Why No RocketDads on Squidoo?
RocketMoms are Everywhere on Squidoo. So Why no RocketDads?
Are you familiar with RocketMoms here on Squidoo? Odds are pretty good if you've ever seen a great Squidoo lens or checked out a Lens of the Day lens, you've seen their handy work. Rocket moms are seemingly everywhere and I'm pretty impressed with the quality of lenses these ladies put out. However, being a single dad I've always wondered where the RocketDads were. As I watch awesome RocketMoms lenses dominate Squidoo I've always wondered if there were any aspiring RocketDads. I decided to search on Squidoo to see if there were any RocketDads lenses. Nope.
I've been a single father for 9 years now. I had to fight to be awarded custody of my son and it was an uphill battle because the Family Court system and society in general are biased to women when it comes to parenting. I make this point only so you know where I'm coming from. I guess I'm overly sensitive about the whole moms over dads issue! RocketMoms are just one more area of life where I feel men deserve an equal say. So I thought I'd publish a lens to create an open discussion and a place where we could debate over why there is no RocketDads group and whether or not there ever will be.
Before We Go any Further...What the Heck are RocketMoms?
A little background . . .
Before we can go on and argue and debate whether or not there should be RocketDads, we need to understand what RocketMoms are. Quoting directly from the RocketMoms HQ page on Squidoo:
"RocketMoms is a gathering of the smartest women on the web, working together to make Squidoo lenses and a whole lot more.
They are dedicated to creating top-notch, focused, remarkable, creative content online. And along the way they learn, share, and teach other moms about Squidoo, Twitter, Facebook, blogging and a whole lot more. Each session, the RocketMoms are challenged to create web pages (called lenses) on various topics. It's a challenge, a community, a classroom and a hobby."
I obviously don't have any inside knowledge of the RocketMoms group but from a couple years of experience and observation on Squidoo I can tell you they seem like a group of smart and savvy women that challenge and support one another. They put together some of the best and most unique lenses on Squidoo and they seem to have a lot of fun doing it. Of course don't take my word for it. I may not know what I'm talking about, so go straight to the source and check out RocketMoms for yourself.
Now that we have that out of the way, I ask you WHERE are the RocketDads? Aren't there any fathers, grandfathers, stepdads, single dads, father in laws etc that are interested in something similar?
Let Me Clarify a Few Things
This is NOT an Anti-RocketMoms Lens!
Please don't misunderstand me. This lens isn't intend to be hostile or malicious in any way.
This is NOT an anti-RocketMoms lens. This is NOT a "RocketMoms are sexist" or "Squidoo is gender-biased" lens.
I'm not attacking RocketMoms or Squidoo. I'm not saying RocketMoms are men haters or father bashers. I'm not saying Squidoo is to blame. From what I understand the entire RocketMoms cobrand on Squidoo is run by volunteers. Its probably a TON of work with little appreciation for all it involves. It's not Squidoo's fault or the fault of the RocketMoms group on Squidoo that no men have managed to stepped up to the plate to organized something similar. While I can't speak for Squidoo, I'm fairly confident the powers that be at Squidoo would support a group of like minded men with a common goal similar to RocketMoms, especially if benefited Squidoo and the entire community.
So this isn't a hateful lens. Instead it's more of a lens for to openly wonder why there still is no real comparable male counterpart to the RocketMoms group. This is a lens for me to ask questions and for the Squidoo community to answer. Heck we might even have a little fun! So
I'd also like this to be a brainstorming center for any males out there who are genuinely interested in starting their own RocketDads group or something similar.
Maybe I'm Not Totally Alone? - Google reveals a few other people feel the same way. (A few)
So I decided to do a little Googling and see if there have been any discussions of starting a RocketDads group on Squdioo. Although my search didn't turn up much, at least I felt slightly reassured knowing I wasn't the one and only person wondering why we don't have a RocketDads group. You can see the rather pathetic Google search results for the terms RocketDads and Squidoo from 06/22/2011 in the image above.
This Google search turned up a few indexed posts from a thread from the SquidU forum. Reading through some of the posts in the thread it seems that there are some men who would be willing to join and have interest in a RocketDads group. However I was a little disappointed to see there have been some mini-movements from males in the past that evidently failed.
Here is a link to the aforementioned SquidU thread.
A Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Step.
At least we now have a central location for people to read, ask, and talk about a potential RocketDads group!
While I would love to take the initiative and say I'll take the reigns and bring a highly successful RocketDads group it to fruition, I'm wise enough to know I lack sufficient time to pull it off. I'm sure it's nothing one man, or even a couple of men, can pull off. That being said I'm fully on board and willing to contribute a great deal of time and effort to the cause. I'm just curious whether there are other Squidoo dads out there that feel the same way.
As a first step I wanted to created this RocketDads lens as a sort of jumping off point. Consider it a brainstorming center for RocketDad wannabes. When I was curious about whether there was a RocketDads group the first thing I did was search Squidoo. Next I searched Google. I found nothing in both cases. I'm hoping this lens will change that.
Hopefully other fathers interested in starting a RocketDads group will find this lens. In time I hope it can be used as a way for all of us interested in the cause to put our heads together and move forward.
At the very least this is a first step in the right direction!
Do You Think It's Time for a RocketDads Group on Squidoo? - Do we need some RocketDADS?
I've told you what I think, now it's your turn. What do you think?
Do we need a RocketDads group on Squidoo?
Would You Be Willing to Help Start a RocketDads Group? - No one man can go it alone!
So I'm on board, and I'm sure there have to be others. Here is your chance to honestly and anonymously vote whether or not you would help in starting a RocketDads group.
Would YOU be willing to help found a RocketDads Squidoo group?
Would a RocketDads Group Succeed? - Success or Failure?
Do you think a RocketDads group would be a success here on Squidoo?
Would You Join the RocketDads?
Would you be willing to participate? Being a RocketDads member would probably require a great deal of time and commitment. Even if you aren't willing to help found RocketDads, would you be willing to invest your time and energy to participate?
If a RocketDads group is started would you want to be a member?
Are Men Just too Disorganized? Unmotivated? Loners? Too Competitive? Too Stubborn? - Why have the RocketMoms never seen any comparable counterpart?
So what do you think? Why has there never been any real male counterpart to the RocketMoms cobrand? Is it because as males we are simply loners? I know I HATE asking for help and god forbid I have to stop and ask for directions.
Maybe the problem is men just aren't motivated enough, well organized enough, or we're just simply far too busy to devote the time to even start a RocketDads group in the first place?
Maybe the problem is, generally speaking, men don't value the sense of community and working together toward a common goal like women generally do. We don't do the whole sisterhood thing is what I'm saying. Sure we'll be your wingman and take one for the team. Sure we'll drop everything and give up our weekend to help you put a new roof on your house or overhaul your smallblock chevy, we just don't want to talk about our feelings or wear matching t-shirts while doing it!
I think another potential problem is men are just too competitive. Maybe if a RocketDads group got started we'd all be too busy and focused on building bigger better lenses and we'd get caught up trying to best each other.
These are just some theories and suggestions. I'd like to know what YOU think. Please leave your honest opinions and thoughts on the topic below. I do have to moderate things a little bit so please keep it clean and at least TRY to be respectful of each individual and each gender. I'm not looking to start a gender war here, I just want some outside opinions on the matter.
Why has there never been any real male counterpart to the RocketMoms?
Here is your chance to freely sound off about the topic. Do you want to publicly declare you're in and want to help start a RocketDads group? Do you want to let everyone know you think its a bad idea? Do you just want to publicly ridicule me for improper grammar? This is the place to do all of that and much more!