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A Grandparent Dies
teens have a hard time too
Teens don't always know what in the heck to do...they feel funny when older family members come up and pat them on the head, then there is the smell of flowers and the crowds of people. Some crying ,some laughing and some telling stories. It is okay to just act yourself and let your own feelings out. Tell jokes, laugh, remember the cakes she made, her wonderful smile, the trips you took together... and how much she loved you.
No two of us experience the loss of a grandparent in the same manner. Yet we all feel the loss of being left behind. Don't hide your feelings.Loss is real; it is wise to take it seriously, you have a right to them, and you have a duty to yourself to honor them.
Saying goodbye isn't always the chance you get, sometimes it happens quickly and unexpectly and you feel sad about this. But you can say goodbye with your good memories, writing a poem and read it at the services, or place a favorite item in the casket, place a song for them on your favorite instrument...take some time to express your deepest feelings, of either gratitude, disappointment, anger, joy or loss. Just find a way.
It can be a real challenge at the funeral, but they are important.As a teen facing someone's death isn't easy. You will be expected to attend as a ritual of your culture and tradition,but these are necessary and will bring meaning and comfort at this time of confusion and pain. " My advise is to have someone you love and trust stand by you". Don't worry if you are at a loss for words or don't know what to do, it's ok. Your presence is your most important contribution.
Give grief time. Life has a way of going on no matter how big the loss is you experienced. Time and care ( care from others, as well as the care you give yourself) will pull you through.
Be careful just how you deal with the emptiness though. People become angry, depressed, sad and may try to soothe these feelings with the use of alcohol,drugs or other not so good behavior. Remember you have family , friends, counselors willing to talk and let you face the death,because it always raises all sorts of questions.
Everything and everyone lives and dies. It is now how we live our lifes,try to remember what your grandparent would have been doing. Everyone has a fear of the unknown..So get your questions about life, death and the afterlife settled in your mind. And may your best memories of your grandparent live on in you. G-Ma :o) hugs