Bullies of the Past: Looking at it From a Different Perspective
I’ve been seeing a lot of memes and quotes all over twitter about the ‘expired’ version of someone versus the ‘updated’ or ‘new and improved’ version.
It’s an interesting way of looking at things and it makes me realise that a lot of people from my past have changed.
Yes, it shouldn’t be that surprising but when I think about those high school bullies it is hard to imagine that they are different. But it’s been nearly ten years and they are most likely nice people now.
It blows my mind to think about it like that because the fact is I’ve been holding onto anger towards past versions of those people. This makes me realise it’s a version of them that no longer exists, so there is no point being angry anymore.
I Never Knew Them
I also realise that I never got to see who they truly were. All I saw were mean angry teens, I never thought that something else could have been going on in their lives to make them act that way.
I never got to see whether they had a good family environment or a stable home. I don’t even know if they had a good relationship with their parents because I only saw the side they wanted me to see and nothing more.
I’m not saying all of them are the kindest people now because the town I come from is a very dramatic and gossipy place, so it's hard to get out of that negative mindset that even I use to have.
The Town of Bullies
In my home town no one minds their own business and they thrive on drama because there isn't much to do.
I’ve heard many stories about people pretending to like each other and then they backstab one another. Do they think they’re on The Real Housewives show or something? Seriously, that is how they act.
So, I understand why so many of the people I grew up with were ‘bullies’ because they grew up with parents who were ‘bullies’.
And I know that unfortunately a lot of them are still acting that way even though they are grown adults. But like I said, they’re bored in that town.
But hey, I could be wrong, maybe they no longer participate in that sort of BS. Maybe everyone gets along and is becoming better role models for their children/grandchildren. Who knows.
It's Been Years
I want to give them the benefit of the doubt because it’s been a long time and there is no way they haven’t changed and grown. But I also wonder if maybe they weren’t ever bullies, maybe they were just making mean jokes and didn’t think it would hurt my feelings. Perhaps I was being too sensitive.
Whatever the case was, I have no doubt in my mind that they have grown and gone through their own issues and matured from it.
I truly believe that they have changed and grown, but how much? I do not know.