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My Inspiration

Updated on July 19, 2014

My Influence - My Father

This is a dedication to my wonderful father John Callinsky Over the years -especially when I was younger- he instilled many important things in me. I am who I am today because of my father. Here you will find little stories regarding how my father instilled the following things in me.

I love you, Pops! No, I don't need any money. (O;

Some may say, "No dear. You are who you are because of your life experiences."

I would reply, "My life experiences, my decisions, are definitely a result of how I was raised."

My father was a mechanic. He worked his butt off for years to raise eight children. Yes, eight. We were Catholic growing up. My mother used to say, "Every time I saw his pants on the bedpost, I knew we were havin' another one."

My father is not a complainer. He is an avid fisher, boater, gardener, now golfer, and all around handy guy. He is extremely witty, very kind, and extremely intelligent.

As you read down the page you will find little stories regarding how my father instilled the following things in me:

Self Confidence

Hard Work

Compassion

Hard Lessons

Life's Deeper Meaning

There are many more things, but this is a good start for a tribute to my father.

Happy 85th, Daddy. I wish I was there.

Happy 85th, Pops

Just to be clear, our dad never hit us; although, my older brother wished that he had smacked me a couple of times. Taaa haaa haaa. I really love this song. It always makes me think of Dad. It makes me a little sad because I love him something awful. It's so much that it's painful, but it's a very good pain.

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Self Confidence - Is Hard to Find When You are Figuring Things Out

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Self-Confidence

I'm staring at a magazine. The model on the front is so gorgeous. I squeeze my stomach and touch my nose as my dad takes notice. He puts a hand on my shoulder and squeezes. "Cindy, you're much prettier than she is on the outside and I'm sure on the inside."

I scrunch my nose, squint my eyes, and look at my father. "No, I'm so not."

My dad leans over as he forms a triangle with his fingers. He covers the models hair so just her face is showing. "Look now," he says.

I look down, and I'm shocked to see that the model isn't half as pretty as I thought.

My dad says, "You're just seeing her hair. She has pretty hair but it doesn't make up for her face."

I giggle as I look up at my father; I feel 110 percent better.

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Hard Work - Tacoma, WA - Tacoma Dome - 1987 Lincoln High School

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Lincoln-high-school-tacoma-washington-1987

I'm in eighth grade and I have decided that I want to tryout for cheerleading. I have to think about it a lot because it's the first thing that I have ever wanted to do that has the possibility of failure. I mean, I might not make it. I don't wanna be popular; I could care less about that. I absolutely adore sports, especially football. I so wanna be one of the official girls that get the crowd hyped up at games.

Once I have decided that I can handle possible failure, I approach my mother as I hold out the permission slip. "Mom, I wanna tryout for cheerleader."

"We don't have the money."

I slouch off to the living room where my dad sits. I plop down on the couch next to him about to burst into tears. I've already been cut and I haven't even got to tryout.

"What's wrong, Pumpkin?"

"I wanted to tryout for cheer leading, but we don't have the money."

"You willing to earn it?"

I instantly look at my dad with excitement written across my face. "Heck, yeah."

My dad gets off the couch and heads to the kitchen. I wait anxiously for what seems like forever.

Finally, he returns. "You will have car-washes at the service station until you earn what you need."

I jump up and throw my arms around him. "Thank you, Daddy!"

My dad pulls back and ruffles my hair. "I mean it, Pumpkin."

"I will. I promise."

I made the squad, and we all participated in the car-washes that summer. We did the same during two more summer vacations when we made the high school squad. None of our parents ever had to pay a penny for anything, not even cheerleader camps. In the ninth grade our outfits alone cost $300.00 each, and there were five of us.

Compassion - This was the View from my Fathers Gas Station

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Daffodil-Parade

We are at my dad's service station for the Daffodil Parade. It has always been anticipated in my family. As luck would have it, it always takes place in downtown Tacoma on Pacific Avenue which is where the service station sits. My dad has allowed a bus full of mentally handicap kids from Lincoln come down and park at the station to watch the parade. These are the same kids that I work with everyday for one of my electives.

About half the way through the parade one of the girls from the bus approaches my dad. "I have to use the bathroom."

"Okay, sweetie. You'll have to wait a minute because someone is in there."

The girl starts bouncing. "I have to go now!"

My dad turns towards the bathroom and then looks back at the girl. "Okay, hang on." He quickly heads towards the restroom only to turn his head back around to see what all the laughter is about. The girl has squatted at one of the pumps and is about to relieve herself. My dad is infuriated. He loudly scolds everyone as he runs into the service station to get an old dingy blanket. Upon his prompt return he and my brother-in-law wrap the dingy blanket around the young lady until she is relieved.

Photo of the Daffodil Parade from Tacky Buzzer

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Hard Lessons - I Think this was Harder on My Dad Than it was on Me

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hard-lessons

I'm showing my dad the deep bruises that run across my back and up my sides. These are bruises that my boyfriend left on me the previous night; the same night my father rescued me from the back of a paddy wagon and saved me from being arrested.

My dad looks at me with sadness. "Cindy, you are choosing to be with him. Change it."

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Life's Meaning - What is Life Really About?

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white-picket-fence

I'm standing in my front yard with my dad; I'm soon to be married. I ask, "Isn't that what life's about, Dad? It's about the house, white picket fence, and kids, right?"

"Well, it can be. Life is about what you want. Is that what you want, Pumpkin?"

I fidget my feet, look down, and tug on my shirt. "Yeah, that's what I want."

Oddly enough that is exactly what I wanted and pretty damn close to what I have (minus the white picket fence), but there is no husband. ~Wait, let me look around... HA! Yep, there is no husband, only an ex. It seems I got what I wanted; I just didn't want the husband. For those of you who don't know me, I earned what I have. I didn't take anything from my ex other than an old lawnmower that is broken-down more than it runs.

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woman-lawn-mower

One for the road

Ed's Small Engine Repair

Good ol' Ed at Ed's Small Engine Repair Shop really loves me. Tonight I took another tire up there to have a tube put in. I declared, "Well, that's number three. There's only one more left."

Ed looks at the tire. "Boy, someone really greased 'er up."

"Yeah, that would be my ex." I instantly get irritated. "It's the only thing I ever got from him." I pause a moment and smile. "Other than my son."

"You got one of them?"

"One of which?"

"Ex."

"Yep."

"Them are the best kind to have."

We both burst into laughter.

I'm the only chick I've ever seen at Ed's Small Engine Repair Shop and the place is always jumpin'. Hey, all you chicks out there that would like to meet a fellow, check out a place like that. It's gotta be better than a bar. If you want someone that might be brainy check out the library. I've always preferred the blue-collar type myself.

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This was a special gift for my pops.

I am in Kentucky and he is currently in Arizona. He is a snowbird and goes to Washington for the spring, summer, and part of the fall. I will not be able to see him. If any of you would like to wish him a happy 86th, I'm sure that he would love it.

* These have to be approved so they will not show up immediately, and you should not have to log in to wish a happy birthday to pops. Have at it, and thank you!

My Father Turned 85 on April 26th, 2011 - He is a wonderful Man and Loved by Many

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      Renaissance Woman 6 years ago from Colorado

      Stopping back by to leave you a Squid Angel blessing. :-)

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      Renaissance Woman 6 years ago from Colorado

      I love this lens. Wish I knew your father. I can tell he is an amazing man. I've been thinking about doing a lens about my dad. You have inspired me to get going on it. I'm so glad you created this tribute for your father. What a lovely gift. Very nicely done!

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      semas 7 years ago

      A Beautiful tribute to your Dad.

      Dads are one of the important influences in our lives and my father too was a great inspiration for me!

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      callinsky lm 7 years ago

      @VarietyWriter2: Thank you so very much for the blessing. (O;

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      VarietyWriter2 7 years ago

      Blessed by a SquidAngel :)

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      callinsky lm 7 years ago

      @AngHoo LM: Thank you for stopping by, Ang.

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      AngHoo LM 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday Mr.Callinsky! Your daughter has done you proud. Nice lens.

      Cheers,

      Ang

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      Delia 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday on 84 years, this to a wonderful father Mr.Callinsky!!!

      my hubby always called the girls Pumpkin, this brought memories back...very nicely written and well done lens...5* and a ~"Squid Angel Blessing"~

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      Indigo Janson 7 years ago from UK

      Happy Birthday, Mr Callinsky! And thanks to your daughter for introducing you and telling us about the important life lessons she has learned from you.

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      Virginia Allain 7 years ago from Central Florida

      A wonderful tribute to your father. Happy birthday to him!

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Happy 84th, Mr. C. Your daughter sure loves you a lot. Best wishes for a special day!

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      Mary Beth Granger 7 years ago from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA

      Beautiful tribute to your Dad. Happy 84th Mr. Calinsky!

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      GrowWear 7 years ago

      Happy 84th to you, Mr. Callinsky! This is a beautiful tribute from your lovely daughter.

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      luvmyludwig lm 7 years ago

      I teared up a little reading this because reading these stories of your dad reminds me so much of my grandpa. We lost him 3 years ago to cancer. From what you've said about your dad he's the type of man my papa was. The kind of man that sees good in everything, does all he can to make the hard times better, and would give a stranger the shirt off his back if he needed it. This is a beautiful tribute to such a beautiful and loving man. I hope this birthday is special.

      Happy Birthday to you Mr. Callinsky, I wish you many more.

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      callinsky lm 7 years ago

      @kimmanleyort: I swear, you have teared me up. I cannot do that now because there is a house full of men playing paper Dungeons and Dragons and LORD.... I work with most of them. Thank you, Kim.

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      kimmanleyort 7 years ago

      Happy 84th birthday, Mr. Callinsky. You have a very talented daughter who loves you.

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday Mr. Callinsky,

      I have listened to many heartfelt stories concerning how great a father you are from your kind and sweet daughter Cindy. You have been a wonderful influence in Cindyâs life like any good father should be. I am thankful to know and love her and in a small way to know you from her stories. I wish you many more Happy Birthdays and a joyous life.

      Sincerely,

      Lance Dotson.

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      I spent a lot of time at Cindy's growing up. John and Margie were like parents to me. John is very adventurous and I loved getting to tag along on his newest adventure...whether canoeing or rafting or whatever, it was always fun! I would like to say that I learned a lot, but I remember I went rafting with Sam during college and we didn't do ANY of the safety procedures John taught us...like putting stuff in a dry bag or wearing a lifevest and sunscreen...and we flipped, our stuff went down the river, I got a terrible sunburn and I almost drowned!

      John made me feel special growing up...he had a special nickname for me...Candie Doughland...he was John CALL-IN-SKY to me. Love you, John! Happy Birthday!

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday grandpa love you! Amy

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      WOW!! hard to think of your dad as that old!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY UNCLE JOHN!!!

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday, Mr. C. Ditto on the great daughter/writer you raised.

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      "Happy Birthday Mr. C....thanks for bringing a wonderful writer into this world!!"

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday, Mr. Callinsky! Your daughter and grandson represent your years well. We love them and so you too! Hope you enjoy YOUR day and new day! Best wishes! Jenny in Norton VA

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      "Happy Birthday Mr. C. !! You raised an incredible daughter who is very precious to me and my family. I hope you have many more birthdays to enjoy your wonderful daughter."

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Happy Birthday John! I have great memories of coming down to your shop to sit and watch the Daffodill parade, get my car fixed when I was old enough to drive and didn't have the money right then and just coming by to visit. It was also fun to come over and watch football and have you and Cindy both try to explain it to me. I learned a lot from you! You are the greatest!