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No, I'm Not Anorexic

Updated on August 29, 2017

I'm Skinny, But I'm Not Anorexic

This is me, I'm 5 ft. 4 in. tall, and I weigh 98 lbs. I've been this size since I was 16. The only time I've ever weighed more than that is when I've been pregnant.

This lens is about my frustration with being asked if I'm Anorexic by everyone and anyone. Even doctors.

Photo copyright Shari O'Leary

Brief Rant

First of all, everyone who is skinny is NOT Anorexic. Some of them are, but they usually look like walking skeletons. I do NOT look like a walking skeleton. In our society, it's considered impolite to ask a fat person why they are so fat, so why does everyone think it's okay to ask a skinny person if they're Anorexic? In my case, I just got a lucky break from the gene pool. Skinny women run in my family. I've also got a very high metabolism, I burn food up before it turns into anything. I'm not skinny because I don't eat.

The next time you're tempted to ask a skinny person why they're so skinny, or call them Anorexic, or tell them to eat something, think about it.

Photo copyright Shari O'Leary

Is It Okay?

It is not okay in my opinion. Asking a skinny person if they're Anorexic is just as rude as asking a fat person why they're so fat.

Do You Think It's Okay To Accuse A Skinny Person Of Being Anorexic?

Leave your comments here. I would just love to know what you all think.

Your Thoughts

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    • Lady Lorelei profile image

      Lorelei Cohen 

      5 years ago from Canada

      Are culture is now prone to look at a person's weight and associate it with an eating disorder because this medical condition is so much an unfortunate part of our life now.

    • tedwritesstuff24 profile image


      5 years ago

      went out with a girl who was 44kgs and 4'11. Perfectly healthy, happy and certainly not struck with an eating disorder.. Tell them to..well insert your own swears here!

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      Tony Bonura 

      6 years ago from Tickfaw, Louisiana

      @sharioleary: Tell to MYOB. Either that or "go sit on a Coke bottle" you don't seem that introverted to me, look at all the lenses you've posted. Still think you're pretty. (Note to your husband: No I'm not flirting with your wife)

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      Tony Bonura 

      6 years ago from Tickfaw, Louisiana

      No, it is not OK for people to ask a skinny person if they are anorexic. I think you are pretty. Thanks for sharing. I had been very slim all my life until I went into the Air Force and then I put on some weight and muscle, so I kinda know how you feel. But I was never accused of being anorexic either.

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      Shari O'Leary 

      6 years ago from Minnesota

      @lilymom24: What did you say to them? I never know what to say when it comes up.

    • lilymom24 profile image


      6 years ago

      I always had the same problem up until about a year ago. I think my metabolism has finally slowed down. I used to get hurtful, insensitive comments as well.

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      Nicole Pellegrini 

      6 years ago from New Jersey

      I've always tended to the other end of the scale - having to keep my weight down, not up. I admit I can be quite jealous of those who seem able to never gain any weight no matter what they eat, but we all have different metabolisms and can't make judgements calls on the health of people we don't know.

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      7 years ago

      Most of my life, I could eat anything, and I never gained a pound. I tried until, I reached my goal of 104 pounds, and was quite happy with that weight! Now that I have health issues, it would not allow for much loss. I'm still considered thin, but to me, I loved being 104 pounds! As long as your health is fine, thin is great! Notice I don't say skinny :)

    • traveller27 profile image


      7 years ago

      You bring up a point that I've often asked myself - why is it okay to talk to thin people about their weight and not okay to talk to a heavier person?? Thanks for bringing this up.

    • Cinnamonbite profile image


      7 years ago

      Anytime you want to trade, sister, you let me know! LOL I've been the same weight since high school too. I did lose 60 pounds once but I had to become anorexic to do it and couldn't hold on to it when I got there. The second I ate lunch that day, I gained 3 pounds.

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      7 years ago

      I think we are lucky to have high metabolisms that's all. I can eat what I want and still not put on a lot of weight, not everyone can. In saying this I do like to eat some healthy fruits and veggies and stay away from fatty foods :)

    • cloudiosify profile image


      7 years ago

      True, I am underweight too.And it is hard to get the ideal weight but still we have to be grateful with what we have. Healthy Lifestyle rocks!

    • SweetMarie83 LM profile image

      SweetMarie83 LM 

      7 years ago

      I can't imagine asking someone why they're so skinny...I have the opposite body type and if someone asked me why I was overweight, I'd be extremely offended...neither is ok, you shouldn't talk about someone's weight unless they bring it up or you know them well, and even then calling a person anorexic because they're skinny just isn't right. Great lens!

    • deyanis profile image


      7 years ago from Oz

      Thank you for writing this lens. I am also a very petite person, weigh 95pounds, I'm trying my best to gain few extra pounds, but it's very hard. I eat a lot, I snack healthy food, but I'm still skinny. It's inherited from my grandmother's genes, she was also very skinny & petite. And people just don't understand. They think skinny is bad role model for people, because of all the celebrities who're trying to get skinnier. But we are just normal people, we maybe skinny, but we are healthy and we're proud of our body.

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      7 years ago

      Boy can I relate to you on this! I have a hard time keeping my weight above 100 pounds and have to work at being around 110. I don't have much of a sweet tooth. There are more and more studies that are finding that there are benefits for being "underweight". I think we are at the right weight for us as long as we are comfortable and healthy. Anorexia is a serious health condition that is very complex and accusing someone of being anorexic is not helpful. We need to be more sensitive. Well done!

    • hotbrain profile image


      7 years ago from Tacoma, WA

      This is a great lens topic. There are so many reasons for people being skinny or fat. I know I don't eat worse than many skinny people and yet I'm overweight. It is disappointing that there is so much focus on weight. I think the focus should be on eating healthy and exercising instead.

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      Ruth Coffee 

      8 years ago from Zionsville, Indiana

      Yes, thank you for saying this. This has become a problem in the past 10 to 15 years. I've had people say worse things when I was younger and thinner. I also find it insulting when people ask if you ever eat. Errrrr. Like always! I would never think about asking an obese person if they ever stop eating. The only time it might be appropriate is if you see actually signs of an eating disorder, being very thin is not what I consider a sign unless a person becomes thin "suddenly".

      Anorexia is a terrible disease. It's nasty to ask someone this (accuse them of being anorexic) and in my eyes it belittles the real problem that so many people have.

    • eclecticeducati1 profile image


      8 years ago

      I truly understand where you are coming from! I use to be very tiny in highschool and as a young adult. I had a very hard time gaining weight. Now I have the opposite problem!!! Ever since I had children, my metabolism changed and I am overweight and have a hard time loosing it.

    • eloise-spleen profile image


      8 years ago

      My best friend has the same problem. It's not only rude to ask people if they are anorexic, it's also disrespectful.

    • thepartyanimal2 profile image


      9 years ago

      I can understand your frustration. I can also see why some may ask that out of concern for your health. Even though you are not - how would one know for sure. I am on the fence with this one. I would say that strangers should not ask, but friends and family may just be voicing concern.

    • kerbev profile image


      9 years ago from Upstate, NY

      When they ask if you are skinny because you are anorexic, then ask them if they rude because they were born that way or because their mother taught them to be.

    • Lou165 profile image


      9 years ago from Australia

      I have a friend with the same problem and I can see how frustrated she gets, sometimes I think it's people who are jealous because they can't control their own weight. Whatever the reason it is just rude.

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      Cheryl Kohan 

      9 years ago from Arizona

      So glad you wrote about this. Sometimes people just don't think before speaking - maybe this will help.

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      Bambi Watson 

      9 years ago

      Thanks for having the courage to share your story.


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