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Being Selfish is Great
The Positive Side of Being Selfish
As children, we were told that being selfish was equivalent to being wicked, heartless, and bad by parents, teachers, relatives, and religious authorities. We were endlessly indoctrinated that the epitome of being worthwhile people was to be self-abnegating and altruisitc. This goes against human values. We are by nature selfish. If we were not selfish beings, we have not have survived as a species. Looking out for oneself is paramount for survival.
The value of altruism is a hypocritical one. Self-interest is a normal part of development. It shows being alive and a concern for one's self being and preservation. People who are selfish are less likely to be taken advantage of than people who are altruistic. People who are selfish are also assertive, know how to speak up for themselves, and to draw appropriate boundaries. They know how to respect themselves which result in other people respecting them. People who are selfish have the most success in life. They know what they want and how to obtain their goals. They do not expect others to do things for them. They believe in being self-starters, doing things for themselves. They are proactive people instead of being passive.
Anyone who believes that selfishness is bad is surely making poor judgement. Look at people who achieve great success- they are selfish in that they believe in utilizing their potential in life, career, financially, and emotionally. These people believe in living life at full gusto and not halfway. People, in fact, respect selfish people more often than altruistic people in that selfish people are more honest in expressing their wants and desires unabashedly.
Selfish people do not bother people nor are they are drain upon them. Selfish people see nothing wrong in putting themselves first which is perfectly normal. People who usually put other people first are seen as doormats and are not respected. Altruistic people tend to be taken advantage of by other people who see their kindness as weakness. Furthermore, altruistic people do not succeed in the working world. They are the people who get put upon by co-workers and bosses and they seldom, if ever, get promoted. They are the drones of the world. Also being altruistic is a sign of a masochistic disorder.
Although altruistic people are praised publicly by society, secretly they are despised as being fools. Altruistic people are the so-called nice people who have no boundaries. If a parent wants his/her child to be considered a patsy and/or failure, teach that child to be altruistic. Altruistic people are more subjected to spousal abuse because they cannot say no and they would put up with anything. In contrast, selfish people do not tolerate spousal or any type of abuse and are not hesitant to say so.
On the whole, selfish people are happier and more successful in life than altruistic people. Selfish people are also the happiest and most successful people. They know what they want out of life and make no apologies to anyone. They believe that life is to be enjoyed, savored, and to be lived passionately without any apologies.