Al.

        Great lens about coaching. I will definitely be checking into it.

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        moonlitta 5 years ago

        Welcome to the community! Coaching is a great profession, and Squidoo is a wonderful and supporting community to share your vision, ideas, successes and (inevitably) missteps!

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        Ann Hinds 5 years ago from So Cal

        Interesting. I think that some people are meant to do this and from your explanation, you are a natural. While I don't think I need one now, in hind site, it would have been helpful when I was younger. Great explanation.

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        happynutritionist 5 years ago

        It is nice to see the face behind the ladybug:-) I thank you for sharing what a coach is, I have a couple of friends who are what they call "life coaches", it sounds like something interesting and the fact that you are doing this from a Christian perspective all the more meaningful to someone like me.

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        TeacherRenee 5 years ago

        your passion really comes through!

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        Ann 5 years ago from Yorkshire, England

        very interesting

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        Melody Lassalle 5 years ago from California

        This was really informative. I didn't really have any idea what life coaches did. It sounds like a mix of mentoring and being a good listener. Thanks for sharing!

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        Cynthia Sylvestermouse 5 years ago from United States

        Very interesting! This is not at all what I expected. I will admit, I was thinking sports coach :) It seems to me that we have all had mentors along the way and I guess that is the word I would have used for the job you have described and undertaken. Regardless of the name, it is a worthy occupation and a much needed one in any community. Totally awesome!