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Turning A Corner - Setting Goals

Updated on January 28, 2015

Changing Direction, Changing Seasons

March 19, 2013

Here I am to eat crow! Well, that is what I have heard one does when they fall flat on

their face. I am here to say that I have done that with this lens. I have not met all of

my goals, nor come close. In fact, I have even stayed away from this lens. Why? I

am not sure. Fear probably. I promised myself that I would not make excuses and,

with that said, I am going to try to stick with this lens one more time.

I believe in this lens and I do feel I have made some progress in the last year and a half but I could have

been further ahead if I would have followed my plan. To recap, I have grown in the following areas:

1. Stayed on my weight loss program and have keep 40+ pounds off (1 1/2yrs).

2. Have grown in my Bible study, learned a lot. My love for my Lord has grown.

3. Learned a lot about myself - somethings I don't like and need to change; some I

need to develop.

4. Was not feeling the best in 2012 - found out I had two ulcers; have it under control


5. Trying to obtain a part-time job and will continue to pursue it. I need to be around

more people and I need to contribute. Hard to fine a job at age 67.

6. Was able to take a trip to Virginia with a close friend. We had a wonderful time.

7. Increase my reading program.

8. Teaching myself to play chess and I want to pass this on to my granddaughters.

9. Established an on-line shop @ Etsy and very happy with my selling results.

The down side:

1. I was on an exercise program but I got sick and then I let my program fall behind.

Not as strong physically as I need to be at this age.

2. This last winter, 2012, was very cold and I didn't do as well in my walking program.

3. I still have "set backs" when it comes to missing my husband. I tried to tell myself that I

recovered from the loss, probably sooner than I should have.

4. I have difficulty meeting new people and want to change.

5. Have not done as much with my watercolors as I thought I would have when I retired.

6. I still think of myself as a much younger person; hard to accept age 67.

7. My writing was going well for awhile and then I got somewhat depressed and it


8. I know I have some amends to make and it is my biggest challenge.


Original text:

I don't know about you, but this year, 2011, is going to be a turning point for me. Something happen in 2010 which influenced my thinking. I lost my husband. Bruce, to cancer. He was 73 years old. So here I am a widow and reflecting on my life. We hear that we all go through seasons, and, for several reasons I am in my Winter season. I say Winter, because I am living in it right now. When my husband was given less than 6 months to live, we decided to move from California (both natives) to Utah, where my son, daughter-in-law and two granddaughters are living. We knew it would be a big change in climate as well as our personal lives, but my husband wanted to be with family. Bruce passed away September 3, 2010. I have had a lot of time to think about how to restructure my life. Oh yes, I have my family, thank God for that, but my partner, best friend is gone. Bruce was my best encourager when it came to my lenses. He always supported me and wanted to know how I was doing. He would be excited if he knew that I doubled my Squidoo cash earnings for November. ( I know the program works if I work the program). He was a man who loved people and he gave me my love of books and wanting to learn. Below I have posted a phrase, many I am sure have seen before. I call it the Art of Communicating. It is a personal tribute to my late husband. However, I reminds me, as I write this lens, we must first communicate to ourselves.....what do we want in life?

Now I have been down this road before and have made Giant but have not completed my last personal goal of 100 completed lenses. I am very close. Holidays got in the way? I won't make any excuses. So, I have some "house cleaning" to do. But I will not become discouraged and will move forward.

It is time to regroup. I will not change "me" at lot, but I will take this advantage of this time in my change of seasons to do some things I have been promising myself for a long time. One of those changes will be in how I treat my lens writing and my Squidoo overall. Through this quest, I will document what I believe I need to do, how to do it and where this quest will take me, which I am hoping will be the fine tuning of self-discipline I will need to write my book. I already have my title, "A Part Of Me" and have written several pages within the last two weeks.

Daily Steps I Need To Take To Achieve My Goal

3/19/2013: Revisited my goals.

March 19, 2013: Below is my original plan, which I fell short of. I will revisit again, in 3 months (6/19/2013), to see if I have made progress with my new start.


1. Visit my lenses daily and select 5 lens to give a self-analysis to see how I can make them better.

2. Keep notes on my calendar to see how much time I am actually spending on my lenses each day. Target for minimum hour a day. Evaluate after one month.

3. On a weekly basis, visit a minimum of 10 fellow Squidoo fans' lenses to participate on each lens by voting, commenting, etc. This will help increase visits to my lenses. It also is self-motivating as I get "jazzed" from my visits to their lenses as well as when I receive visits back.

4. Target to complete 112 more lens for the year. That is only 2.2 lenses a week average. If I aim for 3 a week I will be on schedule to have my 112 plus.

5. Work on my lenses (try for 3 a week).

6. Review at the end of the week my weekly progress.

The Art Of Communicating

I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant

Maybe It Will Take A "Great" Read To Do The Job.

I love self-help books and consider myself a self-taught person. If you have any recommendations on great self-help books, please leave them in your comments. Thanks!

For with God all things are possible. Mark 10:27

We All Must Take Risks

My biggest risk is fear of criticism, especially if I haven't reach my goal. I've had it happen before, BUT, I say to "h**l" with them. I have failed before; but even then, I always come out ahead for trying.

I Know I Can Do It!

That is why I am willing to try again!

As long as I keep my feet on the ground, I know I can reach my goals. (But, I fell and now I have to dust myself off, and get back up again)

November (2011) was a good month for me at Squidoo. I had my all time best payout and I doubled anything that I have ever done in the past. I can just imagine what my month could have been if I had put more effort into it.

March 2013 - I just visited a blog that had some helpful suggestions on staying on track. I been encouraged to give this "turning a corner" another try.

PASSION for Squidoo

PASSION for Squidoo
PASSION for Squidoo

Goal Setting The SMART Way

1. Specific

2. Measurable

3. Attainable

4. Realistic

5. Timely

Link Along With Me

Check List

Daily Progression Check List

A. Did I review calendar notes from previous day?

B. Did I analyze 5 of my lenses today?

C. Did I visit my Squidoo Fans lenses today?

D. Did I work on new lenses today?

E. Did I post notes to my calendar today?

Note for March 2013: There is nothing wrong with this list except that I did not reference it every day. I plan to change and review each day.

Who I Was Born To Be

When I was a child

I could see the wind in the trees

And I heard a song in the breeze

It was there, singing out my name

But I am not a girl

I have known the taste of defeat

And I have finally grown to believe

It will all came around again

And though I may not

Know the answers

I can finally say I am free

And if the questions

Led me here, then

I am who I was born to be



All about Susan Boyle:

Songwriters: Fransson, Johan; Larsson, Tim Mikael; Lundgren, Tobias; Mae, Audra;



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      anonymous 5 years ago

      It sounds as though you have similar struggles to my own. I love your honesty. Interesting that Babe Ruth, known for his home run record, struck out more than any other baseball player. He just kept swinging away no matter what, and is known as one of the most successful players of all time.

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      Rosanna Grace 5 years ago

      I can see you have been through a lot in the last couple of years. Lots of transition and yes, reflection is good. I sense you are frustrated with yourself. I encourage you to be kind to yourself and to keep doing as you have, to acknowledge what you've achieved and make measurable goals for the future. Remember to celebrate each achievement, no matter how small. Go for it! :)

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      FashionMommy 6 years ago

      Its touching how much you have gone through, i found your story really encouraging. Thanks for sharing!

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      blue22d 6 years ago

      I am one who must be honest, especially with myself. I have not treated this lens with the respect that I had established for myself. I have fallen down on my own job and only have hurt myself. I am behind a goal that I had set for myself. I am not discouraged as I have reached other goals in my life.

      I have managed to loose 18 pounds and keep them off. I have made walking a regular pattern in my life but keeping up with my writing has really been hard for me.

      I wanted to share my confession so that others will know that we all fall short now and then because we are only human. I am getting back up and trying again. I will have to restructure my goals for Squidoo and my attempt to move toward completing lenses as I have fallen short.

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      GramaBarb 7 years ago from Vancouver

      A very special hug for you - from another widow. You are such an encouragement!

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      Sherry Venegas 7 years ago from La Verne, CA

      I am sorry for your loss last year. Squidoo goals are good. Yes, go for 100 Club. What a smart man your husband was, you are close to family.

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      ideadesigns 7 years ago

      I like your daily steps and goals. Great lens.

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      Virginia Allain 7 years ago from Central Florida

      I've found that when my life was in transition after a divorce that taking action on my own behalf was very beneficial emotionally. I think you've planned this out well and will be rewarded as you follow your plan.

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      I like the clarity and details of your goals.

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      Mary Beth Granger 7 years ago from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA

      I think you have an excellent plan for 2011 on Squidoo. You have specific measurable goals which should help you to reach them. Best wishes in accomplishing your goals.

      May God be with you in this new phase of your life!