Cyber Bullying: From My View and Experience
There Has Been A Lot Of Things Going On...
Since I have published issues on race, I have received some backlash from people who felt like I have touched a nerve or two. Mind you, I did not mentioned anything "radical" that suggest killing, demeaning nor inciting a riot at all. I just spoke the truth about it, whether people would want to hear about it or not. A few people (who I will not mention any of their names) instead wanted to "attack" me on my views. What I meant by "attack" is resorting to name-calling, going off the subject of what I initially talked about in my hub in a disrespectful matter, almost as if they are patronizing me. And then when I do respond to their views, they just seemed to get more infuriated. Now I do not mind a good debate (or two) and people do have a right to have a different opinion, but I do not condone being disrespected in any way, shape or form. Which brings me to the subject of cyber bullying in the adult world as well as the psychology behind it.
What is bullying?
Bullying in a nutshell, is aggressive behavior towards another individual. It contains various forms of abuse such as physical, mental and emotional. Examples could include name-calling, inflicting harm on someone, making an effort to humiliate their victim at any cost and constant harassment.
Why people bully or feel the need to attack people on the Internet?
It is the fact that the internet gives people the opportunity of being anonymous. After all, the person that is being bullied does not know their full names, their address, or sometimes even their faces. One of the main reasons why there are e-bullies is because they feel inadequate about themselves. Unlike teenagers, adults' pre-frontal cortex (the part of the brain that deals with consequences) is fully developed. In adults that bully others, they feel that in order to feel important about themselves and to "make their mark" in the world, they feel that they need to attack others instead of checking their own insecurities. In the case of Internet bullies, which I affectionately call them "Internet gangstas" (due to the fact that most of them would not dare to insult or attack me to my face), has a similar reasoning, but they are more cowardly in nature. They thrive on throwing insults just to receive attention. Their behavior is often the result of their innermost conflicts. Sometimes it isn't even the person that they personally have a problem with, but with themselves. Most of these "internet gangstas" would never dare to come to someone's face and make a comment.
Shaynadc89, why are you addressing this now? Aren't you giving these e-bullies some satisfaction that you are acknowledging them?
I wanted to address this mainly because it has been on my mind lately and I would not be myself if I pretend that this does not exist, because in reality, it does. After all, I am only human. As for the e-bullies, I personally do not care what they might think of me at this point because besides writing hubs, I also have other things going on in my life. These are the kind of people who are unhappy with themselves and feel the need to make others feel just as miserable as they are. As for the comments that were made in my other hubs about racism, I think those who did support me and understood what I meant know what I have mentioned is indeed factual and I will stick to it. Like the old saying goes, "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything".
What were these e-bullies trying to prove?
Like I said, they feel inadequate about themselves. I guess in my case, I can only make a few assumptions. For one, I have touched a nerve that revealed the dark side of themselves, thought I might be an easy target and they wanted a negative reaction out of me. I would think it would be because of the fact that they wanted me to be the "ignorant black woman", which I will touch up on that topic on another date. I refuse to give them that satisfaction of letting them "see me sweat". And I also refuse to play the role of a victim because it shows to those types of people that they win. Instead, I will be victorious.
The Moral of the Story Is...
Anyone who has gone through cyber bullying should know that they should have the right to speak their mind on subjects that interests them, whether you post videos on Youtube, write articles on Hubpages or other blogs. Do not let anyone dictate to you about your own belief system. Like I have mentioned, if you don't stand for what you believe in and stick to your guns, you will fall for anything. Just know that these type of people who engage in cyber bullying are not secure in their own skin and feel the need to put their own insecurities on others. Don't let them see you sweat.
For those who want to argue that people having different opinions on a particular subject: You do have a right to your opinion, it is how you say it. It is okay to enlighten someone on your ideas and beliefs respectfully. We are all adults here (well most of us) and we can be able to agree to disagree and we can still respect each other by the end of the day.