30 Struggles an ISFP Can Understand
Ah, the ISFP. The nature lover. The artist. The seemingly cool, but has so much stuff buried beneath, that they don't even know exists. The friendly llama, the loner, the wanderer for hours. The seemingly great at understanding people the seemingly great at keeping a distance.
I love ISFPs. They're pretty cool people. Found myself liking one, and it was more of a whirlwind than I expected. I didn't know the introspective whirlwind that would be coming at me, nor the "I want you" but... I don't know how to get this right. So, here's 19 struggles that just about any Introverted Sensing Feeler Perceptive person can relate with.
1. Having a great deal of emotions running through your veins, and constantly wondering how to use them, ignore them, and just generally being an ocean inside. ISFPs highest dominant quality is their emotions followed by their amazing sensing skills then intuition then... the crap shoot of logic.
2. Speaking logic, ISFPs can warmly pick a direction and end up in one hell of a corner. Like board game suicide, or picking some really boring person to date that seemed, uh, you know, interesting?
3. Drawing may be more interesting and inviting than taking notes during a class.
4. People might not understand sudden bouts of distancing one's self during a party, perhaps even leaving to go for a walk. Those walks are precious and nutritious... for you! Others might not be able to connect the dots on your escapes.
5. Too focused on the details. This may cause being in a loud room to be impossible as you try to break down all the sounds. This may cause you to miss the big picture or see how things are adding up. With a lower intuition and logic score, this can cause some unpleasant gray / fuzzy areas.
6. Apathy. Pounds of lukewarm apathy. Why should you care? Does anyone know why you should care?
7. Trouble seeing opportunities in an apparent situation. This can cause an ungodly amount of stress. Also, this can lead to impulsive, confusing situations that obliterated the great opportunity.
8. Sudden unchecked anger that boils into a rage. You can stay chill and cool, but sometimes expressing anger may be difficult for the personality which can cause a sudden tick into madness. Keep your anger in check. Don't be afraid to navigate through your waters to find what does make you angry and how to overcome it to the best of your abilities.
9. May have problems understanding what is appropriate social behavior or having consistent social awkwardness that follows them. It may be the heavy weight the emotions give you (don't hate these, the emotions are actually what makes you a thousand times more attractive than most), but you could also have social problems due to a slight lack in intuition. Try to encourage yourself to step away from the fine gift of sensing and learn from your intuitive pattern seeking friends. The NF family is great for you to spend time with, and generally NFs are some of the nicest people. INFJ and INFP might be easier for you to be with as ENFP and ENFJ might be too much in expressing themselves (though this can also be a comfort to you.)
10. So trapped in one's feelings that they have a hard time seeing any other feelings around them. Don't let your own emotions block you in to where you can't see other people and be able to predict what they are feeling.
11. Under great stress, may feel out of control and fearful, dwelling on the "dark side" of things. This can cause an ISFP to make incredibly irrational decisions like an impulsive house buy, a sudden girlfriend, or too much interest in alcohol.
12. Nearly all of the problematic characteristics described above can be attributed in various degrees to the common ISFP problem of only taking in data that justifies their personal opinions. Look around this block of gaining information, even if it doesn't have an immediate reward for you.
13. ISFPs have a massive disdain of criticism. It hits them in the heart. Try to see criticism as a chance to grow, blossom, and be better. If the ISFP does not learn how to deal with this perceived criticism, the ISFP will begin to shut out the incoming information that causes them pain.
14. The ISFP has a built in system to protect the moral / value system which it upholds. Criticism to this causes the ISFP to shut out any criticism with which it may come across, which actually causes more harm, less preparation for hearing others, more drops into being a loner, and problems with understanding other people's viewpoints.
15. Dismissing things too early. Being bored too early. Drawing pictures instead.
16. Having a pronounced love of nature and having a difficult time enjoying society.
17. Being overwhelmed or overloaded by information. As great sensors of the world, sometimes all that pretty information can be too much, too soon, everywhere, and makes your emotional range get kind of funky.
18. Due to being egalitarian, sometimes it can be difficult to stand up to a conflict between two or more interests. You would rather not have to get involved and be a catalyst of change.
19. Sudden strange unchecked sloppiness. There is a great amount of focus on aesthetics, but sometimes the cleaning gets way behind in creepy ways. Like cockroaches in the sink creepy.
Know who is a famous ISFP? Brad Pitt!
20. An affinity for animals over humans. Why hang out with the humans when you can play with a lovable dog or curl up with a nice cat? They won't criticize you!
21. Great listeners until boredom overtakes them entirely.
22. Reaching so far into the depths of one's self, that there's an inevitable burnout. The death of a phoenix.
23. Feeling as though constantly under a mask and unsure whether that masks needs to be removed to let people really know who you are.
24. Great, lively, if not extroverted performers on a stage, photography, dance -- but often struggle with bouts of shyness, social awkwardness, or deeply held introspection.
25. Unnecessary relationships, how you get there is a mystery, but you'll find yourself coupled with the devil.
26. ISFPs struggle to feel like people actually know them due to all the performance energy.
27. ISFPs love the present moment. They are great at being the present moment. They may have extreme difficulty in seeing the present and future as tangible forces, as well as caring about the past. They are very present minded people.
28. An ISFP is socially conscious but often wants to leave the social scene and feels a strong amount of conflict within due to this odd balancing act.
29. They can be easily manipulated by settings if the settings are too noisy, too pretty, too ethereal, too basic.
30. Sometimes they make cold hearted decisions out of nowhere and leave little room for explanation or closure.
P.S. Both Michael Jackson and Justin Timberlake are ISFPs.
Why do we love the ISFP? Because the ISFP is continually interesting, profound, and often can see the BS we deal with. The ISFP when won can be one of the greatest friends and comrades, through never ending cycles of exploration. The ISFP has a great deal of soul to offer, and an emotional range that many wish they had because it seems highly in tune with spirituality. The ISFP can entertain us while also befriend and mystify us all. The detail oriented world view makes them interesting, and curious to watch. The layers of depth, the layers of shadow, the layers of soul make the personality both heavy and charming.