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Affirmations for a Happier Life

Updated on December 18, 2017

We all talk to ourselves, positively or negatively. In other words, you use affirmations whether you realise it or not. The affirmations you use are in the form of quotations, idioms, proverbs, sayings and knowledge that you've gained throughout your life as well as quotes from people who you've allowed to influence you either consciously or unconsciously.

Many of these are borrowed affirmations which are patterns or paradigms which you have allowed to shape your thinking. You can however consciously choose the affirmations that you want to shape your life.

An affirmation is a positive, believable thought that you choose to immerse in your consciousness to produce a desired result.

Rather than wade through the theory behind affirmations, let’s get right down to it and experience what we mean by affirmations and feel the impact almost immediately.

So before you read further, here’s a challenge for you. Read the following twenty affirmations OUT LOUD WITH ENERGY and take note of what resonates and how it makes you feel. In the space provided, read your name within each affirmation.

  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx take responsibility for my own happiness, right now and choose to concentrate on what I have instead of what I lack.
  • This is a big day for me! Nothing is more important than this day. Today is a wonderful day, everything works out for me. Today I’m successful, today I am happy, today I grow in love.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx take responsibility for my life. I am courageous, I act and make things happen. I embrace life and I choose to be happy.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx live as much of my life as I can right now! I find my greatest pleasure right here, in the moment, so whatever I am doing, I do as well as I can.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx commit myself to noticing when I rush. I can’t smell the roses if I am running past them. As soon as I notice myself rushing, I bring myself back to the present moment.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx find my happiness by living in the moment rather than demanding that situations, conditions, places, or people make me happy.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx live in truth, openness and integrity. I live my life on purpose and remain true to my values.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx make optimum use of my senses and live in a state of awareness, experiencing fully, all the wonderful facets of life. I trust and act on my intuition.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx enjoy the positive energy of health by giving and allowing my body appropriate nutrition, exercise, stimulation, relaxation and peace of mind.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx nurture friends by allowing them the freedom to be themselves, whilst giving them empathy, love and support. I grow my relationships with effective, honest and open communication.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx become what I think about all day long. The more attention I put on something that is positive, the better I feel. When I find myself trapped in my analytical mind, I drop my thoughts, clear my mind, and relax. I accept thoughts for what they are. There is no need to turn them into more than they really are or to take them too seriously.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx am happy with what is, rather than obsessing with what could be better.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx strive to be fully with the person I am with.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx distrust and dismiss my thoughts when I am low. I wait until my mood lifts which happens quickly when I don’t focus on negative thoughts.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx am gentle on myself. I treat myself with compassion, love, humour and acceptance, and above all, I am true to myself.
  • My energy is abundant, exciting, liberating, and affects everyone and everything around me in a positive way.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx am stronger than temptation. I assert my will, take control, and then relax and enjoy my life.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx support and nurture my friends and loved ones by allowing them the freedom to be themselves, whilst giving them complete love and support.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx project confidently and positively in all situations by using positive language, refraining from criticism and complaints, displaying a can-do attitude, and keeping my spirits high.
  • I xxxxxxxxxxxxxx let go - I choose confrontations only with absolute consciousness and good judgement.

How was that for you? And those were affirmations written by someone else! When you create your own, you’ll be amazed by the results. The use of affirmations rests on the concept that thought is creative, that what you think about, consciously or unconsciously, creates the world you inhabit.

Affirmations are clear, desirable, positive thoughts. You think affirmations deliberately and consciously to replace unclear, unwanted, negative thoughts.

The repetitive use of the affirmation will simultaneously make its impression on your mind and erase the old thought pattern, producing permanent desirable changes in your life. Thoughts produce results, and since realisations can very soon be discovered with this approach, the results are often startling. Be sure that you are willing to take on the added responsibilities, the new adventures and challenges that will manifest as a result of your breaking the old mould. The subconscious mind can be impressed like a piece of clay. It is helpful and more powerful to experience the feeling and the visualisation of the affirmation as you say or write it.

How to make affirmations work for you

There are numerous ways of using affirmations:

  • If you don’t believe your affirmation, it won’t work for you. If you are affirming that you are totally fit and healthy and you know you aren’t fit and healthy, there’s not much chance of you believing in the power of the affirmation. If you however change it to, “I am now willing to improve my health”, it could be totally believable and move you towards achieving your goal.
  • If the affirmation is not supported by ACTION, you’re probably wasting your time. If you’re affirming how healthy you are while lying around eating junk food and watching television every day, the chances are that you’ll never improve your health. If however you affirm this while going for a strenuous walk, you’ll probably stand a good chance of succeeding.
  • Work with one or more every day. The best times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel depressed or discouraged.
  • Look in the mirror and say them to yourself out loud. Keep saying them until you eliminate all facial tension and grimaces and are able to see yourself with a relaxed happy expression.
  • One way to play with affirmations is to select an affirmation you want to concentrate on, write it down and then write down the negative thoughts that comes to mind as you think about the affirmation. Keep writing the affirmation over and over until the negatives that come up are the same as ones you already have written down. Then turn each one of the negatives around into a positive statement, until you have a set of positive statements that all relate back to the affirmation you first chose.
  • Say or write each affirmation in the first, second, and the third person. Always remember to put your own name in the affirmation and keep it in the present tense. Writing in the second and third person is also very important since your conditioning from others came to you in this manner.
  • Continue working with the affirmations daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness. You will know this when your mind responds positively and you begin to experience the desired results.
  • Say the affirmations out loud. Hear them, take them in, experience them, let them work for you.
  • Record your affirmations and play them back whenever you can.
  • Sit across from a friend and say the affirmation to your friend until you are comfortable doing it. Then have him/her say it to you in the second person. Your partner can observe your body language carefully. He/she should not let you go onto a new affirmation until you say the first one very clearly without contradictory body reactions (squirming, fidgeting, laughing, etc.). Also he/she should continue to say it back to you in second person until you can receive it well without grief or embarrassment.
  • Make cards with your affirmations on them and place them where you'll see them at appropriate times.



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      Russ Baleson 5 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Hi Violet, you don't need luck :-D Just being conscious about what you are saying to yourself will make an immediate positive impact. And practising it with Ho'oponopono is an excellent idea. "Today is a wonderful day and I choose to have fun and be happy!" Thanks for youe comments. Russ x

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      Violet Flame 5 years ago from Auckland, NZ

      Hi Russ,

      I've just watched the movie Inception again the other night and it impressed on me that some of our unconscious seed-idea were planted so deep and so many layers down that it requires more consistent excavation and re-programming then the others. I was just wondering about what to do and Viola, here is your awesome hub about affirmation! Thank you so much! Have you heard of Ho'oponopono technique? It is a simple way to erasing old memory data. I am going to use the two hand-in-hand. Wish me luck! :-D

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      Russ Baleson 5 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Hi Zafar, that's the kind of feedback I love, it makes it all so worthwhile. Keep at it. Russ

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      Zafar Iqbal 5 years ago

      You have given me a great direction...absolutely amazing and stunning results.....Thanks Russ

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      Russ Baleson 6 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      :) glad it worked for you, thanks for the feedback.

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      Dipen 6 years ago

      It just Amazing.

      Ita makes me charge for new run long long & longer with full of positivity....


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      Russ Baleson 7 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Hi Roger, thanks for your comments. One of the reasons I write hubs like these is to help me to remember to put into practice, the good stuff that I know.

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      roger stone 7 years ago

      i love the internet and especially sites like this as it allows us to revisit stuff we know to be life enhancing but somehow forget about when life gets tough or we get busy. Thank you for sharing

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      Russ Baleson 7 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Thanks Tony, go well my friend. Russ

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      Tony McGregor 7 years ago from South Africa

      Good one, Russ! How did I miss this before. Bookmarked, of course!

      Hope you're well, my friend.

      Love and peace


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      Russ Baleson 7 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Hi Jasmine, yes I agree, affirmations is the daily pill with positive side-effects and long-lasting impact. Thank you. Russ

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      Jasmine 7 years ago

      many people are quick to take a pill when feelling low, confusing our negative thoughts with depression. I feel happy and thus have a more positive outlook on life when I do my DAILY affirmations!

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Thanks Mike, much appreciated.

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      Mike Dennis 8 years ago

      Yes,,,,I love this HUB. I work with affirmations too and we all need reminding. Thanks for sharing.

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      You are welcome, hope it helps.

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      metaphysician 8 years ago

      Thanks for the list of self affirmations that you compiled up there. Just need it at the moment of this writings..

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Hi again Mpumi, I've just realised that my friend Tony wote about you in a recent hub! Great story.

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Thanks Mpumi, yes, it has such an impact growing up in this kind of atmosphere. I didn't but like you, I brought my daughters up as consciously as I could. I still have a tape recording of them when they were about two and three year's old, singing an affirmation to my mum: "Today is a wonderfl day, everything works out for me. Today I'm successful, today I am happy, today I grow in love. My friends thought I was crazy!

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      Mpumi Bikitsha 8 years ago

      I like this. I grew up in a home where all 7 of us were validated in a way that we grew to love ourselves. I practised this with my children when I suddenly found myself a single mom after my husband's death in 1988. I didn't know it at the time but I was very conscious of how I brought them up to be positive people who affirmed their circumstance every turn of the way. It has paid dividends. Thanks Russ for reviving this for us.

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      mike king 8 years ago from california

      nicely done sir.

      I appreciate what you have done to set up your advertising.

      Mainly, though, I like the way you embrace life.

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Hi Erin, thank you, you definitely didn't write too much. Reading your poem 'And I love You' was inspirational. More please!

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      erin boote 8 years ago from Wilkes Barre, Pennsylvania

      Russ, Thanks for reinforcing a great practice that I used to partake of several years ago and for whatever reason..just forgot about. There has never been a time in my life when I needed to read this than the present time. I have printed it so that I can use the various affirmations as needed, and promised myself to resurrect this habit for a beautifully happy & positive life. I love self-improvement reading and the like so I will be back to your hubs often!! i'M New to this so I hope I didn't write too much!

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      Amanda Severn 8 years ago from UK

      Hi Russ,

      I have a box of cards based on the Teachings of Abraham which I like to ponder on. They're very similar to your affirmations in many ways. It's good to walk on the sunny side, and your article is teaching us to do just that. Nice work!

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Thank you all. Wonderful thing about affirming positively is that it seems to be infectiuous. See, positive affirmations work in many ways :)

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      Whikat 8 years ago

      Thank you so much for this article. I love affirmations, and used to do them all the time, this last couple weeks I have forgetten to do them. I can see the difference in my mindset and attitude if I do not do them. I am bookmarking this hub. Thanks again for reminding me of the wonderful things in life again. :-)

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      Feline Prophet 8 years ago

      This is so uplifting! Sometimes we need affirmations more than others, but really what we need is to make them part of our daily lives.

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      Hey Russ

      This was a cool hub. I hope many people would read this, specially those who feel alone with nobody around to given them affirmations. Thanks for sharing :D

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      Russ Baleson 8 years ago from Sandhurst, United Kingdom

      Thanks Frieda, what a great comment, thank you.

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      I love this. Terrific affermations and tips on how to make them work. That last part being the key of course. I'm going to try this when I'm feeling low, Russ. Thanks for these. Inspires me to make some of my own for use as well. Hope you're having a most beautiful day.